No, no, and no. I'd like to, but my experience has been otherwise.

What he said~~~~

Yes I do.

I do believe I am only meant to be with one person for the rest of my life as well. I sincerely believe it is possibly to fall in love many times in that quest, but in the end there is only one person who I can say is meant for me. I have no idea if it is true or not, maybe it is blind faith, stupidity or just sheer wistfulness.. but it is what I like to believe and truly hope on.

And yes, I also believe love once found is final. After all, if it is not it is not real love by my definition. I may meet someone, and we don't work out, but that does not mean I do not love them as an individual. We may go n with our lives, but they always have a place in my heart in some form.

Of course I am still searching, so make of that what you will.

yes I believe we have soulmates but I don't believe in rules or conditions that put it into a box - that defines for us what those people must be in order to qualify. that is up to the friends themselves or the individual

I believe we can have more than one. I believe some of my female friends can also be soulmates, but obviously not on the same romantic level as a male soulmate

I believe nothing is final, but that life, and love being a part of life is on a continuum where our goodness eases the pain of others, including our soulmates

there my rant for the day...

as I tire of seeing the concept of soulmates get a bad rap. Cheers! Time for a good Dutch Beer here

I do believe in soulmates but soulmate doesn't have to be a romantic partner. My best friend and I are soulmates but we are not romantically involved. A friend of mine believes that one can have many soulmates. She also believes that people are reincarnated so may indeed have been lovers or best friends in another life and when you meet them; you just click. I think this is the case with my friend as he knows more about me in 1 1/2 years than anyone has known about me throughout my life time. I have a real comfortable feeling when I am with him and he sees deep inside me where others can't. Kind of freaks me out as it takes years to gain my trust but I knew within a week of meeting this person; that I could trust him with my life.

I like this. I hope it's true.

There was this performance Cirque De Soliel did in their Delirium prdoduction. It was a dance to the music of Let Me Fall. There were 6 couples. M/M F/M and F/F (sorry if that offends). At the beginning of the dance they are dancing in each other's arms. As the music progresses they are seperated and the couples change. The rest of the dance is them trying to get back to their original partner. Then at the end of the music as the music starts to slow and soften they find each other and embrace. The music ends and the stage goes dark. This is my take on soulmates. I believe in them. I believe that is part of our life's journey finding our match, searching for that sense of completeness(is that a word?) that only they can offer. We spend our life searching for it. During that time we have good and bad experiences; it strengthens us, teaches us lessons, we grow as an individual, but eventually I believe that we will run into our soulmate.

Now here is my concern...How would we know? When we see each other will we recognize each other? Will our hearts hear each other? (Bit poetic but I am a romantic at heart)I can only hope that the answer would be yes.

No.



I have issues with "meant to be." That necessitates someone or something to determine who is "meant to be" with whom, and I've never seen anything that would make me believe such a someone or something exists.

I think the whole "soulmate" thing is just another mindless pseudo-comforting cliche along the lines of "It'll happen when you stop looking" (demonstrably untrue) or "It'll happen when it's supposed to happen" (and there's that issue of who or what determines when it's "supposed to").



I'm not sure it exists at all. I do believe people have the ability to delude themselves for very long stretches of time. That's the only reason we have politics and religion.

My hopeless romantic poetic side wants to say yes.

My ever so cynical and jaded side, wants to say no.

I honestly don't know. However I generally lean towards no. I have a hard time believing there is one person out there for everyone . Only one true match. It just seems far too impossible for my mind to fathom.

i dunno if there is another out there just like me im a walkin contradiction to the norm and acceptable to society

this is a great way to put it - IDK how I missed this my first time in here - I actually had to come up with my own explanation in this thread....but only because I didn't see this one first


right and it is difficult to describe the "You know it, when you get it" part of things...

well as soufie said you just know when it happens

but there are no guarantees - jsut because a person is a soul mate does not mean things will work out - tho I think the chances are better - IF both of you are willing to chance it

some people are too cautious for their own good (looks in mirror )

This is in reply to Sweetestgirl11..I don't know how to do the quotey box thing. I am very much technically challenged. *sheepish grin*

Caution is over-rated. Somethings are worth risking falling on your face or looking like a fool. I have concerns but if I met someone that made me think "hrmmmmmm could she be the one?" I would so throw caution to the wind. The worst that would happen..you hit the floor, get bruised up and look silly.

I believe there are soul mates out there. Just not in the traditional way of thinking.

With the current population of the planet, there are more than enough men and women that everybody "Should" be able to find someone to make them happy. The "Soul Mate" part comes in after you're already in the relationship. When two appropriately compatible people are in a relationship long enough, They could consider themselves to be soul mates IF the relationship is truly that good for it to be considered as much.

Now ask me if I believe in Love at first sight. That's a different story. I have to say Lust at first sight. I'm sure it could turn into love, but could only start as Lust.

I disagree that there is somebody for everyone. As for soulmate; I think it can be way beyond romantic. My best friend is my soulmate but will never be my lover. I also believe that I was not meant to be with anyone but I was meant to meet these people who are my soulmates that can have a non-romantic affect on my life.

Navygirl, I'm not sure how you disagree. I never said the people involved had to be married. I said in a relationship. A friendship is a relationship. As far as somebody for everybody, I refuse to believe that with 6 Billion plus people on the planet, and now with the Internet, Cell Phones, I-pads and all other forms of technology, there isn't someone for everyone. Maybe it's who you'll "settle" for. Maybe it's exactly who you were looking for or wanted. Maybe your not looking hard enough or in the right places. But there is "Somebody" for everyone. Maybe you just didn't like the choices available.

However, you are entitled to your opinion as am I. I mean no disrespect, just voicing my opinion.

No, I am not taking your response as disrespect. I misunderstood what you were saying about relationships as you are correct friendship is a relationship. Despite the many people on this planet; lets factor in distance; lets really factor in age, lets factor in lots of angry people because of divorce that will never get involved again (that is what I have mostly met). I think society tries to brainwash us into thinking ther is someone for everyone but that simply isn't true. Some folks die being completely alone and I refuse to believe that its because they are not looking hard enough. To be blunt; there are lots of screwed up people and yes in the past I have settled. It almost cost me my life and now have a permanent neck injury. Also, in my country; in every single province the men out number the women here so the odds go down even more. Lets add to that there are lots of scammers out there from other countries which lowers the odds. Yes, I am particular that I don't want a man my age raising a young child or a man that thinks his pet is more important than me that he would ruin my health to keep his pet. I mean no disrespect to you either but I just don't believe there is someone for everyone. Life isn't that simple anymore but as you say we all are entitled to our opinions.

nice to dream right?

I'd like to believe that there is one person put on this Earth just for me. Until I meet this person, the people that I meet and form relationships with allow me to create fond memories and grow as a person so that when I do meet my soulmate I'll be able to work through things in that relationship.

I haven't been on this Earth but I'm fairly certain that I haven' met my soulmate yet.

I believe in soul mates and happily ever after and all that jazz. I belive that you can't unlove someone, but you can realise that just because you love them it doesn't mean you're meant to be together.

The widow who loses her husband can find love again, not because she no longer loves her husband but because due to experience she has changed, and may love differently (does this make sense?).
Life changes people. Growing up changes people so I probably never was going to end up with the guy I was sure I loved when I was 14. It doesn't mean that the feelings themselves werern't real, it just means that I still had a lot to learn. After the carriage ride into the sunset, that's when real love begins. Anybody can be your soul mate, you just have to be willing to give it a try.