Hi everyone,I just wanted to rant a bit of how now-a-days the good guys are losing out to ********.

So I recently got out of a 4yr relationship that ended pretty sour. Coming back out into the single life i've noticed even more that a larger amount of women now won't even give a guy the time of day because he gets automatically placed in the "just another booty chasing *******" group! I can't speak for ALL men... yes some of us are dumb, horny, and don't know how to treat a lady.. but there are a lot of us left that are still VERY capable of being prince charmings.
My relationship I just got out of started like a fairytale(these are her words) I was "perfect" to her. Then all of a sudden it was "too good to be true" and she let her paranoia destroy our relationship. Too good to be true??? when it was just GOOD and very TRUE. So now I find myself in the category of having a hard time finding a queen because a lot of women I run into wont take a chance and get to know a guy because other ******** mess it up for the good guys. I'm not that guy that hurt you, I treat every woman with respect and like the beautiful beings they are. If a woman took the time to get to know me they would see i'm a very different type of guy, unique... out of the norm(hints why I call myself The Anomaly). I'm looking to give a woman everything she wants in a man and more, i'm looking for my partner in crime, my sidekick, my queeen in the throne next to me. Someone I go to sleep thinking about, and I wake up thinking about. I surely hope she is out here somewhere waiting for me to trot by in my chariot and scoop her up for the ride of her life.

The Anomaly

the blotted out word is a**holes

Welcome

As to the good guys problem, it doesn't have anything to do with good or bad, attracted or not is usually the case.

Think of it like this, if she will give an a$$hole the time of day, why?

Because she is attracted to him.

It all comes down to attraction.

Move on if she blames another guy for not wanting to get with you.

Good luck.

I am sorry to hear about your break up. In these times; its hard to trust someone after you have been hurt. We put up the walls to protect ourselves and its safe behind those walls. Its hard to trust anyone again and it will take a lot of work to help bring those walls down. I wish you the best of luck in finding that girl of your dreams.

The nice guy vs the a**hole bulls**t is pretty over played. If you're stuck on that kind of thinking, you're not going to have much luck dating. IMO

Sounds like you're letting a few bad women ruin it for all the good women out there, yet you're complaining that women are letting a few bad men ruin it for all the good guys.

@Dragoness... yes I also understand that aspect of it, if you're just not attracted to a person then you're just not attracted to them, but i speak for not only myself but a lot of other people INCLUDUNG other women who can vouch for what i'm saying, it's not just an attraction thing, some women just wont even try because 10 guys before me were on ********, thanks for the reply and the good luck wish!

@navygirl... yes trust is a HUGE part of it, trust is the glue that binds a relationship, once that is damaged it is truly hard to trust again, thanks for replying and the luck wish!

@Totage... I did not post the "a**hole vs good guy" as a cliche way to look at the dating world, and it's NOT a frame of mind i'm stuck in. This is stictly opinion of some of my personal experiences. It's not based on a "few bad apples" either this has become an epidemic in todays society because there have been so many cases of women being hurt deeply by men being stupid, but you have your opinion and I have mine... thanks for the reply

Yes, because this happened to you...One person out of literally billions...It is of course common.

Cheer up, buttercup...Life will never be easy.

And lots of men are hurt by women being stupid. I'm just saying if someone isn't giving you a chance because of bad past relationships, that's issues within themself they have to resolve, it has nothing to do with other people ruining it for the next person.

See...Totage knows what in the blue hell he is talking about.

Absolutely. I am in that category now. No, I don't give a guy a chance because of past relationships and its nothing to do with the guy as he is probably a great guy; the problem certainly lies within me.

maybe you need a good guy to help you show there is no problem with you...hint, hint...

Oh you are so subtle.

@ fearandloathing and totage... not looking for life to be easy sunshine, you know nothing about my life and what i've experienced just as I know nothing of your... so don't go that direction son... let me clear somthing up for you lads, i'm not on here posting things like this because i'm holding a grudge of one girl not giving me the time of day, there are plenty of fish blah blah blah... i know all of that, this is a simple observation and yes something that happens to billions all the time, i'm not trying to sit and b*itch about this like it's only happened to me... you guys are on this dating site right along with me so obiviously you guys haven't mastered the art of dating either gentlemen. Women hurt men, men hurt woman yes I understand this, it's always 2 sides to the coin, it's a matter of opinion... i'm not some middle aged guy on here trying to find what I can't go out into the real world and find, i've had plenty of gf's, i'm still young and will have more in the future, i'm keeping up with the times trying the online thing because EVERYTHING in online now-a-days... simply my opinion guys... simply opinion, so cool your hard ons t agrue with another guy on a dating site about life experiences with women and what you think you guys know

Whatever the reason is that you posted doesn't really matter, it isn't going to change and complaining about it solves nothing...Usually just annoys the people you complain to. Didn't read your post, nor did I read the one I'm quoting much from the first couple of sentences...I'm just here to tell you that this is useless, and does not help in any way, shape, or form to get you a date.

The best way to get a date has been, always will be, and probably will always be confidence.

and I thank you sir for trying yo help tell me how to get a date but i've never had problems with it before and i'm positive i wont have problems getting back into the swing on things, and my confidence always has been and will be intacted, i'ma big boy... I think I can do this myself

so why did you post that then? you don't seem to want there opinions, so what was the point of the post?

good point

YW and one of the hardest things for a woman and maybe a man too is "I just don't find you attractive in that way, sorry". So they tell what some consider little "white" lies. Which can be "I just broke up" to "I had a real shytehead the last time and I am not ready yet" Not saying that any of those things are always untrue but the story will be different if she finds you really attractive. "I hope you will be patient with me since I am just breaking up" You notice that she isn't saying you can't get with her.

absolutely... i understand those differences... I guess some people know how to handle those types of situations better than others you know? thanks again sweetie

there is a HUGE difference in someone giving there opinion and guys who are all on the same dating site you are trying to tell you how to "get date" or what not to "b*tch about"... if you wanna give a leveled headed opinion go right ahead, if you're bored and feel like arguing with another guy on a dating site about "life not being easy" or what complaining is or isn't gonna get me... like I said it was a simple OPINION of things i've seen over time and how I feel about it, not a plea to have other men who obviously have dating problems themselves try and tell me what i'm doing wrong... opinions gentlemen... opinions, not trying to text battle with middle aged men on a dating site... thanks