In real life, not on Mingle, my good friend is blind. He admittedly is interested in me. He has reservations about me. He feels a I am too fickle having too many boy toy type relationships which are not real on the internet. And two that the relationship would be unequal because I have been so used to taking care of myself, I assume the "manly" type tasks myself. I give him the fickle part. But he is smarter than I am and more sensible than I am and knows a great many things I do not and I admire him a lot and often defer to his advice on things. He is really sitting on the fence as to whether to date me. I don't know what to do. This is one of those once in a life time people. I have repeatedly told him that he is the more dominant of the two of us as far as responsibilities and such. He is the one that can focus and complete a task from being to end, despite being blind, he helps ME with my computer, he researches stuff and tells me how to fix things, he is the one who would be more likely to remember to feed the cat, etc. He admittedly is shy with women. Help.

Just go for it. If his blindess is not a problem for you, go for it. Just because you dont agree on everything doesnt mean you cant make it. I bet hed be happy to date you.

The only thing to do is talk it out with him.and see where things go from there. if u do go out then you will have a grown mature relationship with someone u like and respect and if not u both can still be great friends.

My eyesight is bad. I can't find my glasses without finding my sunglasses to find my glasses.

He can find things better than I can with his no eyesight. He is also less clumsy and neater.

Terri, keep it simple..keep it light and fun...see what develops

Ya we will always be great friends. I just like him so much. I can sit and listen to him all day. He has a great voice. He is not PC and has opinions on everything. He keeps up on all the current events of the day and understands things much better than I do. I just admire him as a man so much and I don't think he gets that. He has told me he doesn't feel he has much to offer when I feel he has everything to offer.

So whats the problem?

blindNess is just a speed bump there has been many people with physical problems and they still achieved look at fdr he had polio and he was still able to inspire and lead this country through a depression and war

it sounds like every guy you come across you 'really like.'
are you going to die sometimes soon?
is being in a relationship on your bucket list?
i just don't understand why get into a relationship within minutes of ending another.
o.O
don't mind me though.
i know nothing.

Trust your gut, and follow your heart.

Believe it or not I do not take offense at that. I met more than I like actually but I do like too many. You are right. I am trying to slow down and get to know people better.

Why do you suppose that is?

Remember those dance moves i recommended you shouldn't do in your other thread,forget it,go for it.

I often see the good in people so much that I ignore flame orange flags waving in the breeze. I want to like people as cynical as I may seem. I don't really want a guy to "complete me" but I get lonely for guys' advice and stuff. I really don't want to live with anybody or remarry. I just want to find someone to date. I think I have lowered my standards too much too in some cases. Not this one.

I think understand where you're coming from. I used to be the same way with women. Not really seeking relationships, but more friendships to occupy the loneliness.

It's simple: Add tequila and see what happens.

Yep.

Terri..only thing to really consider is if he is a life long friend... if this does not work out, how will that change your friendship with him later?
It is sad to lose a great friend by tossing them into a relationship that ends bad. I am not saying it will, just something to consider.

If I miss read this well so sorry but my gut says
it sounds like this guy is just the current novelty for you.

Do him and yourself a favor and don't try to prove what a decent person you are "overlooking" his disability and trying to justify what a great catch he is.

Especially when it is pretty clear you don't get he is a person and your friend more than someone who is blind that can work out your problems. He deserves a realtionship that offers him more than pity and chores.

Sorry if it sounds harsh but I say it the way I see it.