{{{{{Sherrie}}}}}

Jon just sent you our numbers and he is here with me until Thursday, so if you want to talk, it is bonus time and you will get two-fers until then....(the two of US, I mean )

Love you and you are still in our prayers.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IGMW6YWjMxw
be the hummingbird. :-)continue to do the best you can..

Please,,STOP,,thinking ITS YOU!!!
James is a SMART KID,,,and because of THAT,,,he CAN,,play the sysytem and YOU!
I don't mean to make you feel worse here,,,BUT,,talking about doing yourself in,,is NOT,,going to help HIM,,or YOU,,,and its also not going to help YOU,,keep custidy of HIM,,because THE WORLD READS THIS..and your ex CAN use that against you..to gain favor of him.
Write me and SCREAM,,callme and SCREAM,,but this place is NOT where you want to open to...write in emails to your friends,,,
YOUR A GOOD MOTHER,,KIDS ARE GOOD KIDS,,,but never think that because one does what THEY WANT TO DO,,,THAT """THATS""""ANYTHING YOU MADE HAPPEN!!!,,because its NOT!
James is with the wrong group of kids to hang with,,,he KNOWS your love for HIM,,,and with no man to set on him,,at his age now,,,HE is THINKING HE CAN DO WHAT HE WANTS...Because he knows YOUR EXCEPT HIM,,NO-MATTER WHAT! So,,,,he does,,,and he will,,,until HE KNOWS HE CAN'T,,,and rehabs our mostly JOKES for them to boast about to their friends who also HAVE BEEN THERE....
WHAT kind of a teenager were YOU?,,,Were you WILD and getting into as much as you could,,w/o getting caught doing it?
I WAS,,,and I did everything bad,,back then...
KIDS will ALWAYS BE KIDS,,,its up to us to TRY OUR BEST to keep them safe and walk around SHIIIT! But SOME kids who are very smart can play and use our love like it was nothing..
You NEED some interventions,,,a pastor who is young?
A cop who is a Friend?
Someone James can see,,,as someone HE CAN'T MANIPULATE,,and also someone HE CAN RESPECT,,,because
one,,,he feels THAT for them
two,,he KNOWS he better,,lol
Three,,because HE KNOWS THEIR NOT JUST PASSING THROUGH,,but THEIR THERE ALWAYS FOR HIM....
Stop beating YOURSELF UP,,,and TAKE CHARGE OF YOU,,pull yourself together and be strong for HIM,,but more strong for YOU..
THIS IS JUST PART OF BEING A GOOD MOM..
I don't know you,james,or your ex....BUT
I can tell you that IF I were you,,,and YOU FEEL,,you can't do this for James,,MAYBE the BEST option MIGHT BE to talk with your ex and see what he thinks,,if he's been a constant part of James life?
James might be better with your ex raising him,,,,IF JAMES knows his dad won't let him use him? or let him get by over what he says?
But ending your life,,is like you waking and finding James dead?
Because THATS HOW JAMES WOULD FEEL......and then FORGET JAMES EVER BEING BETTER...YOU would have only showed HIM,,,how to die,,not how to live. I'm sorry IF this seems harsh,,,but your LIFE and HIS is worth ANY STRUGGLE EITHER OF YOU CAN GO THROUGH TOGETHER...YOU have my number,,when you get like this and you need someone who will be REAL with you about this,,call me,cuss me ,,but PLEASE,,,don't feel,think,,or act,,,like James is HERE,,because of YOU!,,because James is ONLY HERE,,,because HE WANTS TO BE HERE..
My daughters 31 Sherrie,,and has tried to kill her self already once this year,,NOW....I LIVE KNOWING THAT THE NEXT PHONE CALL MIGHT BE HER ENDING,,,its been a very long life time already for us both,,,BUT WE'RE """BOTH""" STILL HERE! PRAISE THE GOOD LORD!
sorry i gave you a book,,but this needed to be said to you here..YOU AND JAMES ARE BOTH VERY MUCH PRAYED FOR HERE BY ME...

Strength

Our Father, who art in Heaven,
hallowed be Thy Name.
Thy Kingdom come,
Thy Will be done,
On Earth,
As it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread,
and forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil.

Father, I ask that you please take James, and safely put him on a rock.Take him away from the raging storm. I say, I cast out the enemy, and tell him, "you cannot touch James, for he is a child of God".

God spread your wings of protection over him, and take him from this horrible place. I have seen in myself, the miracles that you can perform, in healing. Please provide James with the strength, and power, to cast out the enemy, and let him see a miracle through God.

I ask this in the name of your son, Jesus Christ.

Psalm 30:2:O Lord my God, I cried to you for help, and you have healed me.

Psalm 103:2-5:Bless the Lord, O my soul, and do not forget all his benefits--who forgives all your iniquity, who heals all your diseases, who redeems your life from the Pit, who crowns you with steadfast love and mercy, who satisfies you with good as long as you live so that your youth is renewed like the eagle's.

Psalm 91:3-4:For he will deliver you from the snare of the fowler and from the deadly pestilence; he will cover you with his pinions, and under his wings you will find refuge; his faithfulness is a shield and buckler.

Luke 1:37:For with God, nothing will be impossible.

Matthew 10:1:He gave them power over unclean spirits, to cast them out, and to heal all kinds of sickness and all kinds of disease.

Amen.





To 2Kids:Its 3:34 in the morning, and I woke up crying, and then immediately saw this thread.

How did I now see the thread before now?

God can, has, and will perform miracles in James.

I was delivered from a horrible place, that I spent MANY years in. James can be as well.

Have him read my profile.

I went through hell, to get to heaven.

But God can make James clean, and new again.

God loves you, and James, very much

And so do I.

God Bless you both.

Praying in AGREEMENT with this Heartfelt Prayer..and

BELIEVING GOD Will Move Mightily, In Jesus Name, Amen!!!

Don't make us rent a car and drive to Texas young lady!!!!!!!!

Because you know we will!!!!!

You Are so right!

My very first post here was "NO MORE METH MOUTH". I wanted to quit and had no family, my boyfriend of 10 years left me, for his best friends girlfriend(niccce)I had no friends, that were not dope users, and I had no program. So I decided to come to Mingle, and ask total strangers for help to give me something other than myself to stay clean for. That first post got I remember AT LEAST five pages long of total strangers telling me I could do it. Thats why Mingle is so important to me. I may very well NOT have stayed clean, if not for the people here. They were also there when I went through breast cancer, and all my other trials, that I am STILL having.

I have been clean for 3 years, and found God almost 2 years ago, i believe. Its hard for me to remember time frames. My brain is challanged.

I take alot of meds to get through my days now, all because of dope, and how it fudged with my brain.10 a day.




AS A FORMER METH ADDICT MYSELF (I smoked Meth for MANY years), I CAN TELL YOU THIS, PRETTY MUCH, FOR SURE........



You need to somehow get him AWAY from ALL ACCESS to dope, or hes gonna get some.

If your an addict, and have a regular connect, and friends that use, YOU DONT NEED ANY MONEY, to get some dope, or just get high.

He HAS to make some friends that DONT DO DOPE, to kick it with.

All the love in the world isnt gonna save him, HE HAS TO SAVE HIMSELF.

Hes NOT gonna quit, unless he is either FORCED TO QUIT, or HE DECIDEDS TO QUIT, no matter what you say, or do.

JUST WANTING TO QUIT, is not enough. I used for MANY years, and ALWAYS SAID I WANTED TO QUIT, OR I WAS GOING TO QUIT.

I NEVER THOUGHT QUITTING WOULD BE HARD. I always thought I could do it at ANYTIME, NO PROBLEM.

When asked about dope,I justified using by saying, "I use because I just like to be high, whats so hard to understand?".

N/A is good, although, I didnt like it because I walked in their clean for 8 months, and they wouldnt give me an 8 month chip(its a little like a poker chip, that marks your # of clean days) because I was still having wine with dinner. I got pissed, and never went back. N/A requires you to not use drugs OR alcohol, to be in the program, and to progress in it. I do know others that is has helped alot, and cured.

Going to jail, will ONLY GET HIM CLEAN WHILE HE IS IN THERE (and sometimes you can even get dope in jail). He will MOST LIKELY CONTINUE TO USE AFTER HE GETS OUT. I DID, the last time I went to jail. It wasent until A FEW MONTHS AFTER I GOT OUT, that I decided to quit.

FROM A DOCTOR: From the age you BEGIN to use dope, you QUIT AGING MENTALLY. And IF YOU QUIT, YOU WILL ONLY AGE A FEW YEARS FOR EVERY YEAR, you are clean.(thats why I still act like a kid).

ALMOST ANYONE WHO DOES DOPE, WILL LOSE EVERYTHING THEY HAVE, BECAUSE OF DOPE, IN SOME WAY OR FORM. I DID!

MOST PEOPLE WHO DO DOPE, GET ARRESTED, AND PUT IN JAIL MORE THAN ONCE. They eventually end of doing a long sentence. I DID.

Theres so much more, but these things I have lived. I know exactly where he is right now. And hopefully you can use these things to help you, help him. They suck to hear, but they are all true.



In a nutshell: HE HAS TO WANT TO QUIT, TO BE SUCESSFUL.

IF HE CAN GET TO DOPE, HE PROBABLY WILL, UNTIL HES BEEN CLEAN FOR A LONG TIME.

OVER HALF THE PEOPLE WHO QUIT, RELAPSE AT SOME POINT, (The Minglers helped me stay clean, with the daily posts they gave me)



Well this is from the horses mouth. BEEN THERE AND DONE IT. It would be REALLY GOOD, IF JAMES AND I COULD TALK! TELL HIM IM A ROCKER, AND IM COOL, LET HIM HEAR "END OF STICK", MAYBE THAT WILL HELP HIM TO SEE THAT I CAN RELATE EVEN THOUGH IM NOT 15,(well physically, mentally I may never be completely grown).

My love and prayers continue for you and James always!

I had a text convo with her earlier. She is better then last night but still not good. So please continue to pray for her and James.

The good thought of the day is that Sherrie is a strong woman. Maybe even stronger than she knows. That and the fact that there are so many that love her.

Sweety,you can not do this alone.Give this to The Good Lord! He has all the steangth you need.All the Hope you need! And He hase this under control.
Just give it to Him!
( JUST BELIEVE )

First of all believe me when I say you are not alone in this battle. Many of us have already been down that long road. It has so many twist and turns you feel like you will fall off the edge at any moment.

Truth is you will be stronger then you think you ever could be. No matter how hard it becomes our love for our kids will pull us through what ever arises.

It will not be easy for life seems to deal us a lot of pits before we get that cherry.....

My battle lasted almost two years I was at my wits end but I found the strength to go on. Just as you will, even if you think you can't remember that bundle of joy you held in your arms for the first time. It will make you remember there is nothing in this world we would not do for our kids.

He is young and has a lot of growing up to do. But....it will come to a point he will have to put that effort forward to make those first steps. Just keep encourging him to do so...

That light at the end of the tunnel will peak through before you know it and the sun will shine again.

Just never give up on him or what you can do. But......don't get so lost within what is happening that you forget about you!

Prayers sent for you and your son(s). I don't get on here much anymore so this is the first I've seen of this...

May I offer some info that may be useful to you? As a single mother myself and as somebody who studied the brain extensively (I just got my BS in biobehavioral psychology with an emphasis on learning and addiction).

Our environments play a huge role in how our brains work to produce cravings. It's why people can stay clean in rehab and most lapse when they come home. You build associations between the drug and the things you see while using. His friends, the places he uses in, even just seeing a lighter, straw, whatever will trigger the urge and it's something he cannot control. Those things associated strongly with use will send signals to the pleasure center of the brain telling him he needs to use when he sees them. If he's been getting high in his room, he will want to get high just by being in his room even if he really wants to stay clean.

What he must do is build new associations while he's clean. Try to change his environment. Switch rooms with him and change his bedding, pictures on the wall, etc. Take a different route when you travel to the store, school, etc. Buy new clothes that he only wears when he's sober. He needs to meet people that don't use and spend his time with them...meetings are a great place for this. Obviously you can't change everything but the more different you can make his surroundings, the easier it will be for him.

Only time can heal him and his brain. Associations weaken if not reinforced but they will always be there. Once he's gotten some sobriety under his belt, start introducing the things he used to associate with drug use back into his world under supervision. He will replace the old associations of drug-thing with no drug-thing in a safe environment and the new connections will override the old.

I know this is lengthy but I hope it helps you to understand why he's struggling with this so much. You both can get through these difficult times...one day at a time...sometimes one moment at a time. Prayers will be said often for the two of you.

You quoted me several times here!

I TOTALLY AGREE WITH EVERYTHING YOU SAID HERE!

AND I KNOW!

Sherrie
So sorry I missed this thread.
You and James are in my prayers my friend.

2kIDS, i DONT know if you have heard of the show intervention. I watch it a lot. One thing is a rehab i nyour area will probably never work. he needs to be relocated to a whole new environment, for reasons that are as follow--- NO FRIENDS ACCESS, NO DEALER ACCESS, NOWHERE to hide, if he leaves or escapes rehab.....He will then just be broke and homeless or in jail. SOmetimes that is what they need to hit rock bottom. As long as he is in his neighborhood----he will continue to relapse with temptation, security, and enablers.... Maybe you can contact the show....they can sponsor his treatment in another state...Its called Intervention.

They deal with all types of addiction, from DRUGS, ALCOHOL, SHOPPING, GAMBLING, AND EVEN PLASTIC SURGERY...trust me, youd be surprised...what people can be addicted to, CLEPTO'S even

Sherri....First, I speak from experience. You know a little about what my youngest Son has gone through. It has been a battle all of his life and continues today. You ARE NOT a failure, you are a Mother and a human that is as fragile as I am. But we go on and smile and laugh when we can. This thing called life is a struggle, but it is our only game we have. You are doing, and have done your best. Keep that with you every day, just like I do.

I am not a big prayer kind of guy, but I can only send streanth your way. YOU must take care of YOU and let the system ease your burden as much as we parents can allow. Take a deep breath and hold it, hoooold it, a little longer, and hold it some more, a little longer. Dizzy yet??? Said with Love and knowledge that this will get better and that we are only humans that do the best we can...

Try to smile and laugh, and if you have to cry and hit your pillow and scream.... Peace our girl scout. Big hug for you (((((((((((YOU))))))))))))))

Dear Mammi,

There are many who love you here, including myself. One thing is certain, change is coming and it may or may not be the change you're looking for... but Stay strong, things will change. Both my stepdaughters were heavily involved with the wrong people. This summer that change happened for us... The youngest attempted the unthinkable suicide. It was bad but she failed (thank god). I try to hide my pain with strangers by delivering a smile here and there but the reality of it is.... it had to get worse before it got better... and better it got!

I saw a reference to the "unthinkable" in one of your posts. Please sherrie, you're surrounded by people who would be crushed for life by your absence.

Take THAT to the bank!