Topic: Do woman change after marriage
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Thu 01/05/12 06:54 PM

Makes me wonder why someone always thinks that they should benefit from actions they take. Whether it be marriage or anything...

Everyone changes through life and no one is perfect!

How can one expect someone perfect when they have flaws themselves?






what's that old saying about people who live in glass houses should not throw stones???

seriously - I think the psycho-social responsibility for the success of a relationship does get put in the woman's lap - which is ridiculous - it takes both partners to make it work


parttime_vikingfan's photo
Thu 01/05/12 07:10 PM
Not so seriously, but often true none the less.

When you get married you stop getting head!

I knew I should have been eating cinnamon instead of broccoli!.....lololol


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Thu 01/05/12 07:28 PM

Not so seriously, but often true none the less.

When you get married you stop getting head!

I knew I should have been eating cinnamon instead of broccoli!.....lololol


huh

irisheyes79's photo
Fri 01/06/12 07:28 AM
yup they stop lookin good put on weight stop puttin out n nag n ***** n moan ohhhh n tend to pop out kids like they are a pez dispenser

msharmony's photo
Fri 01/06/12 07:41 AM
Edited by msharmony on Fri 01/06/12 07:41 AM

I've heard it said that:

1. Women marry, hoping to eventually change him but he doesn't change.

2. Men marry, hoping she'll never change but she changes. Especially after kids.



huge mistakes

I think men tend to cling to their youth harder, because few roles in their life come with expectation for them to do anything but

whereas women, especially after becoming mothers, are expected to take on alot more responsibility which makes it harder to cling to being 'young',,,they have a much higher expectation in society to 'grow up'


although its more acceptable now than in the past for women to be their kids 'friends' and not have to grow up,,,,

MariahsFantasy's photo
Fri 01/06/12 09:36 AM

I've heard it said that:

1. Women marry, hoping to eventually change him but he doesn't change.

2. Men marry, hoping she'll never change but she changes. Especially after kids.


Must have missed this one. I was aware not everyone thought with the same brain. Even I, a doubter in men for most part disbelieve this theory. Having never been married, though once engaged, I never expected him to change at all. We grow, it should only get better, right? The reason why most marriages do not work out is simple. People are themselves and cannot be changed, but when you've fallen so hard for them as a whole, it becomes difficult to see their true selves. You've excepted all their imperfections. But too many of those will never work out.

irisheyes79's photo
Fri 01/06/12 10:08 AM


I've heard it said that:

1. Women marry, hoping to eventually change him but he doesn't change.

2. Men marry, hoping she'll never change but she changes. Especially after kids.


Must have missed this one. I was aware not everyone thought with the same brain. Even I, a doubter in men for most part disbelieve this theory. Having never been married, though once engaged, I never expected him to change at all. We grow, it should only get better, right? The reason why most marriages do not work out is simple. People are themselves and cannot be changed, but when you've fallen so hard for them as a whole, it becomes difficult to see their true selves. You've excepted all their imperfections. But too many of those will never work out.
women have evil intentions when they marry

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Fri 01/06/12 10:57 AM
Edited by MariahsFantasy on Fri 01/06/12 10:57 AM



I've heard it said that:

1. Women marry, hoping to eventually change him but he doesn't change.

2. Men marry, hoping she'll never change but she changes. Especially after kids.


Must have missed this one. I was aware not everyone thought with the same brain. Even I, a doubter in men for most part disbelieve this theory. Having never been married, though once engaged, I never expected him to change at all. We grow, it should only get better, right? The reason why most marriages do not work out is simple. People are themselves and cannot be changed, but when you've fallen so hard for them as a whole, it becomes difficult to see their true selves. You've excepted all their imperfections. But too many of those will never work out.
women have evil intentions when they marry


I didn't. I wanted to marry him so I can be with him and have a family.

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Fri 01/06/12 11:05 AM
Do woman change after marriage?


I was happy, fun, sexy and flirty before I married my second husband. It was what attracted him to me.

But after we were married, he hated that. He did not want me to be happy, fun, sexy or flirty. I think it made him jealous. He wanted me to be a serious slave, secretary, helpmate, wife, hostess, housekeeper, cook, etc etc, etc.

Suddenly he didn't like the person he married and wanted me to change. Then later, HE complained that I had changed.

Men seem to expect you to change after they marry you. They think they now own you and you should do as they say, be as they say, and think as they want you to think.

I hate marriage.


irisheyes79's photo
Fri 01/06/12 11:21 AM

Do woman change after marriage?


I was happy, fun, sexy and flirty before I married my second husband. It was what attracted him to me.

But after we were married, he hated that. He did not want me to be happy, fun, sexy or flirty. I think it made him jealous. He wanted me to be a serious slave, secretary, helpmate, wife, hostess, housekeeper, cook, etc etc, etc.

Suddenly he didn't like the person he married and wanted me to change. Then later, HE complained that I had changed.

Men seem to expect you to change after they marry you. They think they now own you and you should do as they say, be as they say, and think as they want you to think.

I hate marriage.
then get out if you hate it so muchbigsmile


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Fri 01/06/12 11:30 AM


Do woman change after marriage?


I was happy, fun, sexy and flirty before I married my second husband. It was what attracted him to me.

But after we were married, he hated that. He did not want me to be happy, fun, sexy or flirty. I think it made him jealous. He wanted me to be a serious slave, secretary, helpmate, wife, hostess, housekeeper, cook, etc etc, etc.

Suddenly he didn't like the person he married and wanted me to change. Then later, HE complained that I had changed.

Men seem to expect you to change after they marry you. They think they now own you and you should do as they say, be as they say, and think as they want you to think.

I hate marriage.



then get out if you hate it so muchbigsmile



I did.

There are 50 ways to leave your lover.

I took a bus.

MariahsFantasy's photo
Fri 01/06/12 11:35 AM



Do woman change after marriage?


I was happy, fun, sexy and flirty before I married my second husband. It was what attracted him to me.

But after we were married, he hated that. He did not want me to be happy, fun, sexy or flirty. I think it made him jealous. He wanted me to be a serious slave, secretary, helpmate, wife, hostess, housekeeper, cook, etc etc, etc.

Suddenly he didn't like the person he married and wanted me to change. Then later, HE complained that I had changed.

Men seem to expect you to change after they marry you. They think they now own you and you should do as they say, be as they say, and think as they want you to think.

I hate marriage.



then get out if you hate it so muchbigsmile



I did.

There are 50 ways to leave your lover.

I took a bus.


where there's a will...

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Fri 01/06/12 11:42 AM
I left town with very little money, and two suitcases on a bus. I came to Springfield and I've been here since. I filed my own divorce here in town.

MariahsFantasy's photo
Fri 01/06/12 01:28 PM
Goodness, you really started completely anew. I guess that's what going through it will do to you.

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Fri 01/06/12 01:32 PM
I believe that when you end a relationship, you should end it, accept that it is over, get over it, and move on as quickly as possible.

You only have so many minutes in your life. Enjoy them.


MariahsFantasy's photo
Fri 01/06/12 01:35 PM
What sucks about a loving relationship is no matter how many actual things you get rid of, the love you had for them doesn't leave you. At least for me.

But I'm all in the moment too. I don't believe in dwelling in something that's done and over. You say your goodbyes, carry on...

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Fri 01/06/12 01:38 PM
You can certainly continue to "love" a person but that does not mean you have to live with them and put up with their bull or their abuse.

You don't even have to be friends with them. You don't even have to ever talk to them again.

Love them in a detached manner. Hope that they find their way without you.

If you hold bad feelings or hate towards them, you are still holding on. You have to let go and let them be.


MariahsFantasy's photo
Fri 01/06/12 01:44 PM
I'm pretty neutral now when it comes to that stuff. I don't hold on like I used to since every time I did, I would close myself off and not trust anyone. I locked my heart for a while with my last relationship. Now I don't put up with any kind of crap from guys. Its just a tough game to get out there once again to the deep waters, but I prefer it to the person I was before. I hated that person. I hope I never go back there.

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Fri 01/06/12 01:46 PM
Always be who you are. Who you are is who you want to be. Be happy. Don't let someone else tell you how you should be.


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Fri 01/06/12 01:51 PM

Always be who you are. Who you are is who you want to be. Be happy. Don't let someone else tell you how you should be.




And this is why I say women don't change (or men)...you are just in closer proximity and their quirks.