I thought about that, but since 83.2% of all guys already have that pic in their profiles, it might comes across as trite and cliched.

I do have a really nice pic of me holding my green tape dispenser with the Loch Ness Monster head on it, though....

Well, it's important to know what your 5 dealbreakers are. I learned that on Millionaire Matchmaker the other night. I've got to go work on my own list now. Sending positive vibes your way for a Crown Point cutie with lots of eye makeup, and no wish to have children to be headed your way SOON. I think the Nessie tape dispenser might just do it.

Nice dispenser.

Now all i can think of is sticking my finger in its hole.

1. You have kids, or you're looking for a relationship which will ultimately result in your having kids.

2. You use drugs or alcohol.

3. You send me a message (e-mail or IM)asking me right away to contact you on Yahoo or anywhere other than this site. Only scammers do that, and I can't even begin to tell you how many scammers I've gotten booted off of here. If I so much as see "I am to be liking your structure" in an e-mail, you can bet I'll be reporting you to Admin before you can fix that sentence, which you'll never be able to do, so I'll have plenty of time.

4. Your profile is vapid and boring. Yes, harsh, I know. But if you can't compose a few properly-written, correctly-spelled sentences about yourself, we're probably not going to have much in common, anyway.

5. If you come across as less than intelligent.

6. If I don't find you physically attractive. I'm shallow that way, I'm OK with it, and I'm not going to pretend otherwise.

Hmmmm you narrowed your list of people who qualify pretty quickly and the rest where to scared to try, just in case they fitted into one of your lists.
Hmmm how intelligent do they need to be, for some of us counting to 10 might work, for others it wont

Bummer had to go back and edit all my spelling mistakes

I like to say that I'm looking for someone with a 160 IQ, but that's just me being facetious. I don't really think IQ scores, per se, mean all that much in the long run. (On the other hand, my ex-wife had an IQ that could best be measured in fractions, so I'm not looking for a dunderhead, either.)

Actually, there's a lot of wiggle room in there. I want someone who can communicate well, someone who understands creativity -- the raw numbers aren't really that important.

But I've spent years learning what works for me and what doesn't. I'm not saying I have it all figured out, but I've got it narrowed down a lot more than I did when I was 25.

The real problem, as madjia alluded to earlier, is that most (if not all) of the women on dating sites have already decided that kids are a must (or are already there); this is something they decided early in life and nothing is going to change their minds. Even the ones who put "Undecided" under "Want Kids?" seem to have a general consensus that they definitely want them and are just waiting for the right situation to present itself.

I think it's important to know someone's deal-breakers, too. I wish more people took that concept seriously....

It's not as much fun as you think....

Yep I can't say that I know any women who could honestly say "I never wan't to have children"
I think its just a part of being a women and wanting to nurture and love. Itend to have half the town calling me Mum as I adopt anyone who wants to be part of our lives, Its just a part of wanting to look after everyone.
The saddest part is that some women will say they don't but then try and change your mind later, then you both end up hurt.
How about grown up children who have already left home, but then they bring grandchildren, which is pretty much the same, just shorter hours. Nope I guess that wouldnt work either.

Some people are desperate and naive. Those are the kind of people who fall for scammers. Sometimes it works and the scammers get the money they're looking for, sadly.

That's been my experience in every relationship, with one single exception.

I know I would not make a good parent. For one thing, I just don't have any interest in the role. It makes no sense to me. My parents should not have had children; they had no interest in it, no aptitude for it. They did it solely out of expectation, out of the traditional mindset -- "this is just what people do." They were very unhappy about the whole arrangement, and I have no desire to repeat their mistakes.

I'll tell you when I first realized I didn't want to be a parent. I was 19. I was dating a women who was 23, divorced, and had a 4-year-old son. One night, I was visiting her. Brian, her son, was very intelligent and was already reading.

This particular night, he was reading a Captain America comic book. Sherri, my gf, told him to go to bed. He said, "Mom, let me stay up 15 minutes so I can finish this book." They argued about it for a few minutes, then Sherri asked me for my opinion.

Now, I've been a 4-year-old boy who wanted to stay up a little longer and read. I've never been a parent. I could totally identify with Brian's position.

So I said, "Well, it isn't gonna kill him to stay up a few more minutes to finish the book."

And she went nuts. She started screaming at me -- "WHY ARE YOU UNDERMINING ME IN FRONT OF MY CHILD?"

I thought she was overreacting. She had asked me for an opinion, and I gave one. Apparently, I was supposed to automatically agree with her.

And this was the first of a long and convoluted series of events that ultimately resulted in my deciding, at 22, that I would never be a parent and that I didn't want to be involved with one.



There was a local woman who kept messaging me, saying that I should date her even though she had 4 kids, because 2 of them were out of the house and the other 2 soon would be. I could not get her to understand that it wasn't WHERE they were, it was the fact that she had had them in the first place. There's a mindset behind it, a mindset that precludes so many other things.

And even when they're gone, they're not really gone.

I would like to give my 2 cents worth but it has gone up to 5. If you agree to these terms my friend I would be happy to chime in. Chimes cost more than regular advice these days.

I raised the issue in the first place because I wanted to get some feedback. So don't feel like you have to hold back....!

Lex: I truly believe your sincerity in that statement. I just have to give props to you for being receptive to all the comments.

Ok, but I want my 5 cents!

You are without a doubt the most attractive male catch on mingle in my book.

Unfortunately this could be your down fall. What women in their right mind does not want to marry a highly successful writer with intelligence, the perfect age for marriage, fit, good looking, caring personality and a clear mission in life?

Hate to tell you my friend whom which I am a huge fan of, but you are not boyfriend material as much as you are marriage material.

My advice is simple.

Keep this thread alive till that right women becomes the luckiest girlfriend on the planet (who happens to live near you).

Keep this thread going till you decide you will give someone a chance at you who wants to get to know you on-line and move to your area.

Keep this thread alive till you change your mind from girlfriend to wife (which is my favorite option).

Stay on mingle for another 10 years till your views change about local, IQ, marriage or at least life time commitment(and they will).

Keep this thread alive so the women of mingle can see what a catch you really are but maybe haven't noticed you enough until now. That is possible even if you have posted a lot.

Hire me to promote you.

My friend you are like having steak every night of the week for women and we should hold a sign up saying "missed something ladies" or at least "prime rib $9.95".

If a good woman does not snag you up than they are not serious about meeting and being involve with a truly great guy. And let me say this, when you are finally taken and devote much of your time to "her" the women here are going to be asking "what was I thinking?".

Please look at my next post on this thread.

Ladies of Mingle. What do you like or love about Lex?

I can give you a list a mile long but I doubt if I'm Lex's type.

I'd like to hear from you though.

MG, several times, you've mentioned husband material or marriage material, yet you've still never really explained what these mean to you. So, what do you mean when you're talking about husband/marriage material? What makes men these things?

Oh this ones easy

I love Lex's dry sense of humour, he amuses me whenever I read his posts.

I love that he just lays it out straight, no mucking around and beating around the bush for ever.

I love that he is never afraid to give an honest opinion.

I love that he was brave enough to follow his dream and write, and not to just do it, but to be successful at it.

I love that he has made his decisions on what he wants and doesn't waver, that way nobody is mucked around.

I love that he is responsible enough and caring enough to not have a child, as I dont believe anyone who does not want to give a hundred percent should not muck a kids life up like that.

Really I dont see anything unapealing about Lex, so really have no idea why he is single..

Sorry about any spelling mistakes Lex but I am not going back to work out what I have spelt wrong.

Nope children never ever leave home, I have six as you know, 4 still at home, the other 2 have jobs and work away but spend a huge amount of time at my home, not only them but a majority of their friends, and not only their friends but my children often babysit their friends children, so my home is constantly overrun with extra's.
Hmmmm and then come grandchildren and greatgrandchildren, yep you never ever get rid of them.

But then I am a person who cannot stand the thought of them not being here, I grew up in a family where we had grandparents greatgranparents uncles aunties and cousins always there to offer more love, and I just couldnt imagine not having that with my own children..
so Lex stick to your guns as Children will always be there no matter what anyone says.
Without they are a horrid parent, and then you dont really want to end up with them anyway.

Hi Sing

Maybe we'll do a thread just for that.

Are we having a pity party? I'll bring the Pringles if someone volunteers to brings the dip.