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| Topic: IF you knew someone was lying to someone... | |
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I would want to know and would tell the person. I consider it lying and a bad deception to not say something. If a friend knew and didn't tell me, then they aren't a friend anymore. What if they didn't tell you because they were afraid they would lose your friendship if you chose not to leave the person who was deceiving you?...It does happen you know and quite frequently.... If I lose a friend like that, they were never really a friend. I won't lose any sleep over someone getting upset with me, when I was just looking out for them. |
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Edited by
Leigh2154
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I would want to know and would tell the person. I consider it lying and a bad deception to not say something. If a friend knew and didn't tell me, then they aren't a friend anymore. What if they didn't tell you because they were afraid they would lose your friendship if you chose not to leave the person who was deceiving you?...It does happen you know and quite frequently.... If I lose a friend like that, they were never really a friend. I won't lose any sleep over someone getting upset with me, when I was just looking out for them. I think true friends are few and far...It would devastate me to lose a true friend over something that could have been prevented so it would be a huge consideration for me if I was thinking about blowing whistle....This whole scenario could be a monumental Catch 22 if you ask me... |
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It is a catch 22. If the circumstances were he/she was a felon or something, out to con them, then I'd have to say something.
But it they are just a lying piece of chit, is it really my business? I mean, they are an adult right, and can take care of themselves? |
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It is a catch 22. If the circumstances were he/she was a felon or something, out to con them, then I'd have to say something. But it they are just a lying piece of chit, is it really my business? I mean, they are an adult right, and can take care of themselves? Yep...In fact, some people don't mind hooking up a lying piece of chit and that is their business.....To each his own.... |
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I would want to know and would tell the person. I consider it lying and a bad deception to not say something. If a friend knew and didn't tell me, then they aren't a friend anymore. What if they didn't tell you because they were afraid they would lose your friendship if you chose not to leave the person who was deceiving you?...It does happen you know and quite frequently.... If I lose a friend like that, they were never really a friend. I won't lose any sleep over someone getting upset with me, when I was just looking out for them. I think true friends are few and far...It would devastate me to lose a true friend over something that could have been prevented so it would be a huge consideration for me if I was thinking about blowing whistle....This whole scenario could be a monumental Catch 22 if you ask me... I'm not afraid to lose a friend to do what I feel is the right thing to do in my heart. I think a friend will tell you things even if they're not what you want to hear. I think a true friend would risk friendship to protect you. If you tell a true friend something like that and they get mad, they will eventually get over it and things will be patched up between the two of you. |
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Well then I guess my best friend I grew up with wasn't.
Experience makes me wary of commenting. |
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I would want to know and would tell the person. I consider it lying and a bad deception to not say something. If a friend knew and didn't tell me, then they aren't a friend anymore. What if they didn't tell you because they were afraid they would lose your friendship if you chose not to leave the person who was deceiving you?...It does happen you know and quite frequently.... If I lose a friend like that, they were never really a friend. I won't lose any sleep over someone getting upset with me, when I was just looking out for them. I think true friends are few and far...It would devastate me to lose a true friend over something that could have been prevented so it would be a huge consideration for me if I was thinking about blowing whistle....This whole scenario could be a monumental Catch 22 if you ask me... I'm not afraid to lose a friend to do what I feel is the right thing to do in my heart. I think a friend will tell you things even if they're not what you want to hear. I think a true friend would risk friendship to protect you. If you tell a true friend something like that and they get mad, they will eventually get over it and things will be patched up between the two of you. How do you know that things will eventually be alright? |
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They eventually didn't go alright for me, been 40 years now.
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Well then I guess my best friend I grew up with wasn't. Experience makes me wary of commenting.  My experience is that most people in my age range, guys and gals, say the same thing when something like this comes up...Stay the h*ll out of it.....I tend to agree...
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They eventually didn't go alright for me, been 40 years now.
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Yes, I agree. CONCRETE evidence would definitely have to be available before I would accuse anyone. I am not like that. But, the topic is if YOU DO HAVE that evidence and that person lied to is a GOOD friend.
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They eventually didn't go alright for me, been 40 years now.
It's okay, but hard to lose a friend you grew up through grade school and chasing girls as teenagers with. I often wonder how he came out (married with children, hurt -he was a policeman- or ok?)? |
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They eventually didn't go alright for me, been 40 years now.
It's okay, but hard to lose a friend you grew up through grade school and chasing girls as teenagers with. I often wonder how he came out (married with children, hurt -he was a policeman- or ok?)? Have you tried to find him and re connect?...FB maybe?... 
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They eventually didn't go alright for me, been 40 years now.
It's okay, but hard to lose a friend you grew up through grade school and chasing girls as teenagers with. I often wonder how he came out (married with children, hurt -he was a policeman- or ok?)? Have you tried to find him and re connect?...FB maybe?...
I tried and can't find him. Last I knew he worked for Wichita Falls in Texas but the police department won't confirm/deny it. |
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I would want to know and would tell the person. I consider it lying and a bad deception to not say something. If a friend knew and didn't tell me, then they aren't a friend anymore. What if they didn't tell you because they were afraid they would lose your friendship if you chose not to leave the person who was deceiving you?...It does happen you know and quite frequently.... If I lose a friend like that, they were never really a friend. I won't lose any sleep over someone getting upset with me, when I was just looking out for them. I think true friends are few and far...It would devastate me to lose a true friend over something that could have been prevented so it would be a huge consideration for me if I was thinking about blowing whistle....This whole scenario could be a monumental Catch 22 if you ask me... I'm not afraid to lose a friend to do what I feel is the right thing to do in my heart. I think a friend will tell you things even if they're not what you want to hear. I think a true friend would risk friendship to protect you. If you tell a true friend something like that and they get mad, they will eventually get over it and things will be patched up between the two of you. How do you know that things will eventually be alright? How do you know they won't be? |
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Edited by
Leigh2154
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Sat 05/19/12 04:52 PM
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Yes, I agree. CONCRETE evidence would definitely have to be available before I would accuse anyone. I am not like that. But, the topic is if YOU DO HAVE that evidence and that person lied to is a GOOD friend. If I had the evidence that it was a safety issue, for examply a conviction record that could jeopardize my friends well being or a health issue that could put my friend at risk of certain STD's, then yes, I would talk..What I am trying to say is I would be very, very selective about what would cause me to interfere...Love is a very strong tie that binds, it can also be blind....too many things can go wrong when you insert yourself into a romantic relationship even when it is done with the best of intentions, even when it is done out of "love" for your friend...
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Edited by
Leigh2154
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Sat 05/19/12 04:49 PM
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Edited by
Leigh2154
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Yes, I agree. CONCRETE evidence would definitely have to be available before I would accuse anyone. I am not like that. But, the topic is if YOU DO HAVE that evidence and that person lied to is a GOOD friend. If I had the evidence that it was a safety issue, for examply a conviction record that could jepordize my friends well being or a health issue that could put my friend at risk of certain STD's, then yes, I would talk..What I am trying to say is I would be very, very selective about what would cause me to interfere...Love is a very strong tie that binds, it can also be blind....too many things can go wrong when you insert yourself into a romantic relationship even when it is done with the best of intentions, even when it is done out of "love" foe your friend...
I agree. You don't want to be jumping to conclusions, making accusations, etc. I wouldn't say something that was based only on my gut feeling or anything, unless they asked, then I make very clear that it's only based on my gut or something, not on facts. |
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I think creeps will continue to deceive unsuspecting people unless people do speak up. I would risk a friendship to keep her safe. That is just me. My conscious would eat away at me, if I didn't say something and something really really bad happened.
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