Awww, why such bad luck hun? You're a gorgeous woman.. Although I've been having some pretty bad luck myself

Why, thank you sir. Nice outfit you're wearing there. Well, here's to better luck in 2012 for both of us.

Hm, let's see.

Let's start with grammar. That could be one.

Another thing, if you think looks are everything...
..that could be number two.

Maybe cause you don't post on the forums, so the guys on here don't take notice to you?

Maybe you go after the first guy who does pay you heed, and that's the guy that may just be after you for all the wrong reasons.

Maybe it's not your looks at all, maybe its personality related.

Maybe your dream guy feels that you are 'unapproachable'.

Maybe its your perfume?

Maybe only douches live in your area?

Maybe your attracted to the wrong kind of guys?

Just some ideas...

I could blame it on all or any of the reasons stated throughout this thread- I have only been completely single for 2-21/2 years, for me that's a long time

I think I am just being more careful, been taking some time out for myself, not waiting for the "perfect" man but waiting to find a better emotional connection than I had in my marriage and my last LTR

I wouldn't want a man to feel like he was "settling" by being with me, and I doubt a man would want to feel like I was settling either to be with him.

Also, I have been moving around the last 2 years and it's hard to form connections that way - so some stability is in order as I am happiest when my life is stable and somewhat routine


another reason why the site has been great!! It's been a source of stability recently

oh and just a random note - we are supposed to be telling why WE - ourselves are still single I think ....I wouldn't presume to advise anyone else

well I think I had that perspective somewhat in my early 20s - at that age people also believe that the other person is going to "change"

I'm keen & sharp troubleshooter & I believe in WHY WHY analysis for finding the ROOT CAUSE of any problem.

The technic is simple.

Just recall what immediate action u have you taken for 'NOT BEING SINGLE' & ask

Why u did that? for FIVE times to the answer you arrive everytime.

I'm sure u will find the answer yourself....

All the best.

BTW...I don't think much about "LUCK" but most of the time for most of the people having same question like u....the final answer is "OUR EXPECTATIONS" & remedy to the problem is

"BRING THEM DOWN TO GET YOU UP"

Would you be talking about *MY* outfit? lol ;)

Being single has it's advantages. But in the end, when you go to sleep at night, that's where it takes it's toll. I've been single over 8 years now. LOTS of lonely nights. But, I guess you could say I'm single by choice. I don't want to be, but I have a rule. I will also tell you all this as advice.

NEVER settle for less than you feel you deserve........

If you are a good person, and you'll always do everything you can to help your significant other and make them happy, and that person is what you consider your reason for living and it shows to them, then you already know you are that person and you can decide to settle for the next person that comes along, or wait for someone closer to what you're looking for.

If you are an ******* then you know you are and you really shouldn't be complaining if someone is willing to be with you. No matter who they are, hopefully they won't figure out to soon who you really are.

I'm single because I know someone is out there that is who/what I'm looking for. I haven't found them yet, but I am looking. In the mean time, I just try to find things to fill my time. Who knows, Tomorrow might be my lucky day.

maybe i just need to cool you up a lil

Dont know why your single i have the same thing im pretty i think anyway and a nice person.just lots of guys seem to want diffrent than me i want a relationship with dates to the cinema art galleries etc guys want intamicy straight of a lot of the time i dont want that.ie i want a bf not casual keep posting in the forums and try other date sites and single groups i hate being single to yuck boring i recently moved to london from a country town hope that helps me good luck

Know yourself, most other things fall into place.

Iam here

But the OP isn't! Deactivated already, perhaps impatience is part of the problem.

do you put out on the first date? that may turn a normal guy offf but not me

You know I kind did the same thing.

I created my account, tried for a week looking through profiles, posted once on the forums to complain I didnt get any dates, then deactivated my account.

. . . well fast forward 6mo, to a year . . . I reactivated my account said . . . well screw it, ill just enjoy the forums and maybe send an email once in a blue moon to see if anyone wants to go on a date.

Fast forward a couple more years and I have been on a dozen dates and even had a real nice lady as my girl friend for 6mo before we decided to split( she is a nice lady, we are friends)

Anyways, cheers to all you great minglers out there that make this site cool and keep me coming back for more!

I truly think some people are meant to be alone in life and I'm one of them. Enjoy the friendships you can make here and don't worry about finding someone so soon. Let it happen

Welcome.

Hang around and make some friends. You never know, someone who started off as a friend could be the one you become attracted too. A good relationship starts with friendship, getting to know each other. Don't rush it.

Best of luck to you.

I think I already said because I'm n idiot

but it bears repeating

wats up