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Topic: Surviving the distance..
TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76436	Mon 03/19/12 08:27 AM
Humm well if you can't get a passport better check into to see if she can come to you if not then it could be a hard reality check.....

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 03/19/12 08:36 AM
If it's just 500 miles, what's stopping you from seeing her? ..border, no passport.. Why can't she come see you? Same issue with not having a passport?

bhernandez Joined Sun 03/21/10 Posts: 14901	Mon 03/19/12 10:35 AM
if she's anywhere near half the pessimist that i am, you're screwed. i don't believe you can love someone you've never met. you don't know them entirely. you can be in love with the idea of what your head makes that person out to be, but until you meet you won't know what he/she is really like. until you see each other you each are choosing what to show/say. you choose what to keep from each other. that could be something or nothing, but it'll stay quite ambivalent until you meet. what the **** am i saying?! D: i don't know. i know nothing.

justme659 Joined Wed 10/03/07 Posts: 6144	Mon 03/19/12 11:00 AM
If it's just 500 miles, what's stopping you from seeing her? ..border, no passport.. Have you been denied a passport? ..yes. Do not give up. Talk to anyone that can help you get that passport. It hurts my heart to know anyone in love can't with each other.

Shy_Emo_chick Joined Fri 04/01/11 Posts: 4393	Mon 03/19/12 11:09 AM
Sorry that you're feeling down about it, dude. Yeah. Long distance is a tough one. For both you and her. I'm the type who falls in love pretty quickly with a lover, when i do. I'm sure you can both work something out. Love can overcome most things. Don't let distance ruin the experience. Hope you work something out. hug

Fire2Burn Joined Mon 01/31/11 Posts: 606	Mon 03/19/12 03:25 PM Edited by Fire2Burn on Mon 03/19/12 03:31 PM
Long distance. I love Jennifer, no doubts within my entire being.. ..and I need to show her.. But how from over 500 miles away? How do I prove I mean I'll wait for her? That the future I see for us both.. is real, not a game? I do I give her the security and reassurance she needs/wants? I'd walk to hell itself for her.. ..or even to Canada, and swim across the great lakes to find her. But words.. ..they mean so little.. When love requires actions. I feel tha same way for her, shes my everything....and more...if I have to travel, to be with Her, am going to travel and be with her...

Fire2Burn Joined Mon 01/31/11 Posts: 606	Mon 03/19/12 07:36 PM
No..... Am talking abt my girl...

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Mon 03/19/12 08:06 PM
Long distance. I love Jennifer, no doubts within my entire being.. ..and I need to show her.. But how from over 500 miles away? How do I prove I mean I'll wait for her? That the future I see for us both.. is real, not a game? I do I give her the security and reassurance she needs/wants? I'd walk to hell itself for her.. ..or even to Canada, and swim across the great lakes to find her. But words.. ..they mean so little.. When love requires actions. Please, someone, what can I do? What would you do? You can only do so much to show and prove your love and faithfulness, if they don't accept it, I'm not sure what you can do. I really do wish I could provide a solution, or some helpful advice.

jaded72 Joined Tue 12/06/11 Posts: 1456	Mon 03/19/12 09:53 PM
Do you two use Skype? That's pretty good. Best of luck.

Simonedemidova Joined Mon 11/15/10 Posts: 8952	Mon 03/19/12 10:01 PM
Long distance. I love Jennifer, no doubts within my entire being.. ..and I need to show her.. But how from over 500 miles away? How do I prove I mean I'll wait for her? That the future I see for us both.. is real, not a game? I do I give her the security and reassurance she needs/wants? I'd walk to hell itself for her.. ..or even to Canada, and swim across the great lakes to find her. But words.. ..they mean so little.. When love requires actions. Please, someone, what can I do? What would you do? You can only do so much to show and prove your love and faithfulness, if they don't accept it, I'm not sure what you can do. I really do wish I could provide a solution, or some helpful advice. I agree, where is the feelings of insecurity coming from? Is it her or you? Things take time, but no-one wants to wait forever on the "hopes" it could be "real". Good luck.

Down2earthdebbie Joined Tue 12/05/06 Posts: 6097	Mon 03/19/12 10:46 PM
if she's anywhere near half the pessimist that i am, you're screwed. i don't believe you can love someone you've never met. you don't know them entirely. you can be in love with the idea of what your head makes that person out to be, but until you meet you won't know what he/she is really like. until you see each other you each are choosing what to show/say. you choose what to keep from each other. that could be something or nothing, but it'll stay quite ambivalent until you meet. what the **** am i saying?! D: i don't know. i know nothing. This is very true!!Iv'emet many people who were not what they made me out to believe who they were......Then i have met some that were Ihad a guy that would call & my whole face would light up! It took time toreally get to know him in real LIFE.... It took years to find out who he really was!

Sin_and_Sorrow Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 5757	Mon 03/19/12 10:54 PM
if she's anywhere near half the pessimist that i am, you're screwed. i don't believe you can love someone you've never met. you don't know them entirely. you can be in love with the idea of what your head makes that person out to be, but until you meet you won't know what he/she is really like. until you see each other you each are choosing what to show/say. you choose what to keep from each other. that could be something or nothing, but it'll stay quite ambivalent until you meet. what the **** am i saying?! D: i don't know. i know nothing. This is very true!!Iv'emet many people who were not what they made me out to believe who they were......Then i have met some that were Ihad a guy that would call & my whole face would light up! It took time toreally get to know him in real LIFE.... It took years to find out who he really was! Well.. We're giving it a whirl.. So, ty everyone. :) Hey Debbie, how you been??

Jenni30 Joined Wed 02/02/11 Posts: 1140	Mon 03/19/12 10:59 PM
if she's anywhere near half the pessimist that i am, you're screwed. i don't believe you can love someone you've never met. you don't know them entirely. you can be in love with the idea of what your head makes that person out to be, but until you meet you won't know what he/she is really like. until you see each other you each are choosing what to show/say. you choose what to keep from each other. that could be something or nothing, but it'll stay quite ambivalent until you meet. what the **** am i saying?! D: i don't know. i know nothing. This is very true!!Iv'emet many people who were not what they made me out to believe who they were......Then i have met some that were Ihad a guy that would call & my whole face would light up! It took time toreally get to know him in real LIFE.... It took years to find out who he really was! Well.. We're giving it a whirl.. So, ty everyone. :) Hey Debbie, how you been?? I LOVE YOUUUUUUUUUU BABYYYYYYYYY

Sin_and_Sorrow Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 5757	Mon 03/19/12 11:02 PM
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Down2earthdebbie Joined Tue 12/05/06 Posts: 6097	Mon 03/19/12 11:16 PM
if she's anywhere near half the pessimist that i am, you're screwed. i don't believe you can love someone you've never met. you don't know them entirely. you can be in love with the idea of what your head makes that person out to be, but until you meet you won't know what he/she is really like. until you see each other you each are choosing what to show/say. you choose what to keep from each other. that could be something or nothing, but it'll stay quite ambivalent until you meet. what the **** am i saying?! D: i don't know. i know nothing. This is very true!!Iv'emet many people who were not what they made me out to believe who they were......Then i have met some that were Ihad a guy that would call & my whole face would light up! It took time toreally get to know him in real LIFE.... It took years to find out who he really was! Well.. We're giving it a whirl.. So, ty everyone. :) Hey Debbie, how you been?? I'm good ....just living LIFE one day at a time!!!! I'm gonna CHEER you up!!!

Down2earthdebbie Joined Tue 12/05/06 Posts: 6097	Mon 03/19/12 11:31 PM
Mikey what are we going to do with you.....

TashRams Joined Mon 03/19/12 Posts: 3	Tue 03/20/12 01:53 PM
My prince i in England and im in Botswana,southern of Africa...believe me i know how it feels,we are starting to save up for my visit there,its hard but just the thought of how much you love her and she you will make you stronger.get her to visit you...

Fire2Burn Joined Mon 01/31/11 Posts: 606	Wed 03/21/12 03:05 AM Edited by Fire2Burn on Wed 03/21/12 03:08 AM
I know wat ur saying Mike my mind wasent thinking str8 at that time but itz better now am going to answer it for my girl but how do I give her security? shes tha one for me no doubt abt tht, am always going to stand up for her, listen to her,make her feel special to her.. How can I reassure her? wat i have itz better than anything else, she bring and gives me wat i need, joy of life, makes me laugh, makes me happy, boost my self esteem, makes me a better person, shes caring, sweet, sincere, loving thts tha thingz i care abt abt in a relationship... I spend almost, if not every, waking moment trying to convince her, and tell her.. ..I admit I'm not perfect, and say really dumba** things now and again.. another chance has to come becoz itz nvr too late.. ..but just thought of losing her.. Let alone the facing the reality it might come true.. I...I'll never survive it.. True thts y we fight and we dont give up for wat we like wat we love and wat we want in life..but in tha end itz all abt having confident with our self...... P.S. wat i know i dnt know notting..jux learning

Fire2Burn Joined Mon 01/31/11 Posts: 606	Wed 03/21/12 03:05 AM
Just keep doing what ya doing try not to worry just do your best im sure that is all she wants from you I Second..

RainbowTrout Joined Fri 04/06/07 Posts: 13869	Wed 03/21/12 03:30 AM
If it's just 500 miles, what's stopping you from seeing her? ..border, no passport.. Have you been denied a passport? ..yes. If you can't get a passport then you best face facts; it's over. Real good advice. Face the fact that you are lovable. Good thing to know when you can have a relationship with someone closer. Mine was like 4000 miles away and we are still good friends. I cried when her new guy and her didn't work out. I was so hoping for her as she hope for me because the reality of the situation was that neither one of us could possibly get to the other. But we were there for each other through a webcam as much as we could be. We both let go of the idea that we could be together physically but the friendship survived.