Rats, another microwave opportunity missed!

Rat based microwave ready meals?...gonna have to think about how that'll affect my diet

Let me know though when we are talking about Shake and Bake.

A while back I told you guys about a friend of mine who is "one great guy". Some thought it was cool that I was doing this and others I'm sure rolled their eyes as they do with about anything, always taking the slightly negative or critical view.

Well, I'm very happy to announce that my friend is one step away from the life time love he has always sought. How did this happen? It's simple, they both came together as open as possible. Money was not a main issue, nor was looks, nor was what is right or wrong about each other. In fact when they first met and he was seeing her and maybe one or 2 more on a first meet type of thing I told him that he needed to run toward this woman and let her run toward him and watch what happens. I've seen this before and it hardly ever fails. If a person is spending their time being picky over things that don't matter they might as well hang up their dating cap or get ready for a relationship that is going to be painful. Sometimes, many times we are so closed minded that we don't see the beauty around us.

When you were in high school remember how there were some in your class that you thought were hot and others not so much? After you got out of school and a couple of years went by you ran into those not so hot ones and said wow! remember? Well, open your eyes people. You are your own worse enemy much of the time. Dating today can really stink with all of it's fake seasonings. If your hungry jump in and prepare your food. If the ones you meet aren't ready for your level of maturity move on. If you happen to have a fast food date, so? Don't judge yourself or your love life by this. Maybe even getting dumped quickly could be the best thing that could ever happen to you. You don't know what's going to flip that switch for you and them so why try to analyze it to death.

Here's a way I know if someone is ready for a real responsible relationship. After meeting someone do you look at their negatives or positives? Do you see what you perceive as their faults to be something they need to change or something that has potential for them under the right conditions? When I see people always jumping to judge way before they look into the whys and possibilities I shake my head and say "long way to go".

You know what I think are the number one and two qualities in a mate over any other including looks? patience and kindness. If these two are genuine there is a beauty that glows around a person.

And why it took me more than 4 years to get dumped, Dada? Is it because you stopped watching over me because you have been busy with your own love life? LOL

And why it took me more than 4 years to get dumped, Dada? Is it because you stopped watching over me because you have been busy with your own love life? LOL

Oh babygirl, so much to learn

A very good female friend of mine compares 21st Century dating to microwaveable ready meals.

What she means by this is that is if we (both genders) don’t put out on the first date, we’re dumped. If we wear the wrong clothing, we’re dumped. If we don't drive the right car, we're dumped. If we don’t give BJ’s we’re dumped. If your eye lashes are too long/short, we’re dumped. Basically, we’re too quick to dump or are dumped.

Obviously, I am simplifying for effect but from my own personal experiences of dating, I know that I am wary of making too many compromises early on, particularly if I am the only one compromising.

Don’t get me wrong, I would have the conversation but if nothing changed, I would dump or be dumped.

This is a bit of a contradiction for me because I believe that if I met someone that is mutually compatible, over time, once trust, respect, likeability, love etc had been established, a partner, can be moulded (for lack of a better word), into my ideal...logically, I know that this doesn’t happen overnight. It isn’t automatic. It takes time...I know all of this but have still fallen into the 5 minute ready meal trap? Why is this?

Have we evolved into a society of microwave daters i.e. those wanting effortless relationships?

OT:

Welcome to modern society and "open minded" thinking. Instant everything is a product of our increased technology and business marketing practices. Few care about tomorrow but only what makes $$$ and orgasms today.

Waiting on sex is "old fashion" and "backward", right? My guess is if it wasn't for mass media and birth control some of these issues wouldn't be at such a high level. Would they still be there: sure. But not at such a pandemic level. But then I'm older and expected to take a negative view on no sex restraints.

To old to sin, right?

We're reaping what we have sown for the last 40 years and we're hoping for a crop failure.

From the stats I am reading on teen rates of pregnancy (down) and STD's (Up) also resulting in serility (also up in a big way) we may have to wonder if all this instant sex is going to fall out of style when the birth rate starts getting too low.

It's a good thing I'm taken cause I don't know what half the buttons on my microwave are for.

I think there's definitely a power-trip element to it.

"I can change him." It's a project, it's a mission, it's a goal. "If I can accomplish this, it will prove that I'm more important to him than his own beliefs and values."

There's a disturbing insecurity behind that sort of mentality, one I've seen all too often, and one that I want nothing to do with. Anyone who NEEDS that kind of power over another person is not someone I would be comfortable with.

I believe in having standards and not wasting time with men that do not meet those standards.

I'm too young to waste my time on trying to "change/fix" someone to my liking, and I have enough experience to know that if he doesn't meet my standards, I will never be completely happy.

My standards aren't about looks or money or superficiality.

I care about honesty, loyalty, faithfulness, etc.

So I have had a lot of microwave relationships, but I promise it wasn't because they didn't have nice butts. ;)

I’m not arrogant enough to say that I’m perfect as I am. I’m more than aware that there are a few elements of my persona that could do with a bit of tweaking here and there. I’m always open to suggestions...as long as someone doesn’t want to change who I am on a fundamental level.

Naw... I wouldn't wanna change a soul, honest.
But I'm "horribly" inquisitive and wanna to know what I'm "getting into"... but I end up interrogating.

Seems peeps get all waded up when you ask them what they "really mean" on any view that they hold dear... and if they hold it "dear", then I wanna understand it, see?
They see... you wanna change me. haha. Whicj ain't true.

But I'm the common denominator... so I guess I need to figure out other ways.

"Microwave" anything seems all too common to me... and I'm not sure that I like it.
Good poat...