Come on folks!

What do white woman want?

How big are black men really?

Black men vs white men vs white women vs black women?

Haven't any of us gotten beyond all that?

It's just all personal preference. I for one, have never been attracted to black women, so I don't seek them out. I have what I like and that's just the way I am and that's the way everyone else should be.

Ask a 100 women and you'll get 100 different answers. White, black, green, purple, yellow, all women have different preferences and reasons for such.

I feel like there is a lot of focus in this topic on race without taking into account cultural differences. I don't mean to completely dismiss the idea that a white woman may be attracted to the features of a black man (e.g., darker skin, etc.) or that there may not be a fascination with the black=bigger stereotype, but there is clearly another element of attraction that rarely is mentioned when discussing why people date "outside their race" — which is to say, when one goes out of his/her way to date someone of a different race. Perhaps more than any other factor, there is the issue of a cultural difference that attracts some people to one another.

Even though it's not true, there is a feeling among many non-Hispanic white people that their own culture is lacking in a rich heritage and strong ethnic tradition. We often think of our ethnic heritage as "vanilla" and think that other cultures and ethnic backgrounds have much richer traditions, but a lot of this feeling comes from being so familiar with our own heritage that others seem more exotic or festive. I will say that a lot of white people seem to lack a connection to their diverse ethnic backgrounds, but that's our own failing and could be easily remedied if we were to take a greater interest in our ancestral histories and the cultures whence we came. But, it's easy to see with many white people (and others, for that matter) that there's a sense of greener pastures and an excitement in hopping cultural fences.

I don't want to belabor the size issue, but it seems to bear mentioning that it's a self-propagating stereotype. By that, however, I don't mean that it's fully accurate; I've read essays by black men expressing displeasure with the stereotype because there is a sense among black men that they cannot cross the "color barrier" unless they fit the stereotype. Being "average" just doesn't cut it. So the majority of black men who are comfortable dating outside their "race/color/ethnic background" tend to be the ones who are packing a bit extra, which further promotes the stereotype. Although it seems like a great stereotype to have, and even black comedians like Tracy Morgan have joked about liking the stereotype, the truth is that it limits race relations and eats away at the black man's psyche and sense of self. ChangeofHeart has, apparently, encountered several white women who are infatuated with the size stereotype and, myth or not, it's unfair to judge anyone as an individual based on a perception of the extended collective.

Anyway, ChangeofHeart, I hope you find someone who is a good fit for you — emotionally. There are a lot of great people here — and all over, really — who are looking for something meaningful and who aren't wrapped up in silly stereotypes or cultural nuances. Women generally want to be loved and accepted and to have their insecurities melt away when they are with you. If you can make that happen, not much else matters. Good luck to you.

the mind is funny, it associates visual stimuli with previous physical and emotional feelings


like a dog who is repeatedly beaten by a man who looks a certain way will probably learn to distrust those with that 'look',, so to do people learn to correlate feelings with asthetics such as gender, race, etc,,,,


I think the people who have the least likelihood of restricting themself one way or the other have gotten 'past' such emotional/visual stimuli and decisions, and will make their choice either on how the INDIVIDUAL makes them feel or on what are the accepted choices in their culture, or a combination of both


Its still a minority who 'step' outside of dating others who 'fit in' to what their own families look like, but that number is a slowly growing minority

in the end, I think skin color is insignificant in the big scheme when making decisions about individuals we just have to get to know them

if you find someone you love who loves you, (barring certain inappropriate combinations) ,,u are one of the lucky ones,,,

Negative. There are a few of us white boys who sling a bigun. Happiness got nothing to do with d!k size....which sucks for me cause I am packing a monster.....

In the end, it boils down to personality and THAT is what the women focus on.

I don't look for different things from different races, so I'm not quite sure what kind of response you're looking for here.

OK?