Topic: Boys, girls and attitudes
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Sun 07/24/11 12:39 PM
"everything is beautiful in it's own way"

Hey your all flowers, I say you should blossom when it's time to bloom. Or is it bloom when it's time to blossom?

Who cares? Really folks, enjoy the moment, it's "mingle", we're family. I can't think of a single person here that I don't enjoy in some way. If your a bragger, brag. If your mellow, sing me some James Taylor.

I think you should do what you do and be who you want to be, it's the internet. Be pretty, be nice, be friendly just don't be late for breakfast or you'll miss the good stuff.

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Sun 07/24/11 12:55 PM

Okay i get what people are saying about flaunting it and not talking about it. But one of the things about having a picture up yeah people can tell what I look like but have no clue on dimensions. Or when stating reply where talking about myself gives insight into a reply.

Like I don't know if my woman would have perved my profile and started a dialog and flirting if I hadn't mentioned I was 6'3" and weighed what I weighed.

Unless someone has an eye for detail getting someones actual proportions isn't very easy. Camera angles can also through off perspective.

The last thing about why talking about yourself is important is for people to learn about who you are. We all say were not mind readers so how do we expect to learn about others if they dont talk about themselves. Jmo


Saying how tall you are or how much you weigh is different than telling people you think you're the hottest guy ever.

Though, you really aren't sure if someone wouldn't have started talking to you if you hadn't mentioned those things? I guess it depends on whether someone is picky about those things. For me, I don't have a set height and weight requirement in order to chat with someone.

RainbowTrout's photo
Sun 07/24/11 01:02 PM
The wonderful thing about being ugly is that you don't have to worry about some one hating you because you are beautiful.:smile:

RainbowTrout's photo
Sun 07/24/11 01:07 PM
It is easier to pick out clothing because you don't have to worry about being too sexy for any of you clothing.:smile:

RainbowTrout's photo
Sun 07/24/11 01:10 PM
My friends like having me around because I make them look good.:smile:

newarkjw's photo
Sun 07/24/11 01:16 PM
Hell I was so ugly when I was born the doctor slapped my momma........smokin

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Sun 07/24/11 01:22 PM
I'd rather promote my books than my looks....

soufiehere's photo
Sun 07/24/11 02:07 PM

Hell I was so ugly when I was born the doctor
slapped my momma........smokin

You were wearng that hat at the time werntcha.

Dragoness's photo
Sun 07/24/11 02:16 PM
I have never experienced a person who continually talked about themselves being attractive or hot. I have on the other hand been around those who want you to reassure them all the time of if they are cute or hot or whatever. That bugs me.

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Sun 07/24/11 09:55 PM




The "look at me, I'm so pretty" girls is a turn off for me, but at the same time, I don't mind it. Some people do go for that sort of thing and that's up to them. Different strokes for different folks.


well I guess just don't complain when shallowchoices bite you


Meaning?


well pretty simple really, a choice made based on appearances moreso than substance may or may not turn out well for you

ideally we want both, but I think where guys get into issues is choosing a woman based on a cute laugh, breast size, or hair color and then get upset when her personality isn't compatible to theirs, or she cheats, or doesn't want to have sex with him or whatever----ummmmmmmmmmmm maybe he should have paid a bit more attention to personality in the beginning?????

sure this happens to women too, but I think it happens more with guys...maybe that's because I was always the one passed over for someone cuter or skinnier but was always told how great I am to talk to yawn don't wanna hear it

I wanna hear that he thinks I have a hot bod and he wantsta hold it against me:wink: laugh devil


Yay, tell me i have a hot bod and holds it against me---exactly...luckily ....hmmmm

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Sun 07/24/11 10:00 PM

I'd rather promote my books than my looks....


Thats what i am saying, when you are reliant on your own talents for a living, I say brag it up, promote yourself. . . sell your product...thats what it takes...network the hell out of yourself...

If i wasnt so conceited people would not know who i was today...doors would not have opened at the right opportunities. I believe in fate but i also believe in knocking---(doors down-lol)

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Sun 07/24/11 10:30 PM

Hell I was so ugly when I was born the doctor slapped my momma........smokin



laugh You and me both..

I do appreciate all the responses here. I probably shouldn't start threads i can't tend, but i do like posting.

looking through some of these replies, it appears the general consensus, is self promotion can be a bit of a turn off.

It is, at least for me. To clarify here, i meant people in general, in the offline world. Certainly, when you create a profile, it should point out your attributes. I was speaking more of people you know in person. (some folks use the term "in the real world" I don't like the term, as it suggests online people are not real, and i'm pretty sure most of us are.) :smile:

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Sun 07/24/11 10:38 PM


Hell I was so ugly when I was born the doctor slapped my momma........smokin



laugh You and me both..

I do appreciate all the responses here. I probably shouldn't start threads i can't tend, but i do like posting.

looking through some of these replies, it appears the general consensus, is self promotion can be a bit of a turn off.

It is, at least for me. To clarify here, i meant people in general, in the offline world. Certainly, when you create a profile, it should point out your attributes. I was speaking more of people you know in person. (some folks use the term "in the real world" I don't like the term, as it suggests online people are not real, and i'm pretty sure most of us are.) :smile:


Yes, your profile SHOULD point out your attributes, but if the only one they point out is that 'they think' they're hot, it's not really saying much good about the rest of them (which generally is more important).

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Sun 07/24/11 11:55 PM


I'd rather promote my books than my looks....


Thats what i am saying, when you are reliant on your own talents for a living, I say brag it up, promote yourself. . . sell your product...thats what it takes...network the hell out of yourself...

If i wasnt so conceited people would not know who i was today...doors would not have opened at the right opportunities. I believe in fate but i also believe in knocking---(doors down-lol)


This is so so so true. I think people who have businesses that are their life's work see things differently than people who work for others. Plus as a bonus to that, if you are in the public eye well your going to look good or bad without escape. People create public images that stick with them forever. As well those images stick with us.

Here's an example. How many of us follow celeb's looks? Probably everyone up here. How often do we say "wow, their looking old, too heavy, to skinny"? A ton. How many of us are celebs in our own field? We might be surprised.

We as humans talk about who we are and what we do. We mingle right? Well some of us happen to be in the biz of show and tell more than others. There's a part of us that is just as shy as anyone (at least this is true for me) but the flip side is how we look on the cover of magazines or on TV. For myself, sometimes I feel very weird talking about looks, but put me in the green room before a show or interview and you can bet my ego is pumped up tighter than a drum by the time I head through that door.

In fact I wasn't even going to post on this thread till I saw our main man krupa tell it like it is, and with Lex, Simone and others keeping it real I now feel a lot more comfortable.

One of the things that I think is cool about mingle is that there is a real lack of "I think I am better than you" up here. This is a pretty big family and we as a whole get along pretty good as compared to other public forums. So much so that I haven't looked at another social forum for years and don't plan to. I love the balance here and think the world of you guys.

We're all learning about each other aren't we, and that's pretty cool.

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Mon 07/25/11 09:42 AM
Awwww you're so sweet Mg. I like the family around here too, like the regulars. When i joined mingle i was from a broken divorce and now i can talk to a group of semi regulars about random topics. . .I love it.You have the benefits of sharing as little or as much as you want. it's wonderful...

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Mon 07/25/11 01:52 PM


I'd rather promote my books than my looks....


Thats what i am saying, when you are reliant on your own talents for a living, I say brag it up, promote yourself. . . sell your product...thats what it takes...network the hell out of yourself...

If i wasnt so conceited people would not know who i was today...doors would not have opened at the right opportunities. I believe in fate but i also believe in knocking---(doors down-lol)


Nice analogy happy

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Tue 07/26/11 01:07 PM
<<<----- I'm BEAUTIFUL in my way!!! I appreciate the beauty that I have! I may NOT :banana: :banana: looks like beauty queen or worlds top models but I can assure you that, I am beautiful "INSIDE", you just need to get to know me better.:banana: :banana: :banana: yeeeeeeeeeehaaaaaaaaaaa!!! drool drool

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Tue 07/26/11 07:15 PM


Hey baby, do I make you horney?

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Tue 07/26/11 07:25 PM

<<<----- I'm BEAUTIFUL in my way!!! I appreciate the beauty that I have! I may NOT :banana: :banana: looks like beauty queen or worlds top models but I can assure you that, I am beautiful "INSIDE", you just need to get to know me better.:banana: :banana: :banana: yeeeeeeeeeehaaaaaaaaaaa!!! drool drool


Hey your a singer, very cool!

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Wed 07/27/11 01:18 AM
First, a disclaimer: What I'm about to share isn't intended to present myself as beautiful.

When I was a kid, my mother obsessed about making me become a model. She tried twice, once when I was about eight and again when I was 14. Both times I refused to cooperate; once I ran out on an audition. I tried one last time when I was in my 20s, for my mother's sake, but I very quickly realized that "beautiful" was not a term I could comfortably apply to myself.

If I'm to be honest, though, I have to say that I would love to be beautiful. But only if I could retain the positive attributes that I am aware that I have, and that I value.

I've enjoyed reading everyone's responses. I have to say this forum is one of the most intelligent I've encountered online, which is so often a clearinghouse for the banal. But this forum, unlike so many, poses meaningful questions and the answers are generally just as meaningful. Ya'll are teaching me a lot.
Love,
Ysabeau