Watching porn? No.

Sexting ,cybersex and phone sex are all with someone else. Definitely not the same as just watching porn.

1. Of course they are, it happens all the time.

2. No, show me solid scientific proof, if you think otherwise.

3. Different people have different reasons, there's no one set answer for all.

4. Yes, but the relationship would be ended, and no second chance would be given, we would simply part ways on peaceful terms.

5. Not ATM

Okay, guys, help a stupid alien out... what exactly do you call "sexting"?

It's texting with sexual content. I.E. dirty talking thorugh texts.

You're not a stupid alien.

Thank you so much *curtsy* - sometimes I feel like I am...

Is that on the cell phone only, or does what we call hot chatting or cybersex, too?

many stay faithful; but half of people don't.

Many lack morals and character and they "live life with no regrets" and just do whatever they want without a conscious or remorse.

Sick of people blaming marriage for cheaters. NO cheaters cheat because they are selfish and immature and arrogant. Don't blame marriage.

No, it has a lot to do with respect for my partner... I do willingly give up some of my freedoms, because I feel I get a whole lot more back, and if I love, I don't want to hurt my partner... So I try and find out what works, and what doesn't. And after I found that out, I can make my decision - can *I* give what my partner needs? Can my partner give what *I* need?

And according to that, I give my goddamnedest to fulfill those expectations... There may be (Heck there ARE) times when I can't live up to my or her standards, and then it may become neccessary to reconsider... and quitting is always an option then. But a losing the respect towards her is NEVER an option, because, after all, it makes not only HER smaller than she deserves to be (After all, she wqas good enough to fall in love with her), but also it makes ME smaller... So I rather end something that I can not live up to, than try to keep up something in a way that will sooner or later destroy either her or me or both of us...

Did we speak about cussing somewhere lately???

I found this article on Yahoo today.
Its the 12 myths of cheating

http://m.yahoo.com/w/ygo-frontpage/lp/story/ca/190182/coke.bp%3B_ylt=A2KL8y4oqGpP6yoAtx8p89w4%3B_ylu=X3oDMTFyam8xc3U4BGNwb3MDMgRjc2VjA21vYmlsZS10ZARpbnRsA2NhBHBrZwNpZC0xOTAxODIEcG9zAzEEc2xrA3RodW1i?ref_w=frontdoors&.tsrc=yahoo&.ysid=vfgRavjTZBxr4TyLO_4yjgMp&.intl=CA&.lang=en-ca

Here is what it said : and apparently its only 11... Bad editing on their part

Do men cheat more often than women? Should you confess if you've had an affair? Is cheating always about sex? Read on for the top 12 infidelity myths and the truth—or lack thereof!—behind them.

Myth #1: People cheat because they're unhappy at home. If you're female, this is usually the case. Women in long-term marriages who are having affairs report low satisfaction with their marriage. For men, on the other hand, that's not necessarily the case. Many men who love their partners and have great sex at home never turn down an opportunity for a bit on the side if they think they can get away with it. In one study, 56 percent of cheating men surveyed said their marriages were very happy. Only 34 percent of unfaithful women agreed.

Myth #2: Men cheat much more than women do. This used to be the case, but now the infidelity scales are balancing out. Why? Women cheat for the same reasons as men: It's someone new. It's naughty (and therefore nice). But there are other reasons women cite: The affair was a "reward" for being an unappreciated wife and mother or for putting up with a partner who wasn't affectionate, didn't listen or ignored them. It was an "ego boost." (Gone are the days when we'd treat ourselves to a new lipstick or haircut to cheer ourselves up.) We're still not as blase about affairs as men—women are more likely to feel guilty—but given that studies show we're much better at lying, we're also more likely to get away with it.
It's also a myth that it's men who try to turn friendships into affairs. Most unfaithful men see affairs as high opportunity and low involvement. On the contrary, it tends to be women who push platonic relationships from friendship to love and fantasy to reality, according to psychologists. Women get more emotionally involved and are keen to test out friendships to determine if they'd make for better relationships than their current situations. Soshe'soften seeking a potential soul mate;he'sjust having fun.

Myth #3: Affairs are mostly about sex. Some affairs are about sex and most certainly include sex because sex with someone else is forbidden, making it very appealing. But sex is not always thereasonpeople cheat. Affairs are a way for people to get something they'renotgetting from the relationship they're in. It's that simple. What's not so simple is defining what it is that's missing. In fact, oftentimes the cheating partner isn't aware of it. Some people are searching for something they lost as a child, others for lost youth. Some people cheat on "perfect" partners because they're sick of perfection. It's not always about sex.

Myth #4: If he cheats on you, he doesn't love you. It may feel that way, but it's not necessarily the case. It does, however, mean he doesn't respect you enough to honor the commitment you've made to one another and that he has a different value system than yours. Some people are more than capable of separating sex from love and physically sleeping with someone else doesn't affect their love for you. Generally, men tend to have sex-based affairs, not emotional or "love-based" affairs. But, the decision you need to make is whether his definition of love is enough for you.

M yth #5: Sex with an ex isn't cheating because you've been there, done that.Sleeping with an ex is the sexual slip-up people most commonly expect to get away with. It doesn't feel like you're being unfaithful—it's not as if it's with someone new who might expect the sex to turn into a relationship—right? Wrong. Sadly, this is exactly why sex with an ex can have disastrous consequences. You might be having a shag for old times sake, but your ex may be doing it as a desperate bid to rekindle the relationship. So you have to break it off (again) and explain to your current partner why you're suddenly getting e-mails or calls from him after all this time. The chances of getting found out are actually higher than if you'd had sex with a stranger because strangers won't feel the need to write a long, incriminating closure e-mail.

Myth #6: You can affair-proof your relationship. You can lower the chances of an affair in your relationship, but there are never any guarantees. The next best thing? Choose the right partner. Choosing the right person is more important than keeping them happy once you've got them because things like morals, values systems and family backgrounds are much stronger influences on whether someone will cheat (or not).
Myth #7: If he has a history of cheating, he'll probably cheat on you too. This one is almost always true. If your partner's cheated on almost everyone they've been out with—and nothing has happened to make them rethink their behavior—they'll almost certainly do the same to you.

Myth #8: You should always confess if you've had an affair. If the affair is known or strongly suspected, you're better off telling. You've got more chance of rescuing your relationship after a voluntary confession than after an unwanted discovery. But if it's unlikely to be discovered, there are also valid reasons for keeping your mouth shut. For example, some experts will advise you not to tell if your partner's not the strongest person emotionally. News of an affair isn't exactly going to give them a leg up on that steep, bumpy road to high self-esteem!
Telling is going to wipe out any trust they'd mustered up, and it could take years to rebuild (if, indeed, that's possible). Instead, work out why you had the affair in the first place. What were you getting from it that you aren't getting from the relationship you're in? Is it possible to create that with the person you're already with?
The worst possible reason to confess an affair is to make yourself feel better. True, it will lift the guilt off your shoulders. But it will plonk a whole heap of pain on your partner's. You made the mistake, now deal with the consequences.

M yth #9: Cheating doesn't count if no one finds out about it. Does
cheating really matter if there's absolutely no chance you'd ever get found out, you will never see the person again, you had safe sex, it meant nothing and you told no one? It completely depends on your personality. If you genuinely see nothing wrong with what you did, it probably doesn't. There's just one problem with this theory: Very few people truly believe there's nothing wrong with cheating. Even dodgy people are aware they're doing something "wrong" and this is where it all unravels, as your perception of your partner changes. You're one up on him because you got away with something. This makes him appear either naive and too trusting, or vulnerable and hopelessly helpless. Good relationships are based on mutual admiration and respect, not pitying your partner or secretly thinking they're ignorant.

Myth #10: If there's no sex involved, it's not an affair. Emotional infidelity —deep, passionate connections between people who often aren't even aware they've crossed the line from platonic friendship to romantic love—is the biggest threat a marriage can face. More than 80 percent of unfaithful people have affairs with someone who'd started out as "just a friend," very often a workmate. In fact, one study showed that 50 percent of unfaithful women and 62 percent of unfaithful men were involved with someone at work. Intense but invisible, erotic but unconsumed, emotional infidelity is dangerous, addictive and way too easy to get away with. If you're often pretending you're single when you're not; if you send secret texts or emails; if you share intimate details of your life with people you fancy and lie to your partner about seeing them, you're an emotional cheater.

Myth #11: Fantasizing about someone else means you're about to be unfaithful. While many sex therapists will actually encourage couples in long-term relationships to fantasize about other people to cope with temptation—logic being, it's okay to be unfaithful in your head, just not your bed—others say it's risky. They say affairs start in the mind and fantasy sex can make you want the real thing even more. The whole point of fantasies, after all, is to conjure up brilliantly perfect sex. While the real life unfaithful encounter is likely to be far less exciting and imperfect, strong images can increase the craving to stray.
Having said that, looking at the reasons why the person strayed can help piece together what's left of what you had before. People often have affairs to reinvent themselves or, more accurately, to be the person they think they want to be. A long-term partner is likely to see you as the person you were when you met, rather than the person you've become, or the person you want to become. An affair gives you the chance to start over. That's why, after an affair, it's important to ask, "Who were you with that person? How can you be that person with me?"

sexting is via text messaging, on the phone. Cybersex is online, via IMs, chatrooms, forums, etc. It's all the same thing pretty much, just different mediums.

There's no need to ever feel stupid.

Oh, I can live with that - it's just a second at a time, lol

Been dating a guy that I met on here 5 months ago, we were doing great, we planned of meeting soon and probably will get married. Just today I found out that he has been having an affair with his girl friend whom he now claims as his girlfriend, while still claiming as his fiancee. I noticed it since he has been ignoring me for the past few weeks and seems like he has no time to talk to me as apposed to what we were used to. As he admitted today that he is having an affair because of his "needs", he tried to justify that it wasn't CHEATING, instead he tried to convince me that he did it for our own good, cause I always want him happy. How weird Now I am not a total idiot so I'm not buying his crap, so I set him free even if he didn't want us to break up.

For me, being Unfaithful is the best synonym for CHEATING.

I forgive him, even without him saying sorry, it's because I have a big heart.

In short - NEWG78 is Single!

I am sorry...anyone who can come up with that rationale for being unfaithful just makes me scratch my head. It's just ludicrous!

Sorry to hear that. Yeah you showed him who was in control. You. lol. That is very amirable. It shows you're a strong woman, and that you can handle whatever comes your way. He sounds like a true idiot with no heart. I feel sorry for people like that. Who knows? You may end up meeting a way hotter guy. Ha :).

They usualy try to justify their actions by blaiming us somehow. Or even vice versa if we the victims are in denial.
Im glad you forgave him because you dont need to carry thst hurt with you into your next relationship but im also glad you were strong enough to walk away amd keep your dignity n self worth

Yes, I have learned so much from it, and perhaps would not trust anyone online anymore unless they make their way to me. I am just glad that I will be having an out of country vacation and will be leaving in 9 hours.

Thank you very much for the care you showed me. I lost him but will never lose my mingle fam.