LOL...X2!

can't argue with that!

For me size comes from Genes. But naturally women after 30's start to gain weight they say. And some start to grow bigger after giving birth and its natural due to hormonal changes. And its up to the woman to if she wanted to remain fat or big or start losing weight but having proper diet or going to gym.

Most men like average body size but there are men whose head turns to other women when they saw their wives getting fat already and come to the point of having a mistress and so what advise always given to them is this: when you get married and have kids don't let down yourself love yourself take care of it. Nothing wrong with being fat or obese but for health reason its not really good to be obese since heart problem and diabetes most likely would occur.

losing weight and gaining weight are two problem in this world some would like to gain much and some would like to loss the factor contributing to it is genes, lifestyle and health reason.

You know, I have heard a lot of women say they love or admire the female form. But I have never heard a man say that. Well, not a man who didn't want his sexuality questioned.

But I ask. Why are there body builders that pose for best physique with men in the audience?

I SO LOVE my friends encompassing truth determiner of "to catch my superficial eye"!!!!!

BEYOND platitudes though, I TRULY believe that there are those whose spirit touches your soul regardless of physical form.


AND....I'd better hope so!!!!

You caught my quirky eye!


and my funny bone...

and my spirit...

and my heart...


and my superficial eye doesn't feel threatened either..

Hmmm,
Well I am a little superficial. I love a man who is larger.
I could still love a man who wasnt big but I wouldnt be initially attracted to just his looks. No that I am attracted just by looks byut initially thats i see, and I dont get to know if the person is a wonderful guy or a jerk until later.

I would have a lot of trouble being with a man who was thinner than me. As yep I have a few insecurities there.

I like to have someone who I can hold onto and feel safe, someone who I can hide against, so that when they hold me, I am wrapped inside their arms and feel small, safe and protected..

but obviously thats me.. I guess I wouldnt want my man to be very overwieght, not because I think that i would mind it, but because I would worry that something would happen to him, I dont want to find someone and then lose him early because he didnt look after himself.

But ultimately you fall in love with a person and the outside is going to change , so you had better love whats inside way more than what you initially see.

But for me , big is safe.

If you are healthy; then no size doesn't matter but if you are having health issues like diabetes, heart problems, or anything else that could endanger your life; it might be wise to lose a few pounds. My brother is very overweight and has many medical problems. His doctor told him flat out that he is going to die if he doesn't lose weight and told him that he would be dropped as his patient as he wasn't listening to his doctor. Sure makes me think.

Everyone here is lying...

size does matter.

It matters more than anyone will admit...cause we are politically correct.

But, experience tells me that if there is enough internal struggle to raise the question....then the question is valid and deserves an honest answer...

If you are asking...you KNOW the answer...unless you are just looking or someone to tell you that it is cool to not care about yourself....cause I am not that person.

Everyone has their own preferences on what they find attractive.

I have dated both heavier set guys and skinnier guys.

It all depends on attitude and personality for me.

I think the point is everyone has different preferences. Some prefer skinny, some don't worry about it as much. It's going to be different for each person.

Anyone who says you are not good looking needs laser eye surgery

Totally agree, confidence is sexy.


I am by no means a stick figure, but I don't care what people think of me. Either accept me or don't. Not my problem. Shouldn't be anybody elses either. Some people will find you attractive, some wont. It's life.

The fat family... was happy. The kids were happy (how old were they? I'd say pre-teens, for my statement here to work), coz they loved their parents and the parents loved them. To a kid, that's as good as it gets.

To the parents? The fat parents? They were happy, as much as any other couple is happy. (I don't believe any are, to the point of how happy they were in the first six monhts of their courtship. After a year or two, the marriage is like life, or being married is like being alive even when single. You go to work, come home, eat dinner, watch tv, help the kids with the homeworky, wash the car, mow the lawn, go to bed, sometimes do the wife there. If you are the wife, it's much harder and much more complicated, but her life had already been harder and much more complicated than those of men, before the marriage.)

Fat? it's a problem for singles, for people in show biz, for salespeople, for inspirational speakers, for politicians, for anyone who has any chance to go on tv.

Fat is a problem for those who are looked at, and based on that look.

You see, being very overweight is a sign of slow running ability. When you couple up, or trust someone with money, you want them to be able to run fast, to run away from invading tribes, to run to safety from lion- and tiger attacks. We are basically very much cavemen and cavewomen in our mental make-ups (and cave-children), we can't get away from those values that have been hard-wired into us without even realizing it over eons of evolutions.

You see, Christianity can't explain the ugly in fat; they just say "gluttony is a sin".

Sometimes the values tell us about things which we could not understand with our reptilian or mammalian or even with our early human brains. "Can't run fast", to make this judgement you need to know what "can", "run" and "fast" are; and to know that "run fast" is very important when a lion chases you.

So fat is ugly not because it involves contradicting some higher-standing spiritual or esthetic value; but fat is ugly because nature has to tell US, people, to not like a fat mate, and that nature tells us the way that it can, that is, it builds a preference to not like fat into us.

Yes, yes, I know, there are lots of fat people who court each other.

Yes, there is the odd exception of a person liking fat people. This is a true liking, since mutations do still occur, evolution did not stop. Some people's DNA gets mutated in the zygotes to make him or her enjoy looking at, and liking the appearence of fat people.

Some other people like fat people for the reason I have always liked older, post-menopausal women (but which were slim): the availability factor. Your psyche adds value to the desirability of a woman (or man) that you think is attainable to you. People with lower self esteem than normal, will seek out this type of people for mating.

Some people are fat, and all around them are fat; the car, the donut shops, the elevators, the pizza, the fact that the faster a food is, the more fattening it is -- these contribute to weigh gain, and sometimes a whole town or most everyone, or an entire region is infected by this lifestyle disease. So everybody is fat, you have no choice in the matter, if you want to see your DNA replicated, you must get your zygote join that of another fat person.

Krupa, you sometimes lose your metal and spiritual compass.

You say your male friends call you ugly, and are surprised at the female attention you get.

You then go on this observation to state that you are as ugly or as beautiful as you feel. (General you.)

That's pure applied BS, if you ask me, pardon the strong expression. You are tall and relatively or absolutely slim. That's all a woman wants in a partner when it comes to physical appearance. Other qualities that women may or may not want smarts, or stupidy, poverty or riches, etc., but for the looks, tall and slim are the two main factors, of which the tall is by far the most important one.

Hundreds of psychological studies have evidenced this, some including huge samples taken randomly from the global population.

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Wheter you feel ugly or not, has no influence on how others see you. I have seen drop-dead georgeous knock-outs who thought themselves fat or ugly; and some ugly dudes, like you, who have the inner courage to speak BS because they have the conviction in their own persons as all good-looking people do.

Just to clear some things up. Have been reading the responses which I think are mostly great but whoever said I am posting this just for reasurance. Um no actually just wanted to know wwhat peoples views were. I am actually ok with my size since a twelve is hardly health threatining. Anyway just thought I'd put that out there!
Xlilix

To answer the title question....

No, size isn't everything. It is ONE thing, and, yes, for me it's definitely a factor.

Another item on the preferences list....

Mmmmm....I like a woman with curves.

lets leave eve ryone else alone to live their own lives

who are we to judge anyway??

I love people for who they are not what they look like!!

No one has the right to judge. But everyone has a right to discuss, which is what this forum topic is meant for.
Xlilix

i didnt mean that as a judgement call at all

Just my opinion


How I live my life