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Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. 
~Rumi~ wow that's something to think about. i know i have insecurities, but with good reasons. seems like every man i run into, want every woman on the side, and i'm just into that. i've been burned more than fingers could count. so yea, i gotta get past all this in my heart, before i guess i can move on. perhaps you give them more of you than they deserve, or too soon? Make them earn your heart, don't just give it away. Then again, you don't want to end up like me, so maybe try to find the balance between the two. yea that's true, i shouldn't give em ANYTHING, not even my heart. but what do u mean, i don't want to end up like u??? 
I mean, you don't want to overprotect your heart and let no one in at all. you want to protect it from being misused and taken for granite. u know what, that's about how i feel now!  
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Edited by
MrBiscuit
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So basically, in a nutshell....i just have to wait my turn huh!!! i don't want to be some old lady when it finally happens, but i guess i do have to keep kissing toads before a prince will appear out of one of em. lol it's just not my time yet... and another thing too, i didn't want to raise my boys all by myself, of course their dad went off to be with one of his other kids moms and married her. she was the one he wanted in the first place, even before i ever came into his life. he married me, cause she was ready at the time. had two boys out of it, now i'm a single mom, barely making it. Yep, basically that is it Use the time wisely... work on you take care of those boys. I spent the last 12 years alone and finished raising my 3 boys. It was tough..but worth every single moment. One day you'll look at them and they will be all grown up. A time for all things... 
yea, but what happens when they all grow up and leave the house, what then??? maybe a pet? wow 12 years is a long time to be alone, but if someone else can do it, maybe i can too. i betta get to counting my years, starting this week. 
You are never alone. I am always with you in spirit
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So basically, in a nutshell....i just have to wait my turn huh!!! i don't want to be some old lady when it finally happens, but i guess i do have to keep kissing toads before a prince will appear out of one of em. lol it's just not my time yet... and another thing too, i didn't want to raise my boys all by myself, of course their dad went off to be with one of his other kids moms and married her. she was the one he wanted in the first place, even before i ever came into his life. he married me, cause she was ready at the time. had two boys out of it, now i'm a single mom, barely making it. Yep, basically that is it Use the time wisely... work on you take care of those boys. I spent the last 12 years alone and finished raising my 3 boys. It was tough..but worth every single moment. One day you'll look at them and they will be all grown up. A time for all things...
yea, but what happens when they all grow up and leave the house, what then??? maybe a pet? wow 12 years is a long time to be alone, but if someone else can do it, maybe i can too. i betta get to counting my years, starting this week.
You are never alone. I am always with you in spirit
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Now is a good time for us all to hold hands and sing "we are the world". ain't it the truth LOL. 
 I know time is being kind to me now! 
But it is also your time to shape the world! |
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Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.
~Rumi~ wow that's something to think about. i know i have insecurities, but with good reasons. seems like every man i run into, want every woman on the side, and i'm just into that. i've been burned more than fingers could count. so yea, i gotta get past all this in my heart, before i guess i can move on. perhaps you give them more of you than they deserve, or too soon? Make them earn your heart, don't just give it away. Then again, you don't want to end up like me, so maybe try to find the balance between the two. yea that's true, i shouldn't give em ANYTHING, not even my heart. but what do u mean, i don't want to end up like u???
I mean, you don't want to overprotect your heart and let no one in at all. you want to protect it from being misused and taken for granite. u know what, that's about how i feel now!
I do hope you find someone worthy of having your heart, and you are able to give it to them, not all at once, but little by little as they show you that they can handle the responsibility.
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I think Totage has it right. Give of your heart; but not all of it. The other portion you save for yourself. I raised my three kids alone also. Not all the way...but the hard part of it. Oldest was 16, 13 & 10. It was hard with working two and three jobs most of the time. They grew to respect me for that and strive to make something of themselves. I'm so proud of all of them.
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I think Totage has it right. Give of your heart; but not all of it. The other portion you save for yourself. I raised my three kids alone also. Not all the way...but the hard part of it. Oldest was 16, 13 & 10. It was hard with working two and three jobs most of the time. They grew to respect me for that and strive to make something of themselves. I'm so proud of all of them. Proud of you! |
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Thank you
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thx guys for ur input. especially u all who have kids and had to do it alone. that inspires me to keep on pushing. even if i'm by myself for the rest of my life.
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yea it does weed em out...they run FAST AND IN A HURRY! lol it's like NO ONE is serious anymore, i guess ppl are more into looking for a quick sex convo and pic swap than anything else. so sad. Negative Darlin... People are just more jaded now. There IS love out there. But it is not easily earned. Love is long lonely nights and craving the taste of a kiss. Love is being willing to bend and accept a view other than your own. Love ain't easy. It takes time to earn the trust that can bring that love. Most people arent patient. (do you stand at the microwave thinking "Hurry up!!!!"?) Your bigger worry should be the idiots who throw themselves at you (they will) without bothering to get to know the real you. Hang out with us in the forums a bit more. A gorgeous woman like yourself will soon attract the man dogs. I suggest beating them away with a stick. But, that's just me. |
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Edited by
MrBiscuit
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Fri 06/17/11 08:15 PM
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Now is a good time for us all to hold hands and sing "we are the world". ain't it the truth LOL.
I know time is being kind to me now!
But it is also your time to shape the world! Well, I'll start with the mingle world. Then I'll do something revolutionary, which will change the very fabric of time itself 
Thankyou for the inspiration Michael!
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yea it does weed em out...they run FAST AND IN A HURRY! lol it's like NO ONE is serious anymore, i guess ppl are more into looking for a quick sex convo and pic swap than anything else. so sad. Negative Darlin... People are just more jaded now. There IS love out there. But it is not easily earned. Love is long lonely nights and craving the taste of a kiss. Love is being willing to bend and accept a view other than your own. Love ain't easy. It takes time to earn the trust that can bring that love. Most people arent patient. (do you stand at the microwave thinking "Hurry up!!!!"?) Your bigger worry should be the idiots who throw themselves at you (they will) without bothering to get to know the real you. Hang out with us in the forums a bit more. A gorgeous woman like yourself will soon attract the man dogs. I suggest beating them away with a stick. But, that's just me. LOL yea trust, i've already been to a bunch of sites, including facebook and attracted more dogs than u can count. so i already know lol. it's like i have a sign on my forehead that says ALL DOGS ALLOWED...PLAYER WANTED. lol smh and yes, i am dealing with long lonely nights and longing for a kiss, without someone pulling back and not int he mood cause they too high and drunk and don't want to be touched. i know all about it. just got out of that situation. so i guess, i can do bad all by myself. don't want to, but have to!
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yea it does weed em out...they run FAST AND IN A HURRY! lol it's like NO ONE is serious anymore, i guess ppl are more into looking for a quick sex convo and pic swap than anything else. so sad. Negative Darlin... People are just more jaded now. There IS love out there. But it is not easily earned. Love is long lonely nights and craving the taste of a kiss. Love is being willing to bend and accept a view other than your own. Love ain't easy. It takes time to earn the trust that can bring that love. Most people arent patient. (do you stand at the microwave thinking "Hurry up!!!!"?) Your bigger worry should be the idiots who throw themselves at you (they will) without bothering to get to know the real you. Hang out with us in the forums a bit more. A gorgeous woman like yourself will soon attract the man dogs. I suggest beating them away with a stick. But, that's just me. LOL yea trust, i've already been to a bunch of sites, including facebook and attracted more dogs than u can count. so i already know lol. it's like i have a sign on my forehead that says ALL DOGS ALLOWED...PLAYER WANTED. lol smh and yes, i am dealing with long lonely nights and longing for a kiss, without someone pulling back and not int he mood cause they too high and drunk and don't want to be touched. i know all about it. just got out of that situation. so i guess, i can do bad all by myself. don't want to, but have to!
that didn't quote right, but u see where i started typing i hope LOLOL |
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yea it does weed em out...they run FAST AND IN A HURRY! lol it's like NO ONE is serious anymore, i guess ppl are more into looking for a quick sex convo and pic swap than anything else. so sad. Negative Darlin... People are just more jaded now. There IS love out there. But it is not easily earned. Love is long lonely nights and craving the taste of a kiss. Love is being willing to bend and accept a view other than your own. Love ain't easy. It takes time to earn the trust that can bring that love. Most people arent patient. (do you stand at the microwave thinking "Hurry up!!!!"?) Your bigger worry should be the idiots who throw themselves at you (they will) without bothering to get to know the real you. Hang out with us in the forums a bit more. A gorgeous woman like yourself will soon attract the man dogs. I suggest beating them away with a stick. But, that's just me. LOL yea trust, i've already been to a bunch of sites, including facebook and attracted more dogs than u can count. so i already know lol. it's like i have a sign on my forehead that says ALL DOGS ALLOWED...PLAYER WANTED. lol smh and yes, i am dealing with long lonely nights and longing for a kiss, without someone pulling back and not int he mood cause they too high and drunk and don't want to be touched. i know all about it. just got out of that situation. so i guess, i can do bad all by myself. don't want to, but have to!
Woah! I've done some hard sh** in my day, but I don't think I could ever be to high or drunk to NOT be in the mood if you were around. I mean, you seem like a very sweet woman any man would be blessed to have by his side, and you're very beautiful as well. I'm just going by what I've seen of you so far. |
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thx guys for ur input. especially u all who have kids and had to do it alone. that inspires me to keep on pushing. even if i'm by myself for the rest of my life.
Oh my dearest little one. This does not mean you will be alone it means that being alone with your kids might be a good option. I mean do you really want to put up with one of us right now? Having a guy around right this second may not be the way it is but you have so many possibilities to explore life even if it is right here with us. What, some 30 post already? And on here you can be a man basher and non of us can find you. Believe me some of the women will welcome you in that department. I'm just kidding!!! Please!!! No really your going to find a ton of cool things to do here and great people who will love you and are up for being a shoulder if you want it and tons of funny moments to get through tough times. And who knows there might be some flirting along the way. Some of the gang here have met their soul mates. Man I do sound like a mingle commercial tonight. |
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yea it does weed em out...they run FAST AND IN A HURRY! lol it's like NO ONE is serious anymore, i guess ppl are more into looking for a quick sex convo and pic swap than anything else. so sad. Negative Darlin... People are just more jaded now. There IS love out there. But it is not easily earned. Love is long lonely nights and craving the taste of a kiss. Love is being willing to bend and accept a view other than your own. Love ain't easy. It takes time to earn the trust that can bring that love. Most people arent patient. (do you stand at the microwave thinking "Hurry up!!!!"?) Your bigger worry should be the idiots who throw themselves at you (they will) without bothering to get to know the real you. Hang out with us in the forums a bit more. A gorgeous woman like yourself will soon attract the man dogs. I suggest beating them away with a stick. But, that's just me. LOL yea trust, i've already been to a bunch of sites, including facebook and attracted more dogs than u can count. so i already know lol. it's like i have a sign on my forehead that says ALL DOGS ALLOWED...PLAYER WANTED. lol smh and yes, i am dealing with long lonely nights and longing for a kiss, without someone pulling back and not int he mood cause they too high and drunk and don't want to be touched. i know all about it. just got out of that situation. so i guess, i can do bad all by myself. don't want to, but have to!
Woah! I've done some hard sh** in my day, but I don't think I could ever be to high or drunk to NOT be in the mood if you were around. I mean, you seem like a very sweet woman any man would be blessed to have by his side, and you're very beautiful as well. I'm just going by what I've seen of you so far. well, maybe he just wasn't into me like i thought then. wasn't his type i guess, but it shouldn't take him this many months to figure that out. i mean, i can tell he somewhat cares, but not enough to quit all that what he's doing. that's his life....getn high and drunk and uses his HANG more than anything, so where would i fit into that?! not to be nasty or anything, but guys i've been with, said i got some good stuff, but this dude....i even had to ask him was he GAY or something. geesh. |
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Whoa up there Good Lookin...
Take it easy on us old hippies. We get high and drunk....but some of us are still some truly good people. Some people can control themselves...amatures can't. If you think "Player"...Then you are smarter than the sucker amature who is trying to woo you with his style (which is rarely his own) So, you won't settle for less...I respect that. Most of the people in miserable relationship have settled for less than what they deserve. Good for you. This lonely time will pass as all things do. If what is available doesn't suit you....don't sell yourself short by settling. Years may pass...(did for me)....but, when that REAL love comes....the waiting and lonelyness are worth it. The kind of love that gives you the goosebumps like back in middle school. It IS out there. |
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thx guys for ur input. especially u all who have kids and had to do it alone. that inspires me to keep on pushing. even if i'm by myself for the rest of my life.
Oh my dearest little one. This does not mean you will be alone it means that being alone with your kids might be a good option. I mean do you really want to put up with one of us right now? Having a guy around right this second may not be the way it is but you have so many possibilities to explore life even if it is right here with us. What, some 30 post already? And on here you can be a man basher and non of us can find you. Believe me some of the women will welcome you in that department. I'm just kidding!!! Please!!! No really your going to find a ton of cool things to do here and great people who will love you and are up for being a shoulder if you want it and tons of funny moments to get through tough times. And who knows there might be some flirting along the way. Some of the gang here have met their soul mates. Man I do sound like a mingle commercial tonight. LOLOLOL  
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Whoa up there Good Lookin... Take it easy on us old hippies. We get high and drunk....but some of us are still some truly good people. Some people can control themselves...amatures can't. If you think "Player"...Then you are smarter than the sucker amature who is trying to woo you with his style (which is rarely his own) So, you won't settle for less...I respect that. Most of the people in miserable relationship have settled for less than what they deserve. Good for you. This lonely time will pass as all things do. If what is available doesn't suit you....don't sell yourself short by settling. Years may pass...(did for me)....but, when that REAL love comes....the waiting and lonelyness are worth it. The kind of love that gives you the goosebumps like back in middle school. It IS out there. OH WOW...to have that ole feeling again lol. thx
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SIGNING OUT FOR THIS EVENING, TOOK SOME PAIN MEDS, AND THEY GOT ME SLEEPY. SO LATER EVERYONE. THX AGAIN.
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