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Topic: should you go to bed with someone on the first date
leslie Joined Thu 03/12/09 Posts: 170	Mon 10/17/11 11:19 AM
should you got to bed with somone on the first date

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 10/17/11 11:20 AM
That's something you'll need to decide for yourself.

leslie Joined Thu 03/12/09 Posts: 170	Mon 10/17/11 11:37 AM
well it can make you feel cheap. or its the one you will never let go

Chazster Joined Tue 08/28/07 Posts: 6206	Mon 10/17/11 11:39 AM
If the girl wants to I do lol.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 10/17/11 11:39 AM Edited by singmesweet on Mon 10/17/11 11:40 AM
well it can make you feel cheap. or its the one you will never let go Everyone has different feelings when it comes to sex on the first date. Some are ok with it, some aren't. Some can handle it, some can't.

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45399	Mon 10/17/11 11:44 AM
It's all in the moment. Until you sleep with them, there is a lot of missing information. One more piece of the puzzle.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Mon 10/17/11 12:08 PM
should you got to bed with somone on the first date I would say nope. You do that a guy won't respect you or ever have any contact with you again. They are funny that way.

Conrad_73 Joined Sat 09/29/07 Posts: 22488	Mon 10/17/11 12:10 PM
Probably a bad Idea!

mreal121 Joined Thu 10/06/11 Posts: 1	Mon 10/17/11 12:12 PM
someone is desperate,someone is not,isnt it cheap!!

Mikey117 Joined Mon 11/20/06 Posts: 23736	Mon 10/17/11 12:17 PM
If it feels right , then why not? first date or 50th date doesnt matter, follow your feelings!!! And contrary what some think, most guys will respect U if they really like U, they ones that dont are shallow and will not respect U no matter what!! b

leslie Joined Thu 03/12/09 Posts: 170	Mon 10/17/11 12:30 PM
someone is desperate,someone is not,isnt it cheap!! that quote on your pic. so do you know about life?

Shy_Emo_chick Joined Fri 04/01/11 Posts: 4393	Mon 10/17/11 12:44 PM
Not me, no. I really need to feel there's something between us before that ever happens. Lol. Each to their own.

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Mon 10/17/11 12:53 PM
IMO, it all depends on how comfortable you are in your skin and how you view sex...there are those that say, men won’t respect you if you ‘give in’ too easily. Guess what? You’re the only person that has to look at themselves in the mirror and be happy with the person looking back. When I was younger, there was all this stuff about waiting until the fifth date or something stupid like that. As I got older, I realised that if the relationship’s going to work, it will work whether you had sex on the first, fifth or tenth date. You may decide to have sex on the first date and never see that person again. Then again, you may wait for a specific period and never see that person again... I’m a carpe diem sort of person and try not to live my life with regrets, so if I’ve had a really good date and I want to...I will regardless of the outcome. Be safe...trust your instincts

pennyg281 Joined Thu 11/08/07 Posts: 4348	Mon 10/17/11 01:09 PM
I agree with BlackBB. Your the only one you have to answer to for your choices. Only you know the situation and the chemistry involved. Honestly the biggest risk ive found that you run into by having sex on the frist date is that it usually leads to a relationship baised only on sex. . and at this point in my life I want more than that.

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Mon 10/17/11 02:10 PM
Honestly the biggest risk ive found that you run into by having sex on the frist date is that it usually leads to a relationship baised only on sex. The longest relationship that I've ever had lasted 10 yrs and he was someone that I had sex with on a first date...In the UK we use the'Horses for courses' saying which means what may work for one person may not work for another.

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Mon 10/17/11 02:13 PM
I wouldnt, good sex or great sex have a way of blinding us to all the other things that are truly important(if those things are bad, great sex keeps us from seeing it,,if those things are great, bad sex keeps us from seeing it) For me, sex is the smallest piece of what bonds, so I prefer to get to it last, once I know the big pieces will work.

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76436	Mon 10/17/11 02:16 PM
It's all in the moment. Until you sleep with them, there is a lot of missing information. One more piece of the puzzle. Ditto..........as some say it all depends on what each person can deal with.....

Optomistic69 Joined Mon 10/10/11 Posts: 5173	Mon 10/17/11 02:28 PM
should you got to bed with somone on the first date After clean bills of Health are exchanged....

leslie Joined Thu 03/12/09 Posts: 170	Mon 10/17/11 02:32 PM
should you got to bed with somone on the first date After clean bills of Health are exchanged.... sure good thought. but how many is really gona have them paper to show LOL!

Optomistic69 Joined Mon 10/10/11 Posts: 5173	Mon 10/17/11 02:35 PM
After clean bills of Health are exchanged.... sure good thought. but how many is really gona have them paper to show LOL! Men and those between 55 and 59 were significantly more likely to have an STD than anyone else over 45. Among women, rates were highest among those 45 to 54; among men, rates were highest among those 55 to 60-plus.