Topic: Surviving the distance..
teadipper's photo
Wed 03/21/12 04:45 AM
Being the cynic in the room, do you remember how many times people has posted on here that you can't REALLY be in love with someone you never met? AND if you really love each other, you will find a way to meet? Just being the cynic in the room. Nothing personal.

krupa's photo
Wed 03/21/12 04:15 PM

Being the cynic in the room, do you remember how many times people has posted on here that you can't REALLY be in love with someone you never met? AND if you really love each other, you will find a way to meet? Just being the cynic in the room. Nothing personal.


I gotta call bullschitt on that one Doll. (you are my friend Tea so don't get booty hurt)

I never met Roberta....but, when I found out she was gonna go through chemo and she was gonna lose her hair......

I went to "The Lucky Afro" beauty store and bought her a box of wigs. I just wanted her to have something tangible from her friends in a time of need.

She wore the wigs and she looked really hot bald too.

I had never met Luvs2...yet the love I feel is real. She is a friend.

I feel that way about quite a few of you kids.

krupa's photo
Wed 03/21/12 04:21 PM
Back on topic...

It is easy to feel helpless....

trust me...I know...500 miles is less than half the distance I am working with.

Patience, devotion and loyalty, emotional support, understanding, trust , faith and love.

You give it every day and you gotta mean it.

That is something that money cannot buy.

THAT is how you earn your lover and I don't care if they are 500 miles away or laying in bed next to you.

Jenni30's photo
Wed 03/21/12 05:50 PM

Back on topic...

It is easy to feel helpless....

trust me...I know...500 miles is less than half the distance I am working with.

Patience, devotion and loyalty, emotional support, understanding, trust , faith and love.

You give it every day and you gotta mean it.

That is something that money cannot buy.

THAT is how you earn your lover and I don't care if they are 500 miles away or laying in bed next to you.


TRUE

Fire2Burn's photo
Thu 03/22/12 10:22 AM
Edited by Fire2Burn on Thu 03/22/12 10:45 AM

Back on topic...

500 miles is less than half the distance I am working with.

Patience, devotion and loyalty, emotional support, understanding, trust , faith and love.

You give it every day and you gotta mean it.

That is something that money cannot buy.

THAT is how you earn your lover and I don't care if they are 500 miles away or laying in bed next to you.

I always have except one mistake i made and am srry for that,but i know am going to restore all tht..

Fire2Burn's photo
Thu 03/22/12 10:38 AM


I'd walk to hell itself for her..




he was expressing hes true feelings tht he woud do watever it takes to be with her.. like me I have a passport, and itz not stopping me to be with my girl tht i love..Love u chikita..

no photo
Thu 03/22/12 11:06 AM
I'm going to meet someone in Georgia in a month and I live in Michigan. Who knows what will happen, but we will have a good time for sure. I feel I know him pretty well because we talk most every day on the phone and it will be 3 months of talking before meeting.

So, worse case scenario-we end up being friends. Both of us are optimistic, but truthfully, I wouldn't dream of looking ahead and declaring endless love before meeting him.

Fire2Burn's photo
Thu 03/22/12 01:59 PM



if she's anywhere near half the pessimist that i am,
you're screwed.
i don't believe you can love someone you've never met.
you don't know them entirely.
you can be in love with the idea of what your head makes that person out to be,
but until you meet you won't know what he/she is really like.
until you see each other you each are choosing what to show/say.
you choose what to keep from each other.
that could be something or nothing,
but it'll stay quite ambivalent until you meet.
what the **** am i saying?!
D:
i don't know.
i know nothing.
This is very true!!Iv'emet many people who were not what they made me out to believe who they were......Then i have met some that were Ihad a guy that would call & my whole face would light up! It took time toreally get to know him in real LIFE.... It took years to find out who he really was!


Well..

We're giving it a whirl..

So, ty everyone. :)


Giving a chance.. I agree ..pretty much IS going to work out..

no photo
Fri 03/23/12 10:09 AM





If it's just 500 miles, what's stopping you from seeing her?


..border, no passport..


Have you been denied a passport?


..yes.


If you can't get a passport then you best face facts; it's over.


I never thought of someone being denied of a passport. I got denied with a US visa but that's just logical.

I've been and I'm in an LDR, yeah some 6000+ miles - girls are girls they need reassurance, yes. I'm not getting it much so far so may be it's time to move on, again. Amen.

no photo
Fri 03/23/12 01:44 PM


Is their no way of avoiding the boarder? Or even a way around it?

I know it's probably different over there, but over here there are ways to get in and out of the country without going through ''customs/boarder control''.

The only other thing you can do is keep appealing your passport and get her to come visit you.

Best of luck flowerforyou


ujGearhead's photo
Fri 03/23/12 05:29 PM



Being the cynic in the room, do you remember how many times people has posted on here that you can't REALLY be in love with someone you never met? AND if you really love each other, you will find a way to meet? Just being the cynic in the room. Nothing personal.


I gotta call bullschitt on that one Doll. (you are my friend Tea so don't get booty hurt)

I never met Roberta....but, when I found out she was gonna go through chemo and she was gonna lose her hair......

I went to "The Lucky Afro" beauty store and bought her a box of wigs. I just wanted her to have something tangible from her friends in a time of need.

She wore the wigs and she looked really hot bald too.

I had never met Luvs2...yet the love I feel is real. She is a friend.

I feel that way about quite a few of you kids.


Ya but thats friendship, and not a romantic relationship. If you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, you gotta have some time in person. Reminds me of that movie 'Surrogates'. Bruce Willis needed his real wife, in person, even tho she was terribly sick. He needed the real her.


and did I miss anything? What happened to teadipper?


Well, I did have romantic relationship with her for a long time. As much as you possibly could from 2500 miles away..... so, I know ALL about a LDR and it's NOT easy. This is where trust is a MAJOR issue. If you don't have that, you're screwed from the start. Yahoo got it's workout (Skype works also), but before even considering a LDR, both people have to realize that one of you are eventually going to have to move if it's going to work. I recommend seriously talking about that from the get-go! If that can't happen, you're going down a dead end road and IMO, the sooner you realize that the better because it will only be harder as time passes. As klc said, 'online' and 'in-person' can be WAY different people. Just like 2 people can get along GREAT living in different houses for years, but move in and all hell breaks loose (Been there and done that!). Relationships in general are rarely perfect and there's going to have be some give and take in order to work. Too often, distance multiplies that x10000000000. I'm a firm believer that what is meant to be, will be, but it's a good idea for a reality check from time to time.


Teadipper disappeared again? She'll be back. They always come back. You can check out anytime you like, but you can never leave! pitchfork

ujGearhead's photo
Fri 03/23/12 05:33 PM

Play nice kids. At this rate, this thread is a few posts from giving a mod deletion carpal tunnel.

krupa's photo
Fri 03/23/12 05:44 PM
C'mon guys.....

please....disconect the dots and stop this

If you wanna argue..take it to the Religion or Politics threads....they LOVE that crap.

No disrespect to either of you...but, if ya'll wanna fight...they do that more in Religion.

These threads are generally more about fun.

no photo
Fri 03/23/12 06:07 PM

C'mon guys.....

please....disconect the dots and stop this

If you wanna argue..take it to the Religion or Politics threads....they LOVE that crap.

No disrespect to either of you...but, if ya'll wanna fight...they do that more in Religion.

These threads are generally more about fun.


and no disrespect to you...this forum also contain threads generated by those that have been jerked over by others or by those trying to jerk over others in a relationship ....but hey....let's just ignore those type of pesty threads or call for help...and just have fun

Jenni30's photo
Fri 03/23/12 06:07 PM

Reading every word and it changes nothing...I love him the same if not MORE

krupa's photo
Fri 03/23/12 06:08 PM
I know very well who started it....

Just try to have a good evening fellas. May take some effort but, it can be done.

Time for me to go get drunk and kareoke. Best of luck gentlemen.

Sin_and_Sorrow's photo
Fri 03/23/12 06:12 PM
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She is reading it LMAO.






Reading every word and it changes nothing...I love him the same if not MORE


*clings*

Have I told you how beautiful you are yet today? :P

I love you mostiest, Fer-Fer. :)

Sin_and_Sorrow's photo
Fri 03/23/12 06:13 PM

I know very well who started it....

Just try to have a good evening fellas. May take some effort but, it can be done.

Time for me to go get drunk and kareoke. Best of luck gentlemen.


..that I'd love to see. xD

Fire2Burn's photo
Fri 03/23/12 06:14 PM

dude thts their problems not urs, let these thread not to b deleted, jux cool off..

Sin_and_Sorrow's photo
Fri 03/23/12 06:16 PM

another chance has to come becoz itz nvr too late..


Exactly.
Hope.
It's all we need sometimes.


True thts y we fight and we dont give up for wat we like wat we love and wat we want in life..but in tha end itz all abt having confident with our self......


And why I'll never give up on her, or us.
She's worth the struggle.


P.S.
wat i know
i dnt know notting..jux learning


You know as much as I do, Fire2.
..and as long as we find ourselves happy..

That's all we need.