It's probably not going to be very popular here, but is it frowned upon to use dating sites to look for "friends with benefits"?

Most people on here are looking for Mr/Mrs Right which is fair enough; whereas some say they're just looking for friends, although probably a fair proportion of those are doing that with a view to becoming friends with their Prince(ss) Charming.

Having recently come out of what could be termed a toxic relationship, I'm just looking for someone to chat with and possibly more, but without leading people on with expectations of it blooming into a big romance. I just want to be open and honest, but obviously I don't want to scare anyone away. And of course there may be people who are looking for "Mr Right" but don't mind spending time with "Mr Right Now".

So how do you react when you see a profile for someone of your preferred sex who's looking for (what Mingle terms) an "activity partner"? Do you judge them and if so, how? Should dating sites be purely for the pursuit of lifelong monogamous romance or not?

Discuss!

Actually, its been discussed here plenty of times. Some are into it, others aren't. It's a social site, so there are many reasons why others are here and dating is just one reason.

Just be honest upfront about what you're looking for. And if you're just looking for sex, I believe it's "intimate encounter," rather than activity partner.

Yes, but "intimate encounter" can put off anyone who just wants to chat, and anyone who's hundreds of miles away in a different country. There should be another category, although I'm not sure what to call it.

Yeaaa, I've wondered that. What the hell is the activity partner?? Wanna build a ship?

From what I gather...activity partner are those looking for someone to workout, go to movies with, etc. & not expecting sex to be involved! FWB being activities + sex.

I understand your not wanting to seek a relationship so spend time in the forums to make some friends. Some are totally against an FWB & others willing to share their lives with good friends until they are ready for romance again.

intimate encounter is for those seeking NSA sex so IMO says...I don't care to know you, just gimme sex!

Basically, whatever you are looking for can be found around here.

Good luck

Ok I see, so you don't wanna build a ship with me?

So, what you're saying is you want the sex, but you don't want to turn people off by showing that in your profile?

you so just got BUSTED!

if u are looking primarily for sex with no attachments, then intimate encounter is the most honest option. It might limit who u can contact. But if u r an honest person then u really shouldn't care to contact any other category OR mislead women from other categories.

You could also list dating and tell people that u don't want anything serious and if it becomes sexual fine, if not ur fine with that too- so long as u r fine with that too & really do plan on dating women from here...I will say that men not being honest with their intentions does happen on here.

- as we can "say" FWB is OK - but really it's settling - in my opinion anyway. So personally I do not do FWB.

to me, a man who would ask that has no class and a poor understanding of the intimate experience

an he won't respect u in the morning....

I don't necessarily think FWB means no respect at all. But, both people have to be honest about what they want, otherwise it isn't going to work. It may not work for you, but may work well for others. It doesn't have to be about disrespect.

thank you singme. I do not agree, but I know I'm in the minority opinion on the topic. I have just seen so many women get into these FWB things hoping they will turn into more - they seldom (if ever) do

and one man married someone else who he had been DATING during the FWB!!! within weeks after the FWB ended

etc etc. I know I have the minority opinion and not criticizing - or meaning to but I do not feel that a respectful man would ask that of a woman

dangit, where's my "will work for sex" sign?

You're from the south, I'm originally from the south..we can build a ship!

we can name her the Dixieland Delight

all drama queens/kings ordered to walk the plank

not,, dating sites are so called because dating is an option not mandatory

usually, there are several preferences one can choose in their profile to indicate what their desire is (friend, penpal, etc,,,) and there should be no obligation to find a spouse or a date if that is not what someone is searching for

hopefully, people are honest with themself and others about what they want, and when I See someone looking for friends with benefits, I know not to waste their time because that is not what I desire but there are many others who do who, I suppose, look more closely at those types of profiles,,

Hell yea!

when someone has activity partner on their profile i chuckle at it cause if they are from 18 to 50 years of age just lookin for an activity partner well i'm kinda like...yeah rrrrrriiiiight the activities will be leading to another activity

I know you disagree with it and that's completely fine. I also know that different things work for different people. If someone is just looking for sex, rather than a relationship, being honest about it is going to get them farther with it. Being dishonest about it may get what they want in the beginning, but it's going to cause all kinds of drama.

I think it's more disrespectful to lie about what you're looking for, whether it be sex, a relationship or whatever.

Well I have an activity partner now..me n firefly gonna build a ship! Hmm...gotta bring an Elephant and a Longhorn onboard though, even though we beat your a$$ 2 years ago