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Topic: IF you knew someone was lying to someone...
Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Sat 05/19/12 04:52 PM
I think creeps will continue to deceive unsuspecting people unless people do speak up. I would risk a friendship to keep her safe. That is just me. My conscious would eat away at me, if I didn't say something and something really really bad happened. Unfortunately speaking up won't stop the creeps, but it will help to keep you, your friends, and your loved ones safe.

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Sat 05/19/12 04:57 PM
I think creeps will continue to deceive unsuspecting people unless people do speak up. I would risk a friendship to keep her safe. That is just me. My conscious would eat away at me, if I didn't say something and something really really bad happened. Unfortunately speaking up won't stop the creeps, but it will help to keep you, your friends, and your loved ones safe.

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Sat 05/19/12 04:58 PM
I would want to know and would tell the person. I consider it lying and a bad deception to not say something. If a friend knew and didn't tell me, then they aren't a friend anymore. What if they didn't tell you because they were afraid they would lose your friendship if you chose not to leave the person who was deceiving you?...It does happen you know and quite frequently.... If I lose a friend like that, they were never really a friend. I won't lose any sleep over someone getting upset with me, when I was just looking out for them. I think true friends are few and far...It would devastate me to lose a true friend over something that could have been prevented so it would be a huge consideration for me if I was thinking about blowing whistle....This whole scenario could be a monumental Catch 22 if you ask me... I'm not afraid to lose a friend to do what I feel is the right thing to do in my heart. I think a friend will tell you things even if they're not what you want to hear. I think a true friend would risk friendship to protect you. If you tell a true friend something like that and they get mad, they will eventually get over it and things will be patched up between the two of you. How do you know that things will eventually be alright? How do you know they won't be? I don't...that is where the risk comes in...

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Sat 05/19/12 05:00 PM
I think creeps will continue to deceive unsuspecting people unless people do speak up. I would risk a friendship to keep her safe. That is just me. My conscious would eat away at me, if I didn't say something and something really really bad happened. I like that banana better than the other one!!!

RKISIT Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 16721	Sat 05/19/12 05:04 PM
If they were like my bestest favorite friend thingy in the whole world,dam skippy i'd tell them.Especially if that other person i knew to be a fake. <------types the guy with no pic

lilangel2 Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 9096	Sat 05/19/12 05:07 PM
I think creeps will continue to deceive unsuspecting people unless people do speak up. I would risk a friendship to keep her safe. That is just me. My conscious would eat away at me, if I didn't say something and something really really bad happened. I like that banana better than the other one!!! Yeah, this one is more like me...SEXY banana!

lilangel2 Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 9096	Sat 05/19/12 05:09 PM
Speaking up might not stop ALL creeps. But, it sure will put a damper on that particular one at that particular moment.

EquusDancer Joined Sun 04/05/09 Posts: 6281	Sun 05/20/12 03:47 AM
I would want to know and would tell the person. I consider it lying and a bad deception to not say something. If a friend knew and didn't tell me, then they aren't a friend anymore. How is it lying or deception if they don't tell you? Lying by omission is still a lie.

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Sun 05/20/12 05:55 AM
I would want to know and would tell the person. I consider it lying and a bad deception to not say something. If a friend knew and didn't tell me, then they aren't a friend anymore. How is it lying or deception if they don't tell you? Lying by omission is still a lie. But, I don't think that would be lying by omission if you didn't tell. Unless you didn't tell to make the person look good or something.

tombraider Joined Wed 09/12/07 Posts: 5042	Sun 05/20/12 06:01 AM
i have seen friend turn against friend where affairs of the heart are concerned,i find that these situations are best left to run their course with mouth shut,altho i will sit by and watch the drama unfold i won't allow myself to be a member of the cast..just remember to stock up on the popcorn and jujubes..

irisheyes79 Joined Sat 11/10/07 Posts: 16745	Sun 05/20/12 11:59 AM
i would tell in a quick min lol

Spidercmb Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 13137	Sun 05/20/12 01:22 PM
And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.

lilangel2 Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 9096	Sun 05/20/12 01:27 PM
i would tell in a quick min lol So, we are just a couple of tattle tails

Optomistic69 Joined Mon 10/10/11 Posts: 5173	Sun 05/20/12 01:46 PM
I am forever grateful to someone who did exactly that for me. It is commonly known as having a conscience. Truth should never be avoided if at all possible It sometimes hurts but it is the liars that are responsible.

Cynicalorange Joined Sun 05/20/12 Posts: 12	Sun 05/20/12 01:50 PM
If you knew for a fact that someone on a dating or social network site was NOT at all who they claimed to be and you knew this person was lying to someone you consider a good friend, would you pass on that info or feel they are adults and should find out on their own? If someone was to get hurt, then I would drop a hint. Make them question the person, about it.

Optomistic69 Joined Mon 10/10/11 Posts: 5173	Sun 05/20/12 02:04 PM
And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free. I am not at all religious but I go with that setiment

lilangel2 Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 9096	Tue 05/22/12 06:15 AM
If you knew for a fact that someone on a dating or social network site was NOT at all who they claimed to be and you knew this person was lying to someone you consider a good friend, would you pass on that info or feel they are adults and should find out on their own? If someone was to get hurt, then I would drop a hint. Make them question the person, about it. ..and another and another if they don't quite get it

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 05/22/12 06:16 AM
If you knew for a fact that someone on a dating or social network site was NOT at all who they claimed to be and you knew this person was lying to someone you consider a good friend, would you pass on that info or feel they are adults and should find out on their own? I'd pass the info along, as I would want to know if I were in their position.

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Tue 05/22/12 07:34 AM
it also depends upon the 'lie' that they are married with kids? yes, I need to share that, its pretty urgent information that they have a criminal past, well, if it has to do with past relationships that cause me to think my friend is endangered,, yes if its something that has nothing to do with them being 'dangerous', I stay out of it and let that person decide the right time to bring it up sometimes people need the right time to share something, but others may call it 'deceptive' because they didnt immediately share it its really a case by case situation, that needs to be assessed just that way,,,,

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 05/22/12 07:37 AM
I would want to know and would tell the person. I consider it lying and a bad deception to not say something. If a friend knew and didn't tell me, then they aren't a friend anymore. How is it lying or deception if they don't tell you? Lying by omission is still a lie. But, I don't think that would be lying by omission if you didn't tell. Unless you didn't tell to make the person look good or something. It wouldn't be telling the truth, though. If a good friend knew something about someone I was dating and didn't tell me, I'd probably be mad that they withheld that information.