...to handle a Real Woman?
.....Are they strong enough to take responsibility??


Greeting, Peace & Blessings to you all!

I must address something that was posted on the board. I will not say where it originated out of "respect", but I feel strongly about it.

Something was written about the "lack of quality" of New Jersey Women.

It was the title of the "original" poster that was off putting. But after reading what one poster said, it wasn't as bad as I thought. But it is the "attitude" of the original poster that I have an issue with. Here's what was written, and then I will post my reply, and then comment. Please feel free to share your thoughts. My goal is to "enlighten" and learn what I lack. But I also have a responsibility to stick up for what I believe is right. Thanks, and God Bless! :)

[The women in Jersey aren’t much better]



{My reply}:

I agree for the most part, about women waiting. But I DO have a PROBLEM with the Title of the Topic. What you're talking about is, much broader. What was said can apply to both men & women throughout the US, if not the world. And to say that women in NJ are "not much better" is an insult to good, honest, hard working women like myself - who are still "single" because we ARE NOT giving it up.

I'm not hating...just voicing my concerns. And I've dated older men, who "claim" to want quality and would wait, and guess what? They couldn't handle it. Then when they get dumped by some easy piece, that they claimed to have fallen in love with, they get bitter and angry. And then all of a sudden, ALL women are lairs, cheaters, and manipulates. You guys can't have it both ways. You have to do the work, and make the effort for a solid and lasting relationship too.

And shouldn't men (when they reach a certain age of maturity) wait too? Shouldn't they have the self-esteem, and self love/self worth, to hold off on intimacy? Men never seem to want to take responsibility for their behavior. But as soon as a women does it...all hell brakes loose. I'm not saying that women should get a "stud" card and equal "player" rights too. I think everyone should get back to what really matters. Finding people you really connect with and taking the time to enjoy the "whole" experience. That includes, friendship, chemistry, learning from each other, growing as a result, and discovering the little "mysteries" that make us all (as individual) so special and unique.

Peace & Blessings!
:)

{My Comments}:

You know...the problem from day 1 has been, that men have been objectifying women. Using women as sex objects, slaves, breeders, nursemaids, etc. Now I'm not talking about the good men in general. I'm taking about the immoral and unethical ones that still do these things to this very day for profit, pleasure, or just plain insanity.

Men “claim” to want a good woman, yet secretly long, and lust for “young succulent flesh” to quote an a friend of a friend. So if men want a “good woman”, then start treating women “good” every day. Better yet, start treating “yourselves” good every day. Because that where it all begins. If you don't hold yourself in “high esteem” ( like you do your car, or other prized possession) then you will treat others the same. Think about it. If your favorite sport star, or singer, or actor, wanted to visit you for the weekend; what would you do? How would you treat that person for the next three days? Would you clean your house? Would you go shopping for the best food? ($100 on a keg of beer, get the best cut of steaks, or $300 for a bottle of wine?) Would you talk to that person any old kind of way? Wouldn't you drive yourself nuts just to make sure that weekend went perfect??

So if you want a good woman, why would you treat women in general, “any old kind of way?” Don't you know that a woman gave birth to you? Don't you know that Women keep humanity going? Yes, men help but do they bring babies to full term? Do they go through the pain of giving life? Do the incur the risk of physical injury or even DEATH to make more “Men?” If it weren't for the strength, courage, patience, kindness, determination, and skills of a woman, none of us would be here. So don't woman deserve the “highest respect” there is?

But no. Men, (again, not all men..you know who you are) you keep making & buying porno. You pay for escorts. Entertainment is based on supply and demand. Sex sells, because YOU demand it. No one can go 10 ft with out seeing sex on the billboards, on sides of buses, TV Ads, etc. You subscribe to the magazines that parade woman around like hot beef on Sunday, lol! And there's nothing wrong with admiring the female form...but the objectifying and abuse of woman has grown into this wild free world of sexual frenzy, where everyone is over sexed, and living on fumes of lust (again,this applies only to those who feed into all of this). So you’ve created this monster, where women are giving it up on the 1st date.

One thing you have to know about women, is we want love. And most women feel “obligated” to have sex, even if they feel comfortable about it at first. Because they want to please you, to love you and be loved in return. It's sad that our morals have taken such a nose dive. But my “point” is that men have brought this on themselves. You cannot want a “good woman or wife” and then continue to make/ help endorse a generation of “loose women”. You can either have the “Prostitute” or the “Good Woman.” And if you're smart enough...then you would realize that if you treat the “good woman” right...she will give you MORE spice in your life than you can handle.

Peace and Blessings!

We can change. Each day is a new one. The choice is yours.

Happy New Year...Thanks and God Bless!

The brave die but once but the coward dies a thousand times. There should be more to life than just death though. It is true that a woman brought me into this world and I love her dearly. And she is a real woman. I have five sisters and many cousins and many female relatives. But to love outside of the family with a real woman would take real bravery. Who could be that brave?

Who indeed! :)

Happy New Year & Thanks for responding.

You are welcome. I hope this year brings you happiness.

An equally real one is. Its hard to say, its different with everyone.

Bottom line: porn has ruined everything

I would also like to include Movies, Music Videos, TV shows, and Music in general. Sex sells and that's all you see or hear about. It is sad when you think about it.

Yeah, sad reality. Porn isn't including JUST pornos, it really ties into everything. Can humanity be saved? That is the question...

I have no idea. Prostitution has been around since the ancient world. I would not go as far to say humanity is ending.

Humanity in and of itself is losing its human touch. There's a lot of reasons for this change.

Thanks for the post. I was brought up in a world of women. My mother was abused and spent most of her life just trying to make ends meet for myself and my sisters. So, I fully understand all of this on a pretty deep level. Society has changed completely, both men and women are continually dragging it down on many levels, and keeping the frenzy of sexuality alive. As you said, you see it everyplace, virtually anywhere you turn your head. It is frustrating, but each of us has the ability to decide what it means to us. I can look at it, and shrug it off... I have a deep respect for women and having grown up the way I did, I more often than not find a lot of it disgusting. In the same vein, each other person has the ability to make a stand, and say.. "I won't be like that" or "I won't follow that"... but of course, history has proven most of the time that is not the case. Not everyone is like that of course, but they are choked out by both those who are, and those who just don't see it as an issue.

Is it even an issue? Maybe. Depends on your point of view. Again, I try not to let it bother me, because I know what I stand for and that has to be enough. I won't say porn has ruined everything, because people have been using sex and sexuality as a weapon since ancient times. But it did make it more conventional and accessible to virtually anybody. Which of course has blown it up to unimaginable standards.

Sex sells, and virtually everybody is buying. And it will continue to be this way until people fully start standing up and saying it is not for them. Of course, I don't ever see that happening, but it is a nice thought.

What exactly has porn ruined?

That IS entirely up to us.....

The 12-year-old curious male minds of the country. To start. Women get a bad rep too when it comes to showing skin but men are the prime target for that market. Just saying.

What do I get in return? Peeps marshmallows?

A: The guy was from Joisey.......what do you expect? Manners or Machismo?

B: Porn is bad? HA!

C: Happy New Year Middi and welcome to the Mingletard circus.

women from New Jersey? Hey just a guess - no way am I reading all of that

but yanno I went to college with a bunch of New Jersey girls - they didn't rock quite like Pa (pennsylvania), but they were cool

nicely said klc!

Specifics: shemale, fetish, S&M, some of it is out of hand. Bestiality?

Is this your things to do list for the NewYear????

hey if you don't like it you don't have to watch it

seriously tho...porn wouldn't be the billion dollar industry that it is if people didn't watch it!