Well, that's what my head and heart are telling me. There's this excited buzz in the back of my head that tells me that perhaps I'm actually ready for some sort of relationship. Of course, this doesn't mean I should, but maybe? It's been a while since I've been comfortable with someone enough to even ask them out, but I did it a couple of days ago, and I sort of shocked myself when I asked said person out to a movie.

Basically, the last couple relationships lasted a couple weeks at most, I found that I was being pressured, and I wasn't as into them, as they seemed to think I was. Of course, one was quite a bit younger then I am, the other a friend who has always been into me.

But during that time my mind was going, "Hey Anna, you probably shouldn't be getting into this." Of course, I didn't listen and bam, a mess was born.

I've found I'm the type of girl who likes to get to know a man or woman before I really think about getting any sort of romantic intimacy with them, as before I'd rush into a relationship and be destroyed when a terrible relationship fell apart.

I've also been slowly discovering stuff about me, I don't drink (or very rarely, I should say), I don't do any sort of drugs. When going out I dress semi-conservative, I never wear skirts, for example. I sometimes wear make up, but that's very rare. I like also having time to myself for working on my hobbies, like my wire jewelry, and my cooking passion.

There also used to be the terrible complication of BPD (borderline personality disorder), which gave me a distorted look on relationships, I used to put up with a lot of crap I didn't need to, and now, I don't, so really, I'm slowly getting better.

So, now let me get into this: How can you tell when you are single, and actually ready to mingle? What tells you you are ready? Is it a certain feeling? Is it a certain word you realize you use? A habit?

Let the fun begin...........The best of luck.

Welcome! :D

I know I'm ready to mingle, when my brain tells me, I'm missing that special Lady in my life!

Hey Lunali,

You will just know when the time is right by the way you feel and how you are taking things. There is never a need to rush into a relationship because that's how bad things can happen. relationships that are rushed and pressured often eventually turn for the worse because there wasn't a solid foundation that it was build upon. So it is okay to take your time and talk to people in order to get to know them a little better. If they are the right person for you then they would understand that you need time to get to know them. I was in your position before and it took me awhile to loosen up and put myself out there. Don't be afraid to feel this way because you aren't the only one. Good luck and I'll hopefully talk to you soon :)

Hi ppl can some one email me to talk??

@kmHI808

Thank you for the kind words. I think I'm actually ready for some sort of relationship, I feel that I am. I also know I won't put up with the BS I used to, when I was younger, I feel better then that. :)

@kmHI808

Thank you for the kind words. I think I'm actually ready for some sort of relationship, I feel that I am. I also know I won't put up with the BS I used to, when I was younger, I feel better then that. :)

Lets mingle shall we?......

I think I will, newarkjw. It sounds like a good plan, right now. Friends are lovely, and perhaps more in the future!

You're welcome

Just FU**ING push the big shiny button.

I guess when I finally get to the point, where just sleeping with my dog cradled in my arms, is not enough...

i'll have a boyfriend.

I would think, if you still have feelings
for anyone else, you are not ready.

mingle without expectation, if someone comes along where you no longer have to ask 'am i ready?', then you will know.

I'd agree with this, you're never really ready I think. It just happens.

ready to mingle..any one from kerala ..

Good evening all!
I am new on here, and I ham Hella ready to mingle!!!
I am not so much "looking" as much as just "hoping" things progress.
Wait (looks around) I need someone to mingle with first.
heehee