When you first meet someone, what might be a good sign that they are nuts and that you should not continue dating?

They don't smile, and talk about negative things right off the bat.

I've run into a lot of people who really wanted to rush into a serious entanglement. When they start talking about moving in together and getting married after knowing them for four days, that's probably a bad sign.

When the first thing they ask you is "Do you live alone?"

When they keep looking over their shoulder to see if they have been spotted.

When they won't reveal any information about themselves at all.

When they call you constantly and asking you where you were the last time they called.

When they drive by your house a lot.

Ask you if they like the smell of blood, which limbs they wouldnt mind losing then ask if they like chocolate...

^^this, they wanna rush into things! Happened to me last weekend with some online chatting & 1 phone call this guy became way to eager about meeting and getting things rolling. I told him I'd think about it & call him back later, but I had to study for a while & when I logged back into the site (not mingle) I already had 2 messages from him (screams high maintenance and insecure)...so I didn't call him back & don't plan to!

Yeh that sounds much too fast... maybe that's okay for some people but .... not most.

To meet someone that fast could be really dangerous. You don't even know who they are... in real life or anything about them.

WAY TOO FAST...Someone that eager has got to have insecurities! If you can't wait a few hours for me to call back, then you ain't gonna want to take things slow and trust that if you are right one, things will develop on their own!

At this point in my life I am focused on building friendships on healing up my wounds from the past relationships! I don't need distractions, I need real bona fide genuine friends.

I've been called crazy :( Yea in my last relationship, I started talking about moving in after about 2 weeks. I don't see what's wrong with moving things along, some of us guys actually know what we want... Why waste time?, why hold your feelings back?, why pretend? Why do you think we're insecure and crazy just because we are serious about getting serious and "going steady" as it was once called? Not insecurity, it means that we know what we want and have confidence to move on to that stage. The guys and gals like those above me who are afraid of commitment are the ones who are insecure. This thread offends me >:(

How can you know you want to be with someone that you have never met? I have jumped into the fire with both my LTRs only to be burned later! And if you read my comment fully you would understand that I am being smart by not wanting to commit to something before I have healed up from my past relationships. That does no mean I fear commitment, I don't at all, just been through a lot in my little lifetime and know it's time to slow things down!!!

When all their love letters to you are written in crayon, and they ask if the straight jacket they're wearing makes them look fat.

i get guys from other dating sites that ask if i live alone.. even if i didnt. they shouldnt be asking for thats really non of there business
we (woman) should ask the guys that sae freaken question

(hey bud do you live alone)

Yep, everyone's different and goes at a different pace. But don't call me crazy because of that! Lol. I'm probably just lashing out from past experiences. True, I do know some guys who are insecure and NEED their lady to comfort them every hour. But every relationship i've seen takes one person or the other to push it forward. Things don't just happen on thier own. All relationships take work and when the other isn't trying or making an effort, we get upset and go "crazy". To me its not about knowing if they are the right one, its about diving in head first and working hard to make it right for you.

You should try to be more sensitive to the 'speed' at which the person you are courting is going. Moving in after two weeks is lightning speed. You can't possibly know a woman well enough nor her know you well enough in two weeks.

It sounds more like you are in a hurry and just want to get laid, not develop a long term relationship. Remember, some things are much harder to get out of than into.

I know a case of a guy who let a woman spend a week with him just because she had no place to go. One night she called the police, made a false complaint against him and they took him to jail. She then called her boyfriend and they pulled up a truck and took all the the furniture and everything worth anything out of the apartment.

Then they left town. Probably to go set up housekeeping elsewhere. In this state living with someone is common law marriage. He could not do anything about it, not even file a complaint for theft.

The police had no idea.

Don't be in such a rush.

sweety you are young and I see nothing screaming insecure about you personally, but get back to us in about 10 yrs or so after diving in to find out she wasn't what you expected and in the midst of "loving you" she makes you miserable and your life 100X harder than it ever should have been. You will learn to take things slower and really get a good idea of what type of person you are bringing into your life! good luck :)

Good advice, maybe it will help me :)

rushing into things(overly needy of attention)

unable/unwilling to acknowledge positive things
( a miserable person )


unable/unwilling to acknowledge negative things or things that need improving( a delusional person)


always condemning others for flaws while blaming others for their own




,,,there are so many varying degrees of 'crazy'

You have to be crazy to be interested in me. So, if they're not crazy, there's something wrong.

there is a healthy crazy! I am in the "that girl just ain't right" camp! The OP is referring to the kind of crazy that you don't want in your life

What defines crazy to one person may not to another. Just have to find your match.