I wanna know if this was too biotchy of me. I stopped seeing someone because his life was just too freaking complicated. I felt like I needed a copy of Soap Opera digest to keep up with his information. I kept thinking "this dude is a scammer" and he would send proof over and over that he wasn't but I was like "Dude, I can't follow the story line". I mean so he's not a scammer, so what? Is it unreasonable of me to just want someone who is just an average person with an average life and nothing complicated to keep track of? Like the a guy named Joe or something who manages a hardware store and has a dog named Alf or something that easy???

I'm leaning towards him being married or at least seeing other people...his life is complicated because he's keeping his options open.

That's the cynic in me, naturally.

My life is complicated...I have pets, so I have to get home after work to take care of them. I'm pretty independent at work, which could mean flexibility but often means that I have to visit different sites throughout the week, so my schedule can often be last minute. I have kids, so I have commitments to them that are not always planned in advance.

Those are all excuses I could use to not meet with someone...whereas, if I wanted to spend time with someone, I'd let them know when I'm most available and I'd make the effort to keep those commitments.

Having a busy, complicated life is how I avoid spending time around some family members...not how I'd treat someone I was interested in dating.

Dating is a weeding system.
If you don't pull them, they spread.
Their only use is comparative.
If you want to end up with a thriving
plant, you cut the suckers off.

We all make choices in life. And, for better or for worse, they define our life. You did what you felt was right for yourself, and their isn't anything wrong with that. It's hard to for someone else to say what is or isn't right for you. Was this choice the best one? I used to beat myself up over some of my dumb choices in my past. But I look back now, and (in some way) they made me who I am. Mentally, I am stronger than ever, and while I have hurt (and have hurt others with my choices) I know that those tough calls made me evolve. So, I think you did what you felt was best. And I also feel no one can fault you for it.

Or in my case you can just squirt 'em in the face with Round-Up...

That way you don't even have to prune and/or worry about 'em coming back.

It isn't bad to not want to date someone who is complicated. Do what's best for you.

If someone ever used their pets as an excuse not to date, I'd just have to laugh at them. That's a pretty bad excuse.

I am glad you are keeping it simple. K.I.S.S. works for me, too. Friendships are just so much easier to deal with. It allows me to have my cake and eat it to.

Yeah, I agree. I dumped two guys because their pets took precedence over the relationship. After that; I would never date a guy with pets again.

Relax and be happy, you'll find your "Joe". :)

Nothing wrong with wanting someone more simple.

I understand having pets and having to get home to let them out, but I would not understand that reasoning to let it get in the way of dating. If they can't handle a pet and dating, something isn't right.

Actually; its even worse than that for some. Its not only letting them out; but they also feel they can't do any sort of trips without their pets in tow. I had my vacation plans ruined because the guy wouldn't put his dog in a Kennel and the majority of the hotels will not take pets so we were stuck just drving around the area with his dog in the vehicle. We couldn't even have a nice long leisurly dinner because he couldn't leave his dog in the vehicle too long. We couldn't go for a bike ride because the dog would whine if we left it alone and this guy was renting a basement suite. Its very frustrating having a pet control your life and relationship.

No, you have right to call it off for whatever reason you see fit. Although, I must say that I would like to meet a dog named Alf, he must be a playful silly puppy.

We are the only ones that must choose what we can take within life. If things make us shake our heads and wonder what the hell we are doing then it is time to sit back and take out those things that complicate our lives even if it means cutting the ties with the one we are with...

He did not make excuses NOT to see me. He just kept trying to prove to me there was reason to go on when I am like our friend said about K.I.S.S. I mean I feel like if I have to keep a composition book to keep track of everything it's too much.

Yeah, that's pretty bad. That's a guy who is letting a pet control his life. Luckily, I've never dated anyone who was that out of control.

Off topic, but tea, I like your new picture.

Thanks LOL. You guys have just never seen me in make up before.

I agree; the picture is awesome.