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Its always pain n' the neck lol
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Love is so much more than an emotion, it's a force of nature, it's the basis of our existence.....
if there was no pain involved with love there would be no emotional growth and without growth, we just exist then die. Stop putting stipulations and conditions on 'love' and it's not so painful, it becomes joyous, regardless of outcome. A lesson in all things..if we allow it. |
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Its always pain n' the neck lol Yep I agree and I have the chronic pain in my neck from where my last boyfriend hit me. But I guess according to most folks its okay because when he hit me; he did love me. 
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is it true or false? and why Its that LOST LOVE which is hurtful and missing and tugs misery to your heart,,,, 
Well love is beautiful if its for my friend and family. Love for a man has caused me nothing but pain both mentally and physically. Am I incapable of loving a man as a partner? I would say yes but I have a lot of love to give those closest to me. Absolutley not!! Loving a man has never caused me anything but grief. Loving family and friends is healing. I am not some niave 19 year old girl for goodness sake; I am 50 and don't buy into that crap anymore. There will be no remorse for not being in a relationship that physically and mentally exhausts me. Personally the whole thought of getting involved with another man makes me want to puke. 
I understand your pain. 
I loved my last husband enough to know that I had to leave him. It was better for both of us. 
Especially better for me. 
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is it true or false? and why Its that LOST LOVE which is hurtful and missing and tugs misery to your heart,,,,
Well love is beautiful if its for my friend and family. Love for a man has caused me nothing but pain both mentally and physically. Am I incapable of loving a man as a partner? I would say yes but I have a lot of love to give those closest to me. Absolutley not!! Loving a man has never caused me anything but grief. Loving family and friends is healing. I am not some niave 19 year old girl for goodness sake; I am 50 and don't buy into that crap anymore. There will be no remorse for not being in a relationship that physically and mentally exhausts me. Personally the whole thought of getting involved with another man makes me want to puke.
love is what you make it... maybe try a different type of guy? 3 billion of us out there, i'm sure you could find one to fit the bill... |
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is it true or false? and why Its that LOST LOVE which is hurtful and missing and tugs misery to your heart,,,,
Well love is beautiful if its for my friend and family. Love for a man has caused me nothing but pain both mentally and physically. Am I incapable of loving a man as a partner? I would say yes but I have a lot of love to give those closest to me. Absolutley not!! Loving a man has never caused me anything but grief. Loving family and friends is healing. I am not some niave 19 year old girl for goodness sake; I am 50 and don't buy into that crap anymore. There will be no remorse for not being in a relationship that physically and mentally exhausts me. Personally the whole thought of getting involved with another man makes me want to puke.
love is what you make it... maybe try a different type of guy? 3 billion of us out there, i'm sure you could find one to fit the bill... I would rather give my love to friends and family. No man is worth giving my love too. Figured this out 20 years ago but just wasn't smart enough to realize this until the last 8 years. |
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A pain in the arse!!
Although I do love my self quite often and theres no pain there. |
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is it true or false? and why Its that LOST LOVE which is hurtful and missing and tugs misery to your heart,,,,
Well love is beautiful if its for my friend and family. Love for a man has caused me nothing but pain both mentally and physically. Am I incapable of loving a man as a partner? I would say yes but I have a lot of love to give those closest to me. Absolutley not!! Loving a man has never caused me anything but grief. Loving family and friends is healing. I am not some niave 19 year old girl for goodness sake; I am 50 and don't buy into that crap anymore. There will be no remorse for not being in a relationship that physically and mentally exhausts me. Personally the whole thought of getting involved with another man makes me want to puke.
I understand your pain.
I loved my last husband enough to know that I had to leave him. It was better for both of us.
Especially better for me.
Yep I agree. Don't need anymore complications in my life. Honestly I found I was happiest when I was out of a relationship as I truly have my freedom to do what I want and when I want. I have my family, my friends, and my hobbies. Don't need anything else. 
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Edited by
0verTheEdge
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Tue 05/24/11 02:08 PM
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is it true or false? and why There is the "hedgehog dilemma". The closer you get,the more your get hurt. But is it better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all? |
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is it true or false? and why There is the "hedgehog dilemma". The closer you get,the more your get hurt. But is it better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all? Guess that depends on the type of abuse you get from the one you loved. |
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is it true or false? and why There is the "hedgehog dilemma". The closer you get,the more your get hurt. But is it better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all? Guess that depends on the type of abuse you get from the one you loved.
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Love is so much more than an emotion, it's a force of nature, it's the basis of our existence..... if there was no pain involved with love there would be no emotional growth and without growth, we just exist then die. Stop putting stipulations and conditions on 'love' and it's not so painful, it becomes joyous, regardless of outcome. A lesson in all things..if we allow it. 
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is it true or false? and why There is the "hedgehog dilemma". The closer you get,the more your get hurt. But is it better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all? I think that's just one of those cliches that sounds good until you really look at it. For me, I would gladly erase every one of my former gfs from my personal history, if given that option. |
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is it true or false? and why There is the "hedgehog dilemma". The closer you get,the more your get hurt. But is it better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all? I think that's just one of those cliches that sounds good until you really look at it. For me, I would gladly erase every one of my former gfs from my personal history, if given that option. Yep, I would do that with my former boyfriends too. I personally hate the cliches as much as the stupid pep talks. |
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Love is pain? Well then, what would be the point?
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childbirth is painful.... what is the point?
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Ima backwards brained person
to me the absence of love is pain not love itself- if it's not joy it's not love |
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Of course love can be painful, emotionally painful, even in successful relationships....its part of personal growth....we need pain to grow emotionally. He actually said that Love is pain. Not that love is painful. In any case, love is not pain or painful. You need pain to grow emotionally? Really? I don't see that. Ok, so love is not pain, but as i said, love can be painful, and most people who love, feel pain at some points throughout a relationship...whether their partner has let them down in some way....or there has been a break up, or a physical loss....also, lets look at love of our children/families... watching ppl hurting themselves, and you having no control over it... thats painful....there are many reasons to be pained through love. In regards to growing emotionally, with each pain we go through we develop better coping skills.....im not brilliant with words, so i found some stuff online to explain better, heres a lil snippet.. "dealing with painful emotions – whether new or old, and regardless of where they come from – is the essence of successful grieving. It is also, incidentally, the essence of dealing with any other type of emotional distress." Hope this makes a bt more sense in regards to where im coming from. |
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if love is painful than ur either doing something wrong, doing something u shouldn't be doing, or perhaps not fully aware of what love is
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