You're in a relationship with a suppose opposite sex partner and after a while in the relationship, you found out that they're transgender. Do you kick their butt or let it be? You're straight but already loving them.

the same as if I was with someone I thought was single and later found was married

or someone I thought was a stranger and later found out was a sibling


it would of course be harder to do the more emotion had been invested, but I still have control of myself and my body to not be 'sexually' involved in an inappropriate situation

I happen to feel two people with XX chromosome is an inappropriate sexual relationship, so it would have to end

although the friendship could absolutely remain in tact

Ummm I think they would be in big trouble..

For me it would be finished straight away, I hate any type of lies, so that would be a major thing I would choose not to get over.

And to me even though I would still be friends I would still see them as the wrong sex

You're right, self control and cutting it off would be the appropriate thing to do, really

Wrong sex? Lol... Or do i call it surgically induced gender? Ooosh (sigh)

Do you really think you wouldn't know? And would you really resort to violence if you didn't find out until later?

It wouldn't be violent but hurtful, especially if you're already seeing them in ur future. One might not know, especially if it's done in beverly hills...lol. The surgery could be perfect

Im not sure if it wouldnt feel like a violation if there was sex involved,, almost like rape, because you are in a way being forced into sex with someone you dont want sex with (forced by trickery,,,)

There is no love when you can't trust the one you are with. A relationship can not be based on lies.....One should never deceive the one they are with hoping it will work out in the end....

Yep wrong sex, if they had been female, no matter how i looked at it, I could not accept it.

Not that they had changed sexes, that wouldnt make a difference if they where a friend, but if they where my partner it would.

Depends if you took the tradesmans entrance or not. If you didnt, then sure kick his *** if it makes you feel better. If you did, well you better call it quits and get some therapy cos thats gonna come back and haunt you one day, late at night, when your all alone...and spoil many a good evening.

Apply for a Darwin Award.

ANother good reason to steer clear of mixing sex with that area of the body,,,,,

...you know it is.

That's all up to you on what you can handle, but you should never resort to violence just because someone's different. Out of the GLBT community, transgendered are at the bottom of the totem pole and are faced with a constant battery of degredation, humiliation, and cruelty especially in the early stages of their transition. Do some research, think about it, or just walk away if you can't handle it or you feel wronged beyond repair. Since I don't know the situation, I can't tell you anything else, but I'll post a link for you to look at.

http://www.ntac.org/transgender-news

Great advice given about if you can't handle it. Just because one can't handle it doesn't mean that someone else might be able to handle it. My ex and her feller are doing fine. I am so happy for them. Reminds me of this old black and white film I watched this one time. This one guy kept telling his partner that he wasn't right for him. Of course, his partner kept telling him that was okay. The one guy didn't know the other guy really was a guy because he was fixed up as a woman. The one guy who was dressed up as a woman thought it was the perfect opportunity to be completely honest with the guy dressed up as a guy because he didn't want any secrets between them. So he says, "But I am a guy, too." That is when the female impersonator says, "That's okay. Nobody's perfect." The film leaves it up to the audience what will happen next.

Do you think there is such a thing as having too many skeletons in your closet?

Nope. No butt kicking..it would end. For me, no matter how much I loved the person, my love would not forgive this betrayal.

It would be the same if my partner expressed bisexual urges. I have absolutely nothing against bisexual men, I just prefer to date 110% heterosexuals.

Nope, there are just closets that aren't big enough.

You know if a person had a big enough closet they would never have to come out. Talk about the ultimate form of isolation. Gives me claustrophobia just thinking about it.