I think she was playing a game. I simply wanted her to see the other side of the coin. That and to leave me alone.

I have never stood anyone up and no one has ever stood me up. I always want to talk to someone a LONG time before I agree to even meet them. Also on a first date, I think a coffee date is great...that way IF either one of us is not happy, it can end after the first cup of coffee or coke.

I guess I should make it clear. We were 16 and went to school together. It wasn't someone I had never met in person before and not really someone I felt I needed to get to know. Although, I wish I had known she was that kind of person before I asked her on the date.

I would never just walk off, but the date would be very short.

Sometimes it's hard to tell if someone is your type without going on a date.

I don't understand movies as first dates either.

Though, by doing the same thing she did, you showed you were that kind of person as well.

I wonder if people realize how little they get to know someone on a first date. How can you? If both are putting their best foot forward. To me, it's NOT conducive to a great start. The awkwardness of it all and the fact I like to take charge If I'm the one who invited. This doesn't sit well with everyone. On the flip side, I'd have no problem if she took charge and carted me around in different social settings to see how socially compatible we are.

I generally stay(ed) away from the female "sport" daters who dissect and compare you the 50 previous dates. Instead of treating the occasion as a special one, they figure it's better than staying home meanwhile the dude didn't have a chance in hell.

In the end, It's much easier for someone to slip out the back door of a date if they are strangers.

nope, but i did cartwheels once cuz it was that good.

Damn, where did you find that date?

First dates for me are generally to see if we get along and to see if there will be a second date. If it doesn't go well, chances are there won't be a second date. I don't expect to know everything about him from a first date, though.

I have never stood anyone up but have been stood up twice.. The first guy had a very good excuse but the other didn't and I never heard from him again...

Only once. When I was 15 I was walking along the highway & a guy who owned a wrecker service stopped & picked me up. I knew him at the time but not as well as I thought I did. He must have been in his 30's & he was like an octopus!! Finally to safely get out of the truck without giving him a piece of azz I told him I was really in a hurry & agreed to sneak out of the house & meet him later that evening. Never knew whether he showed or not & don't care!!!!

would you believe the circus? nah...neither would i

but, seriously, almost had a guy back out once, we were on the phone as he was on his way and he was getting nervous. but, he showed, we were hardly apart a day from that point on, well until things went south a few years later.

You met the clown at the circus and he lost you. He doesn't think he is funny now.....His loss. Keep up the cartwheels.

Hi Bastet

Totally agree. I have been stood up more times than I can count. You don't get a second chance after doing that...unless it's a really good reason.

yes that is the worst thing about personal revenge is it forces u to stoop to that level

"you say it best when u say nothing at all"

You must not give up.

Not when you are such a
beautiful and lovely,
bright girl.

There is always a way, and
if you put your mind
to it, you will find it.

My suggestion is that
you keep asking Dr.
Krevorkian to set you
up with dates
from here on.

Regarding the original post, I always ask the original question in reverse, as well as straight, of myself.

If you want a true account: two women zoomed right past the coffee shop in their Volkswagen Rabbits; five women came in and said sorry, there is a home emergency, their goldfish need a new haircut or the swimming pool's on fire. One woman told me she really didn't feel like going on with the date, and she'd almost called me to cancel, but she showed up anyway, and acted miserable the whole seven minutes we were together. A woman was fifty-four minutes late, and she left three minutes after that, without touching her carrot juice she got me to order for her (it was in an upscale vegetarian food bar.)