Topic: The good guys lose...
mightymoe's photo
Mon 07/18/11 02:45 PM


so why did you post that then? you don't seem to want there opinions, so what was the point of the post?


there is a HUGE difference in someone giving there opinion and guys who are all on the same dating site you are trying to tell you how to "get date" or what not to "b*tch about"... if you wanna give a leveled headed opinion go right ahead, if you're bored and feel like arguing with another guy on a dating site about "life not being easy" or what complaining is or isn't gonna get me... like I said it was a simple OPINION of things i've seen over time and how I feel about it, not a plea to have other men who obviously have dating problems themselves try and tell me what i'm doing wrong... opinions gentlemen... opinions, not trying to text battle with middle aged men on a dating site... thanks


well, i can see your going to do very well here...laugh laugh laugh laugh oh, and thats my opinion...

Totage's photo
Mon 07/18/11 02:47 PM
Anomaly, I was simply giving you my opinion based only on what you posted.

Anomaly87's photo
Mon 07/18/11 02:47 PM



so why did you post that then? you don't seem to want there opinions, so what was the point of the post?


there is a HUGE difference in someone giving there opinion and guys who are all on the same dating site you are trying to tell you how to "get date" or what not to "b*tch about"... if you wanna give a leveled headed opinion go right ahead, if you're bored and feel like arguing with another guy on a dating site about "life not being easy" or what complaining is or isn't gonna get me... like I said it was a simple OPINION of things i've seen over time and how I feel about it, not a plea to have other men who obviously have dating problems themselves try and tell me what i'm doing wrong... opinions gentlemen... opinions, not trying to text battle with middle aged men on a dating site... thanks


why thanks old man :wink:

well, i can see your going to do very well here...laugh laugh laugh laugh oh, and thats my opinion...

Anomaly87's photo
Mon 07/18/11 02:49 PM

Anomaly, I was simply giving you my opinion based only on what you posted.


no hard feelings bro, i guess I jumped on the defensive a bit quick, no biggie

mightymoe's photo
Mon 07/18/11 02:52 PM




so why did you post that then? you don't seem to want there opinions, so what was the point of the post?


there is a HUGE difference in someone giving there opinion and guys who are all on the same dating site you are trying to tell you how to "get date" or what not to "b*tch about"... if you wanna give a leveled headed opinion go right ahead, if you're bored and feel like arguing with another guy on a dating site about "life not being easy" or what complaining is or isn't gonna get me... like I said it was a simple OPINION of things i've seen over time and how I feel about it, not a plea to have other men who obviously have dating problems themselves try and tell me what i'm doing wrong... opinions gentlemen... opinions, not trying to text battle with middle aged men on a dating site... thanks


why thanks old man :wink:

well, i can see your going to do very well here...laugh laugh laugh laugh oh, and thats my opinion...



anytime, boy...drinker

Anomaly87's photo
Mon 07/18/11 02:55 PM





so why did you post that then? you don't seem to want there opinions, so what was the point of the post?


there is a HUGE difference in someone giving there opinion and guys who are all on the same dating site you are trying to tell you how to "get date" or what not to "b*tch about"... if you wanna give a leveled headed opinion go right ahead, if you're bored and feel like arguing with another guy on a dating site about "life not being easy" or what complaining is or isn't gonna get me... like I said it was a simple OPINION of things i've seen over time and how I feel about it, not a plea to have other men who obviously have dating problems themselves try and tell me what i'm doing wrong... opinions gentlemen... opinions, not trying to text battle with middle aged men on a dating site... thanks


why thanks old man :wink:

well, i can see your going to do very well here...laugh laugh laugh laugh oh, and thats my opinion...



anytime, boy...drinker


don't feel bad... all my friends say I'm an old man at heart

mightymoe's photo
Mon 07/18/11 02:57 PM






so why did you post that then? you don't seem to want there opinions, so what was the point of the post?


there is a HUGE difference in someone giving there opinion and guys who are all on the same dating site you are trying to tell you how to "get date" or what not to "b*tch about"... if you wanna give a leveled headed opinion go right ahead, if you're bored and feel like arguing with another guy on a dating site about "life not being easy" or what complaining is or isn't gonna get me... like I said it was a simple OPINION of things i've seen over time and how I feel about it, not a plea to have other men who obviously have dating problems themselves try and tell me what i'm doing wrong... opinions gentlemen... opinions, not trying to text battle with middle aged men on a dating site... thanks


why thanks old man :wink:

well, i can see your going to do very well here...laugh laugh laugh laugh oh, and thats my opinion...



anytime, boy...drinker


don't feel bad... all my friends say I'm an old man at heart


i don't, thanks... it's all good

FearandLoathing's photo
Mon 07/18/11 06:55 PM


Anomaly, I was simply giving you my opinion based only on what you posted.


no hard feelings bro, i guess I jumped on the defensive a bit quick, no biggie


Seems to be common for "nice guys."

Makes you wonder what the hell a "bad guy" is like.

msharmony's photo
Mon 07/18/11 07:06 PM
Dont look over here, I made a whole thread for those 'nice guys' to introduce themselves,, and only three stepped up,,,,,



lol



as to the op, good luck and be blessed,, it doesnt always end poorly(although, for me , it does seem to always END.....lol)



no photo
Tue 07/19/11 02:20 AM
Welcome to mingle! I think you'll like it here.

krupa's photo
Tue 07/19/11 05:07 AM
Try looking at it from a different perspective.

You were in love with a neurotic cow who didn't apprecieate a good thing and is now gonna settle for less.

I think you dodged a bullet. I too have been cast aside for something less. At first, it sucks but, let the resentment pass and you will see that you are the lucky one in this situation.

Just my perspective.

no photo
Tue 07/19/11 08:17 AM

so why did you post that then? you don't seem to want there opinions, so what was the point of the post?


Gosh, maybe he's feeling unhappy and just wanted his feelings validated? It's not only a woman thing you know.

OP, that sucks and I'm sorry it happened to you; however, there are plenty of fish in the sea. Get back on that horse and go find her! I wish you luck and hope the two of you have a long, happy life together.

BTW, I totally agree with Krupa. IMO, you dodged a bullet.

vthepoet's photo
Tue 07/19/11 08:20 AM

Try looking at it from a different perspective.

You were in love with a neurotic cow who didn't apprecieate a good thing and is now gonna settle for less.

I think you dodged a bullet. I too have been cast aside for something less. At first, it sucks but, let the resentment pass and you will see that you are the lucky one in this situation.

Just my perspective.


lol. gj krupa

Anomaly87's photo
Wed 07/20/11 10:11 PM
Thanks for all the different perspectives and luck wishes, much love... i'm out here and searching, SOMEthing will happen at some point lol

actionlynx's photo
Wed 07/20/11 11:04 PM
As you will find, Anomaly, there are going to be a certain number of people on here who are always going to try to pick you apart....to expose your flaws. In fact, it is one of the reasons why I do not post as much in the Forums as I once did.

People forget that social situations are different from place to place. So, unless we have lived in many different places, or at least spent substantial time traveling, many of us are limited to only what we know about our own little slice of the world. That doesn't mean that our opinions or observations are flawed. It simply applies to our small part of the world if what we speak is true. It may not be true anywhere else. So, the lesson is not to generalize. That can be hard to do at times.

I've given up trying to fight the battles. Some of those battles were fought to defend some of the very same people that tried to pick me apart. Some purposely try to anger others because they feel a person shows his/her true colors when angry. Personally, I believe that anyone who purposely goads a person like that has serious character flaws because they lack compassion for the other person. Some of those same people will label you as a whiner for your original post. Just be prepared for it, ignore it, and move on.

no photo
Thu 07/21/11 09:55 AM
I think it is just an easy excuse.

Simonedemidova's photo
Thu 07/21/11 10:23 AM

Hi everyone,I just wanted to rant a bit of how now-a-days the good guys are losing out to ********.

So I recently got out of a 4yr relationship that ended pretty sour. Coming back out into the single life i've noticed even more that a larger amount of women now won't even give a guy the time of day because he gets automatically placed in the "just another booty chasing *******" group! I can't speak for ALL men... yes some of us are dumb, horny, and don't know how to treat a lady.. but there are a lot of us left that are still VERY capable of being prince charmings.
My relationship I just got out of started like a fairytale(these are her words) I was "perfect" to her. Then all of a sudden it was "too good to be true" and she let her paranoia destroy our relationship. Too good to be true??? when it was just GOOD and very TRUE. So now I find myself in the category of having a hard time finding a queen because a lot of women I run into wont take a chance and get to know a guy because other ******** mess it up for the good guys. I'm not that guy that hurt you, I treat every woman with respect and like the beautiful beings they are. If a woman took the time to get to know me they would see i'm a very different type of guy, unique... out of the norm(hints why I call myself The Anomaly). I'm looking to give a woman everything she wants in a man and more, i'm looking for my partner in crime, my sidekick, my queeen in the throne next to me. Someone I go to sleep thinking about, and I wake up thinking about. I surely hope she is out here somewhere waiting for me to trot by in my chariot and scoop her up for the ride of her life.

The Anomaly


Hot women often lose too, so do ugly women and ugly men. People are drawn to those they like...No offense but if you are too good to be true, i doubt she dumped you...there was probably an underlying issue regarding you that she maybe felt she could not bring to the table because she felt you would reject her opinion...

Regardless---Everyone is a winner, and everyone is a loser, until you find the right match that will balance you, you will always be losing. It takes time to find the right person. Just chill and you find Your Mrs. Right. She will love you for your whole package and vice versa. People who think that their partners are too good to be true often have self esteem issues of their own....so I wouldnt worry about it. Good Luck. Good Flawless diamonds are rare and hard to find. Trust me.

Simonedemidova's photo
Thu 07/21/11 10:27 AM

As you will find, Anomaly, there are going to be a certain number of people on here who are always going to try to pick you apart....to expose your flaws. In fact, it is one of the reasons why I do not post as much in the Forums as I once did.

People forget that social situations are different from place to place. So, unless we have lived in many different places, or at least spent substantial time traveling, many of us are limited to only what we know about our own little slice of the world. That doesn't mean that our opinions or observations are flawed. It simply applies to our small part of the world if what we speak is true. It may not be true anywhere else. So, the lesson is not to generalize. That can be hard to do at times.

I've given up trying to fight the battles. Some of those battles were fought to defend some of the very same people that tried to pick me apart. Some purposely try to anger others because they feel a person shows his/her true colors when angry. Personally, I believe that anyone who purposely goads a person like that has serious character flaws because they lack compassion for the other person. Some of those same people will label you as a whiner for your original post. Just be prepared for it, ignore it, and move on.


:wink: laugh True Datlaugh :wink: If you want to post in the forums, bring your Binoculars and a megaphone, some people are so far up on their high horse you will need both of those items to even bother communicating with them. GOOD LUCK

krupa's photo
Thu 07/21/11 04:46 PM
Edited by krupa on Thu 07/21/11 04:47 PM


:wink: laugh True Datlaugh :wink: If you want to post in the forums, bring your Binoculars and a megaphone, some people are so far up on their high horse you will need both of those items to even bother communicating with them. GOOD LUCK


What???? I aint THAT stuck up...ok, MAYBE I am....but, I am working on it.

And my horse really aint that tall.....

krupa's photo
Thu 07/21/11 04:50 PM

Thanks for all the different perspectives and luck wishes, much love... i'm out here and searching, SOMEthing will happen at some point lol


Just go with the flow bro. Forcing things doesn't work. The real trick is to be easy and relaxed in you. When you can do that....love will find you and you won't even know it till you are already where you want to be.