When you're angry at someone, or upset with them, do you try to talk about things with them? Or do you use the silent treatment and ignore the problem?

If you do use the silent treatment, why do you choose to do that rather than discussing the issues that are bothering you?

Have you ever completely just stopped talking to someone because they upset you, made you mad or some other reason rather than telling them what was going on? If you have, did you ever go back and finally tell them what happened?

i usually find a bottle a vodka and talk to it

Instead of talking to the person you're mad at/upset with?

i usually hit them with the bottle once its empty

It all depends upon how upset I am. I know myself pretty well so if I feel that 'talking' to them will most likely be counter or non productive , I put it aside awhile until my emotions have settled more. Then I try to speak to them.

IF it is an issue we have already spoken about more than two or three times, and nothing is changing. I will not usually want to waste my breath and I will just accept it as it relates to the relationship while choosing to put up with it or leave....

with my second husband, I got upset enough to stop talking with him but I did inform him that I thought it best we not try to have pleasant chit chat anymore and stick to conversations that have to do with what our daughter's needs are.

Sometimes I have to take a walk have some alone time and think about things before I am ready to do any talking.......

yeah usually u need time to think things out first an then talk it out with the person no sense in talking to the person right away bout things if ya both angry cause it will just make it worse i think

I will try to talk to them, and apologies go a long way with me in keeping a connection positive


a lot depends on what it is - I wont ask someone to change who they are for me - but I will try to understand

and most disconnects are resolvable - some issues have to be discussed more than 2 or 3 times - some will be ongoing as the relationship evolves - and can affect what the relationship will become - friends? lovers? partner?....acquaintance? drinkin buds??? Not all the people who come into our lives are going to be equally our intimates...

and I am not going to forsake a friend because we have to talk about something more than 2 or 3 times- that's a little too controlling for my style - unless it's illegal or dangerous activity of some sort... short of that I seldom forsake a friend - even if we sometimes do not agree

also a good point

good to see you!

I utilize the silent treatment if I am upset.

I have one friend who I felt betrayed me so deeply that I have not spoken to her since. We live a block away from each other.

I still don't want to talk to her.

well sometimes the silent treatment - as in visibly sulking- can be manipulative

other times I think it is just a way to control ones temper

While I do understand having a need to think things over or cool off before talking to someone, that generally doesn't take too long. And I'm fine with that.

What I have a problem with is those who just stop talking if things don't go their way. Or, if they've changed their mind about something and they decide to ignore someone, rather than having a difficult conversation. I think it can be incredibly childish.

I don't like being ignored, so I don't ignore others.

Did you talk about it with her when she betrayed you, or did you just stop talking to her all together?

the silent treatment is puerile and advances nothing.
always talk and work it out. it is counterproductive
and unhealthy to bottle anger inside.

the silent treatment is a technique used only by those
who are inexperienced or emotionally immature or both.

This is me to a T.

This is not true. Sometimes the person is such an ar$e words fail and you give it up.

We talked via email only.

It is preferable to murder.

If I wanted to resume the relationship I would talk it out. But I want no more to do with her. None. zip. No use talking.

Good to see u too