Just wondering how people felt about pep talks. I personally hate them as they just make me feel worse. I know those giving me the pep talk are trying to help me but they really are making me feel worse. I am now wondering how I am affecting others when I give them a pep talk. Am I making things worse for them or actually making them feel better? What are your thoughts on this?

For me, when I am lost and unsure, and over-whelmed, and reach out to someone I trust...I value their 'sit in this pain, acknowledge it, move through it, and get on with it.' talks.

In my day to day world, I rarely give advice...I wait for whomever feels they need me...and seek me out....I still don't really give advice as such...I ask them questions, I LISTEN more than I speak...and usually just offer a different view, and allow them to find their own solutions.

Free advice that is unsolicited is kind of funny...I tend to get a little ruffled when someone decides to share with me, what I need to be doing differently.

As to the 'cheer squad' kind of pep talk....I am not so patient or kind with those...I don't do gratuitous back slapping very well..

What is a pep talk? IDK, to me, it always seems insincere when people have given me a pep talk. If you really want to help, just be real and honest.

I try to not look a gift horse in the mouth

(so to speak)

if someone chooses to share some words and time with me, it is an honor

just receiving such an honor helps

but that's just me

Yeah that was my thought too. For the last 14 years I heard the same pep talk of there is someone out there for you and he will be lucky to have you in his life; blah, blah, blah. I would rather someone say; at your age there isn't much chance you will ever meet anyone. I can appreciate honesty over phony pep talks.

I've never thought of a pep talk as being a bad thing.

IF YOU`VE EVER BEEN TO WALMART EARLY IN THE A.M. WHEN THE DAY SHIFT STARTS, YOU`VE MAYBE SEEN THE EMPLOYEES GETTING A PEP TALK TO START THE DAY. I ALWAYS FEEL BAD FOR THEM HAVING TO CHEER OR WHATEVER

i was wondering what this was about... the only "pep" talks i have gotten was in high school, before a football or basketball game, and they always helped...

The ones I get are when I break up with someone. I get the talk oh the right one will come along. I can't stand that crap.

'Pep' talk? Free advice, flirting, something like that?
If we know ourselves what we are these won't have any effect. It's generally human weakness that we feel a little bit more hearing 'pep' talk.

quit breaking up then... lol, just kidding
who gives them to ya?

I did one better; I gave up dating. Its usually friends that are married or coupled up

Pep talks are only good if the person it is giving to even takes in consideration to what is being said. Regardless if they follow through with what is being told to them or not. One should at least listen to what they have to say. In the long run it could actually be something that could be helpfully.

JMO Pep Talks are giving to others cause the one giving it cares.

Yeah but after awhile it gets old. Its not like I haven't heard it dozens of times.

I view advice & pep talks differently. Advice is to help you find a solution & peptalks usually consist of everythings going to be alright when most times they aren't!!

Yes, sometimes "pep talks" kinda make you feel worse. But I think that has to do with the person who's giving it giving you praise on the good about you, maybe you do not realize these things about yourself, and why are you in this state if you are this way.

I try to be there for the people in my life, and give praise and criticism depending on what the situation calls for. I try to be honest about it and nt tell someone what they want to hear, but the truth of what I think and is true.

For those who dislike pep talks, ask the people who give them to you to stop? That would make more sense than having to sit through something that's not helping you.

Would this be like walking into Wal-Mart and the employees are in a circle listening to a manager talk?

Would you have to clap, show some enthusiasm, and clap,spell, and cheer W-A-L M-A-R-T?

I like walking by and making faces at them to see if they laugh.

My apologies to the people on here that work at Wally World and have to do this early in the morning.

But then Pep Talks are one thing talking down to another is something else.

To me a Pep Talk is telling another the things you could do that will help you out. The things they see that one could improve on...They leave you with a positive feeling...

Where talking down to you would leave you feeling inadequate where they are only pointing out the bad things you do and not telling you all the good points you have....

"Pep Talks" seems to usually Sugar-Coat the reality of a situation..therefore I prefer to work things out on my own accord