Hi, I undersatnd what you say. I´ve been here for a very short time but it seems that every time I try a site like this one, they all seem to be the same. There are always people who write "want to meet friends" on their profiles and "nudge" and never send you an e-mail and they don´t really seem interested in getting to know you at all. I mean..... it is what it is.. a site on the internet. But I´m sick and tired of listening that the internet allows people to be "closer" to each other, we are all here but the COMMUNICATION (Which is the part I AM INTERESTED IN) seems to be missing...

It´s frustrating, I know and I can totally relate to what you said. I still get e-mails from people who apparently haven´t read my profile at all and have decided to ignore everything I wrote there (which makes me angry- it´s not a hell of a profile but it says I´m not interested in getting a boyfriend!)

guess we have no other option than "keep participating in the forums" (which seems to be the golden rule around here)and keep wishing for the best.
And rememebr, there´s always another site, (for us to get frustrated all over again...)

in the meantime, try to have fun and meet real people in real life (which is not that easy by the way...)

You make a good point. I have read where some women want a man who knows what he wants.

So how many things do you think a man should be after?

Resistance is Futile!

I heard that.

I'm just an old whure. I give it up to women here, in the frozen food section and pretty much any street corner.

If hanging out with these good people who I consider to be my friends is a "waste of time"

...then yeah...you should probably go. You may have better luck picking up some @$$ in line at your local Wal-Mart.

Marian....this thing takes patience....

If you ordered a guitar from a mail order company on the day you joined...you would still be waiting for 4-6 weeks.

You ain't ordering a lover here. You EARN a lover here....and I don't care how hot you may be, it is gonna take time and patience and the resolve to earn you some love.

None of us have love served on silver splatter.....it is earned. If you want love....be prepared darling....it is gonna be alot of lonely nights....it is gonna be a lot of tears in the darkness. It is gonna be alot of feeling very much alone.....

Then someone will come along and fk it all up by making you fall in love.

The harder you try....the less you do.

If you think this place ain't working...you should probably disconnect the dots and be on your way.

My advice....hang on Baby.....you ain't here for easy..cause "easy" has failed you. Earn some love and respect lil mama....it takes some work...but Baby.....it is worth it.

lmfao..... right... the same church that ostracized me because I divorced the x... the same church we went to as a married couple. I was diseased...aka divorced. In the itty bitty town I'm in... there aren't lot of people.. most of them are geriatrics.. yeah. church is the LAST place to meet people.

Oh my, the church still does that? One would think they would "forgive" as Christians and help you heal, my goodness, no wonder they are losing so many from organized religion. I can sit and watch in the comfort of my home but still, if it was that easy to go and meet people we would all not be here now would we?? To get advice with people still in the same boat as me is like asking a hungry man where to get food?...I just don;t know, and I still keep the faith, the alternative is depressing to me.

I learned to accept a dating site for what it truly is. Yeah, you converse with people from all walks of life. But on a site like Mingle, it truly is a numbers game. Sure. You could start talking to someone. Spend a week talking to them, like them and what they say, but then someone else comes along and you are intrigued. So you spend less time talking to the original person and focus more on the new person. I mean...this is how it works on here. Not all the time, but I believe that when you get stood up or someone comes up with a lame *** excuse not to meet...well...you can pretty much boil it down to they found someone else who was more interesting. I dunno...it's tricky, but then again, dating in general is. Think Krupa mentioned that it takes time, and that is so true. But anyways, it can be frustrating.

TRUE THAT BRO!

I was on a date recently that didn't go so hot. Won't get into minuet details of it, just didn't go so well. Dating is just hard. Probably one of the hardest things in life. With a dating site or not. Mingle is definitely not like other sites out there. You take it or you leave it, then come back when you need it again. So...giving up on dating? Its up to you, everything in life requires patience. Let's be honest here, no one wants a clingy, desparate person as a companion. Although some may love that type but the vast majority of human units don't find it their cup of tea. You can't force chemistry, you can't make someone like you. Maybe post a little bit and someone out there may see you and want to go from there. But I understand your frustration. Its not the real deal until you meet them. Remember that.

100% Agree with bits I've edited.

I would recommend that as well.

Dont give up and your not wasting your time. I have been on this site for several years and all I have to show for it is a lot of laughs and some great friends which I would not trade for anything. Well maybe for a girlfriend lmao. Seriously though just relax and have fun and the right guy will show up when you least expect it

Hey, we have something in common, almost. I use this site to waste time. When I want to meet someone, I go out IRL and do that. In fact, it's really easy to meet someone. I just have to be willing to accept that my daughter will get top billing and that I will be that goofy looking side-kick used mostly for comic relief. Of course, for her protection, I am VERY observant of mothers and how they handle their children. What they do to their own, they will do to mine if we start dating.

All u have 2 do is 2 try and give de ones dat message u a chance and see all men are nt de same,it is nt must 4 u 2 get ur man but all u have 2 do is 2 trust and follow ur heart am intrested if u will give me a chance