While I love women my own age I'm attracted to much younger women as well. Obviously there's a physical factor, but I also like spending time with someone who's fun, confident, intelligent and excited about the future.

Men who date younger women and women who date younger men are fairly visible and accepted, but I don't see a lot of information or recognition about women in my situation. I don't know if it's not something that's talked about or if it's just rare .... maybe there aren't a whole lot of girls in their 20s interested in older women.

What do you think? Is my attraction to younger women pervy or acceptable? Do girls want to have anything to do with older women? Am I the only middle-aged, suburban lesbian trying to meet girls half her age? Do I stand any chance of finding someone or should I just throw in the towel and stop wasting my time?

WAt ev makes u happy go for it I'm a young guy that likes older women so go for it!!!

I don't see anything wrong wit it at all! Def NOT creepy!!

I just like your title :-)

It's not creepy until you start obsessing over them. Just talk to anyone that looks interesting and let the chip fall where they may. That's what I did and now I'm dating a woman 29 years younger than myself.

I think it's cool! It's okay for younger men to date older women than why not younger women and older women...I don't see an issue as long as you are not a stalker or something like that!

Honestly, I never thought I could be a cougar, but have met some young men lately that have me thinking maybe I am wrong about that

Good Luck

I think it would be cool if you start snarling and growling as you pounce over your prospects. If you start ripping through their flesh to eat the internal organs, people may find that creepy.

I think this is entirely up to you, **** what everyone else thinks has always been my policy.

Personally, I think lesbians are creepy to begin with.

Firstly, welcome Jeanne


Also, I wonder if you met a woman say 5 years older than you, who was fun, intelligent, confident and excited about the future, would you find her attractive?...or interesting enough to catch your attention?

I wonder if it is age related, or merely the energy, and the apparent freedom of younger women..

I also feel, statistically, you are dealing with a smaller group of same sex relationship orientated people, so it may appear to be a more difficult challenge to find your ideal partner. In having said that, I don't think at all it is impossible, nor do I find your attraction to younger women at all creepy....you are drawn for whatever reasons, to whomever you are drawn to....same as all of us.

I am sure, somewhere there is a woman who will find you her perfect partner, as you will her...and I can't wait for the giggles over age ending up being completely irrelevant...


and I have $5AU on her being older...

Personally, I think using a "Walmart Employee of the Month" photo as a profile pic is creepy. But I LOVE the way you accessorized your collar!

I have a great many gay friends and from what I've seen you're far from alone. Preferences are what they are and I see nothing pervy about it. As for finding someone, I think there is always someone who meets your desire. I have a good friend around 33 and she definitely likes older women, seems to even be a preference.

I think finding someone your ocmpatible with is hard enough. SO if you find someone your interested in, and they feel the same. Then go for it.
And being a cougar is not so bad. Age is after all just a number.

Not creepy

I notice that this is quite old but i stumbled onto it. I myself am 21 and gay and I don't think its creepy when older women hit on me, i find it quite flattering actually. I think it depends though, i mean no matter what gender or sexual orientation theres a line between just eye balling someone and being pervy! But i seem to attract mainly older women for some reason and it doesn't bother me one bit!! :)

and it looks like the girl loves her drinks ...you rock! :-))

I think as long as everyone is legal age and the feeling is mutal...its all good :)