When dateing when do you think it is approriate to discuss who pays what or how financially capabale a person is to do various things? I ask because I live on a budget and assume most of the people I would date do also. But I am never sure if I am insulting my date by chipping in or making him feel like I am gold digger if I don't. Money seems to be a delicate subject. Any opinions?

well being the southern gentleman that I am........I'd let you pay for everything

Old fashioned. If he asks, he pays. I may offer, but if he accepts, he's toast.

note to self...*don't expect SKP to pay*

Interesting to see this posted right now...

I would very much like to see Cirque de Soleil live, and they are in Toronto soon. I have an online friend up there that I've not met in person yet, and would have loved to call her and ask her to join me, except...

When checking for tickets... it would cost me about $400, which I cannot afford, so... I never made the call.

Back to your original question... if it's a dinner date, you should probably *offer*, but I personally, would never let my date pay.

Larger expenses such as the one I mentioned... should *probably* be talked about, but... (can't think of a good excuse to put here of *why I'm not doing it*)

I always offer to help pay for dates. No one has ever been offended by that.

So it's a test when you offer? If someone did that to me, it would probably be my last date with them. Why offer when you clearly don't want to pay?

I am old fashioned.... I ask for the cheque and pay for the date.... I usually thank my date for her company and that I would be happy look after the dates cost....

Some signi simple like dinner and movie. . .I would say the one who askes pays. But I usually reciprocate by paying the next time or something. When it comes to something more expensive i dont think their is any thing wrong with saying hey id really Like to go see ____. Wanna split the cost and come with me?

I'm not all that "old fashion" but if it is a date and he asked me out I do expect him to pay cause I'm usually pretty broke.

A fascinating topic! Well, over here in England, tradition demands that the gentleman always pays. If the lady kindly offers to help with the costs, this is politely refused.

I like English gents.

And English gents tend to admire and greatly respect American ladies.

singmesweet,

Your picture looks a bit like the Mona Lisa.

I think it depends on who asks who out... if i ask a woman out, then she is under no obligation to pay for anything while on the date, if she asks, then she should pay...

I wonder why.

I thought they were thought of as spoiled brats. LOL

When dating, I always offer to ‘chip in’. If there came a time that I could not afford to go dutch, I would reschedule or let my him know that I could not afford to go out that evening and let him decide whether or not he wanted to foot the bill.

Personally, I would feel that I was being dishonest if I gave my date the impression that I had a limitless supply of money when I didn’t. Obviously, there are some little white lies that are told, but I try to keep those to a minimum .

Also, I’ve reached an age whereby I want to have more honest (and open) relationships with the people that I date and I no longer feel embarrassed about admitting to not being able to afford to go out, or pretending to like something when I don’t.

ps: Benji, I live in London and while most guys are happy to pay on first dates, there is an unspoken agreement that the woman at least makes an offer to pay on subsequent dates.

I`d rather pay in all my dates. I feel better this way but It really depends on the date and the person I am with. If I feel that paying will make him upset I leave it alone. But there is no way in hell I wont offer to pay my part.

I love my Sugar Momma!

I tip the strippers and so should you....so I would suggest bringing some dollar bills so you can have a good date too.

That rhymed!

:)