I have to laugh. My profile is truthful down to me working with handicapped boys and knowing every fart joke ever. I have been accused of writing a "Russian novel" as a profile. The illiterates do not read mine. I think I scare everyone else off. I do not mention dating a Russian drug cartel gunman at 19 LOL. I saw the
Berlin wall fall down from in a drug limo eating Burger King outside the Magic Castle in LA. I figure that is too much information. LOL. Or that I used to be able to assemble guns in the dark or load and shoot everything short of an Uzi. LOL. Men don't like that. Or that a 4th degree black belt taught me how to kick ***. LOL. Or that I was proposed to because I think it's fun to clean guns. LOL. I am scary enough without that information.

Or you find out that they're actually married, then they get mad at you for judging them.

No, those I just demand they do not tell their wife and just send me sexy pictures. LOL.

I wonder just how many profiles are pure honesty? Would you say on your profile that you have a bad temper? or say you are a messy person? or that you are head strong? Of course not; as you want to put your best foot forward. So, is that lying or considered giving limited information? I know if I was dating; I could not tell a man I was independent, can do renos, not afraid to travel alone, or do martial arts. Why, because he would feel threatened by this. I would have to hide this information about myself; get to know him and then slowly bit by bit let him know; ease him into it so to speak. Would this be considered a lie or deception? Maybe folks are afraid to be 100% honest for fear of scaring others off. Just something to ponder.

I would say it's lying if a guy says he's a neat freak, yet is actually very messy. Or if he said that he never gets angry, yet actually has a very bad temper. I don't expect these things to be mentioned in a profile, though.

Navygirl I think sometimes we are a lot alike though different. Like I freely admit if they ask do I cook, absolutely. I am an awesome cook. Do I clean? NO. But I consider men with vacuum cleaners and who do dishes incredibly sexy and they have been jumped with soap bubbles still on their wrists from the sink..

Hmm, you will have to put man with vacuum cleaner only need apply on your profile.

I own two but forget how to turn them on. Vacuums not men. LOL

Honesty is always the best policy

I think it saves time (this is hypothetical, because it incorporates the idea that someone might actually want to meet at some point!) to be up front about negatives as well as positives. So, in various incarnations of my profile, I have mentioned my short attention span ("Gerbil on crack" usually says it all), my tendency to come across as an Arrogant Narcissistic Conceited Jerk (to the point that entire threads have been devoted to this), my rigidity on certain deal-breakers, despite the cadre of whiners who refuse to accept that my standards are what they are, my abhorrence of Oxi-Clean commercials, etc.

People need to know these things before they can make an informed decision about whether or not they want to know you, or buy your books, or send you anonymous gifts, or whatever.

Also, you will never see me describe myself as "laid back and easy going" in any profile, ever. Totally guaranteed.

So really isn't it a case of damned if you do and damned if you don't. As I said; you want to put your best foot forward in a profile and you aren't going to share your bad habits; so to speak. So, would it be only considered a lie if it was completely opposite of what they said? Is it okay to say I am a neat freak for example but really this neatfreak falls off the clean wagon once in a while. Would that be an acceptable lie?

he he, I was just going to jump on that comment but you specified vaccums not men so you were pretty quick on that one.

I don't know about that one, but I do know that "I'm looking for an intelligent guy" is almost a universal lie....

Maybe to someone else who is a neat freak? Those aren't really things I worry about much. They will come out when we get to know each other, though. Especially if it does get to the point of meeting.

Intelligence comes in varying degrees. I think a man does not have to have a University degree to be intelligent but he should be able to hold a basic conversation with me. I also think one should be intelligent enough to want to learn new things but that is just my thoughts.

My profile is the "Real Deal". what you read and what you see is who you get.

My personality is also like my postings in the forums.

I have met 7 people from mingle in person.

One was a total loser.

The other six people that I met were so much like their personalities here on mingle.

So, you are saying its all in the person' perspective on how they read or understand someone's profile. You are right though; that whatever a person with held or lied about comes out eventually.

PNot really I prefer to keep it short and sweet, prefer to let people find out what they want about me from me directly :-)

I hate that personally. If you say nothing in your profile, I have nothing to ask you. I hate those guys who say I am an open book ask me anything. I do not know if I am looking at a cheap romance novel, the dictionary, The E volume of the encyclopedia, a television instruction manual, etc. to know what to ask.