With as much difficulty as a lot of people have starting or getting into relationships, I say take it how you can get it. You ask them, or they ask you, it never hurts to get to know someone, no matter where it ends up.

I say if you're interested in someone, ask them out. The worst thing they can say is no. There is no reason you should sit idly by while they don't know you like them. Even if you only ask them out for coffee, let them know how you feel and where you stand. While you're sitting there waiting for them to figure it out, anyone else can come in and take away your chance just by asking 1 simple question. "Would you like to go out sometime and get to know each other?" Chances are, they would at least get to know you. From there it's up to you to be yourself and let them see what they could have in their life. If they aren't interested at that point, 1.) At least you tried, 2.) If they weren't into you, maybe you are better off without them. 3.) Maybe once you got to know them better, maybe they weren't really what you were looking for, but you can add it to your list of experiences.

I just wanted to add a thought. This isn't directed to any one person, it was just a random passing thought.

Over the past 100 years, with women wanting equal rights (drive, vote, jobs, military, etc) why shouldn't women take control when they have an attraction to a man. Why should it normally be expected of the man to make the first move? I know there are women out there that do take the first step, but not that many. OR at least that's my assumption. There are too many reasons that either a man or a woman may not know of the other liking them, or wanting a relationship with them. I've learned a long time ago, If you want something, Go for it. If a man asks the woman, or the woman asks the man, The worst they can say is no. At least then you could move on to finding another person of interest.

Also on a side note, I have no personal problems with women's equality. Like I said, this was just a random passing thought.

Though I don't disagree with you, You still haven't answered the question.

For me, I wouldn't say it's a turn on or a turn off. If a woman were to ask me out, I would go with it. Maybe I didn't even know she liked me. Maybe, I wasn't sure if I was what she was looking for. It's nothing I would be intimidated by. It is a bit more forward than what I would be use to. But I would see what would happen and where it could go.

There's no sense in wasting the opportunity of at least getting to know someone. It may be just what some of us need.

Oh, and I didn't know til now that you dump everyone. Sorry to hear that. They must really be losers.....

If you truly love and care about someone, you have to let them be who they are. Accept them for what makes them, well them. You have to accept their faults as well as their accomplishments and achievements. If you can't, your better off letting them go. You should never change who you are because someone wants you to.

Now if you know what they wanted or expected of you, and you wanted to make that change, make sure it's what you really want, not what you will do to keep them. Make sure it's what would be best for you. That is "IF" it's something that you're sure you want.

As always it depends on who you are taking out (or dining in with) as to where you go or what you do. I've known women that only wanted to go to the bar. Others wanted any attention you would give them. It doesn't matter much to me, as long as I make her happy. Personally I would rather save the money and make her a good home cooked meal. I make a mean Lasagna. But, I'm not against taking her out.

On a side note, I'm trying to find a woman that doesn't always feel the need to be taken out to be shown that you care. Long walks, a night on the couch, hiking, camping, canoeing. As long as the time we spend together is well spent, I don't see where it really matters what is done, as long as it's done right......

Maybe they're all just lurking for now, laughing as we ponder the thought of where they are. Or maybe a cat's got their tongues.

I'm still looking around. I'm not looking to meet a lot of people, just the right people. The more the merrier, but it's more of a personal relationship with a significant other that I'm searching for. But thanks for the suggestion.

I can't say that I've ever really had a kiss worthy of mentioning.

Mostly just saying what's up. Don't want to be lurking. lol

Roughly Indiana, Pa
I've only been here 2 days so far, still checking it out. For now.

I know, in a mirror with my eyes closed really doesn't make much sense. It sounded good though.

Actually, it was a typo on my account. I didn't look before I entered it. The H in the middle is suppose to be a J. It should look like this (HPESOJLEAHCIM), and Yes, I can type it upside down, backwards in a mirror with my eyes closed.

Just trying to see if I can find who may be out there.

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Southwestern Pennsylvania

I fix and or build anything and everything my heart desires. I refuse to pay anyone to do anything I can do myself.....

Navygirl, I'm not sure how you disagree. I never said the people involved had to be married. I said in a relationship. A friendship is a relationship. As far as somebody for everybody, I refuse to believe that with 6 Billion plus people on the planet, and now with the Internet, Cell Phones, I-pads and all other forms of technology, there isn't someone for everyone. Maybe it's who you'll "settle" for. Maybe it's exactly who you were looking for or wanted. Maybe your not looking hard enough or in the right places. But there is "Somebody" for everyone. Maybe you just didn't like the choices available.

However, you are entitled to your opinion as am I. I mean no disrespect, just voicing my opinion.

14 years ago I would have answered this much differently. Back then, I was in my late teens, and to me, you had to have a super model body PERIOD. Since then, I have found that it's more in who the person is and what they represent, not their size. I'm divorced from a woman who weighs less than 100 lbs. soaking wet. (From my shallow model chasing days) She was NOOOOO model.. FYI

I have since met quite a few women that would not have qualified as models, but have definitely gained my interest. I will say though, For me, I'm an active, outdoors, motivated, always on the go kind of person, and I want a woman who I can share those things with. Hiking, Canoeing, Biking etc. And I know that women over 220 lbs can do such things, I've had friends and Family members join me on some of these activities, and they aren't skinny. But you also have to have self-esteem and confidence. Don't worry what anyone else thinks. Just do what makes you happy.

I believe there are soul mates out there. Just not in the traditional way of thinking.

With the current population of the planet, there are more than enough men and women that everybody "Should" be able to find someone to make them happy. The "Soul Mate" part comes in after you're already in the relationship. When two appropriately compatible people are in a relationship long enough, They could consider themselves to be soul mates IF the relationship is truly that good for it to be considered as much.

Now ask me if I believe in Love at first sight. That's a different story. I have to say Lust at first sight. I'm sure it could turn into love, but could only start as Lust.