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Topic: How well do you know people here?
singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 02/27/12 07:17 AM
Do you think you can get to know people well by talking in the forums? Are there people in the forums that you've never talked to outside of the forums that you feel you know? Or, do you feel contact outside of the forums is needed to establish friendship?

Floorgasm Joined Sat 02/25/12 Posts: 175	Mon 02/27/12 07:23 AM
Active forum posters can develop close friendships. I have with good friends from other sites. However, being new here, I have not gotten to know anyone well yet. Hopefully that will change.

Sin_and_Sorrow Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 5757	Mon 02/27/12 07:29 AM
Some people are totally schizo and/or tri-polar. Not only do they have two personalities.. ..but you shall find neither of them on here. They "portray" someone that they are in fact nothing like. How do I know? "One" of them told me. ..just not sure which "one" he was. :O

vivian2981 Joined Thu 04/16/09 Posts: 37289	Mon 02/27/12 07:31 AM
Yes, I've made some very good friends here in the forums..not everyone likes me and the feeling is returned on some, but on the whole, it's all good. Of course the ones I am friends with go a little further than the forums..we have met in person and maintain contact with each other thru phone calls, private emails and meeting as often as we can.

Floorgasm Joined Sat 02/25/12 Posts: 175	Mon 02/27/12 07:35 AM
Some people are totally schizo and/or tri-polar. Not only do they have two personalities.. ..but you shall find neither of them on here. They "portray" someone that they are in fact nothing like. How do I know? "One" of them told me. ..just not sure which "one" he was. :O

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45397	Mon 02/27/12 07:41 AM
The more time you spend with ANYone, the better you are going to know them. This means we know a lot of people VERY well on Mingle2. Met a dozen or so in person. Tricked, twice. So, yeah, until you meet a 'friend' in person, they are only words. And all one can do is hope that what you think is real, is.

BettyB Joined Tue 01/29/08 Posts: 31912	Mon 02/27/12 07:45 AM
Do you think you can get to know people well by talking in the forums? Are there people in the forums that you've never talked to outside of the forums that you feel you know? Or, do you feel contact outside of the forums is needed to establish friendship? I feel that the forums gives you a pretty good idea if you like that person or not, but outside the forums is they where you get to know them better.

Phuque2 Joined Thu 11/20/08 Posts: 4927	Mon 02/27/12 07:48 AM
The more time you spend with ANYone, the better you are going to know them. This means we know a lot of people VERY well on Mingle2. Met a dozen or so in person. Tricked, twice. So, yeah, until you meet a 'friend' in person, they are only words. And all one can do is hope that what you think is real, is. Testify Sistah I have met quite a few, some were more than I thought, some were lost souls. The "friendship" got stronger or weaker after meeting in person.

luvin53 Joined Fri 12/23/11 Posts: 243	Mon 02/27/12 07:50 AM
Have gotten to know a few. But being realistic, people can write anything.Something true an some not so tru.Maybe some time I will beable to figure out why people have to lie, or should I say not tell the whole truth.Usually I can tell. But friendship is great to have. Have a great day all.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 02/27/12 07:51 AM Edited by singmesweet on Mon 02/27/12 07:52 AM
I guess I have been lucky when meeting people from here. They were all just like I thought they'd be. Then again, I'm picky about who I choose to meet. I think in some cases I have gotten to know people here through the forums and emails. In other cases, there are people I feel like I don't know at all, even though they post often in the forums.

cardspinner Joined Sun 02/19/12 Posts: 30	Mon 02/27/12 08:01 AM
Without and iota of doubt...communication outside the forums is essential to advancing and cultivating a relationship...Perhaps you can develope a lil trust here...enough to exchange a phone number, email addy...Forums a fun and sometime enlightening...but the real connection starts outside the forums

cardspinner Joined Sun 02/19/12 Posts: 30	Mon 02/27/12 08:12 AM
P.S and I should've wrot "however" instead of the last "but"...but kinda negates everthing I said prior...Psych 101 ...insert "however" plz

BettyB Joined Tue 01/29/08 Posts: 31912	Mon 02/27/12 08:18 AM
The more time you spend with ANYone, the better you are going to know them. This means we know a lot of people VERY well on Mingle2. Met a dozen or so in person. Tricked, twice. So, yeah, until you meet a 'friend' in person, they are only words. And all one can do is hope that what you think is real, is. We have all been " tricked " Soufie. And it hurts like Hell when it happens. But thats the internet and real life too I guess.

Optomistic69 Joined Mon 10/10/11 Posts: 5173	Mon 02/27/12 08:32 AM
There are some serial Tricksters on every dating site, including this one

pyxxie13 Joined Wed 09/28/11 Posts: 3835	Mon 02/27/12 09:06 AM
This thread ties into the other one... It comes down to how honest people have been to where the friendship will go. At the end of it all, you can not hide the real you. The honesty plays the important role. It is difficult to go forward with a friendship when they have portrayed themselves to be someone/something else. Then it is a trust issue.

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Mon 02/27/12 09:16 AM
The more time you spend with ANYone, the better you are going to know them. This means we know a lot of people VERY well on Mingle2. Met a dozen or so in person. Tricked, twice. So, yeah, until you meet a 'friend' in person, they are only words. And all one can do is hope that what you think is real, is. How true this is Soufie....One thing I do take into consideration when I am spending time on the forums and feeling like I am getting to know someone is their history with other members...The fact that many of us on Mingle have actually met in the flesh is very important to me when I am in the process of forming cyber friendships that I want to eventually move out into the real world because it "lends" validation to the fact that the person is actually who they are claiming to be within their "written" words.... I have also found this common denominator among cyber acquaintances , those who are quickest to criticize or put down others are more often than not the very ones who have yet to meet "anyone" from the site in person.......For me, this is a huge red flag.... The forums provide a filter, a very good filter, when it comes to deciding who you would or would not like to meet in person, they do not however define who you will ultimately become friends with or who you will ultimately fall in love with...only meeting in person and spending a significant amount of time together can determine that....

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Mon 02/27/12 11:09 AM
The more time you spend with ANYone, the better you are going to know them. This means we know a lot of people VERY well on Mingle2. Met a dozen or so in person. Tricked, twice. So, yeah, until you meet a 'friend' in person, they are only words. And all one can do is hope that what you think is real, is. Yes! All the way.

Optomistic69 Joined Mon 10/10/11 Posts: 5173	Mon 02/27/12 11:12 AM Edited by Optomistic69 on Mon 02/27/12 11:57 AM
This thread ties into the other one... It comes down to how honest people have been to where the friendship will go. At the end of it all, you can not hide the real you. The honesty plays the important role. It is difficult to go forward with a friendship when they have portrayed themselves to be someone/something else. Then it is a trust issue. I mentioned Tricksters in the post above yours, but I should really have mentioned honesty. Why people are dishonest on these threads/sites beats me. Of course they may be playing games at the expense of those that they are interacting with but that not only makes them dishonest but somewhat ruthless in their pursuit of kicks.... Flirting is one thing but using is something else....Just Saying

Chloe23Irish Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 717	Mon 02/27/12 11:27 AM
Being honest I don't think I have very many friends on here, yet I feel like I know several people from there posts in the forums if that makes sense.

prashant01 Joined Wed 05/06/09 Posts: 14148	Mon 02/27/12 11:32 AM
Do you think you can get to know people well by talking in the forums? Are there people in the forums that you've never talked to outside of the forums that you feel you know? Or, do you feel contact outside of the forums is needed to establish friendship? Depends on concern & interest,generally yes,you get to know people well in the forums. I never keep contact by any other means with my net mates,but I think I know them more than friends in real life. It is VIRTUAL FRIENDSHIP which works better than friendship in real life.