I am acquiring a large number of shares of an upstart tech company tomorrow and I'm think about giving approx. 120K to my ex gf who has diabetes, as a birthday present.

I'm okay with it. My reasoning is that we were going to get married next year but we aren't together and I want her to be able to afford to continue her schooling and earn a decent degree.

My heart is still with her, obviously.

Good or bad idea?

how could someone that doesnt know her say whether its a good idea or not


I think you are the only one that really knows the answer to that,,,,good luck

..helping others is always a good idea, regardless of relationships and all other that matters...i say yes it is....,multiply!

You mention that your heart is still with her. If you really want to give her that kind of over generous birthday gift, send it annonomously (sp?). That way there will not be strings attached and she won't feel like she owes you.

Idiot!

My birthday was last week.

Just as long as you set it up so she is responsible for the taxes, not you...unless you want to pay them.

If you think so, then yes it's a good idea.

As long as the gift is given without having strings attached.

Well, taxes was one of the things I mentioned up front to her. I also didn't really anticipate courting her until after her semester finishes in June. I initially put it out there that I wanted to get married in 18 months so we kinda explored that to see if we were agreeable. Regardless of whether we are together as a couple or not, I found that person that I want to provide for. She understands that but it also is confusing because we're both busy either schooling or working and live an hour apart.

I had a talk with the CEO of the company yesterday and the stock won't be worth a significant amount for 3 years anyhow. I was hoping by then she will have her degree and be in a better frame of mind to consider marriage then.

I'm not even remotely interested in having sex with her until after we're married so no strings. I never do strings because it ****s with my chi.

Have you discussed this with her? I would talk to her before doing so, see how she feels about it.

She might appreciate the cash more. In three years the tech shares might be worthless.

My principle:
There is happiness in giving than in receiving.

I have financially helped people that I met online with the belief that they are sincere with me. Although there wasn't a happy ending, I am still grateful that I was able to do good deeds. So yes, would be a good idea.