so ive been dating this guy for almost for months now.his religious background is baptist i currently dont follow a religion but have visited a few different religions.

anyway,he used to kiss me the first month we began to date then he said we are moving to fast and wanted to work on being better friends,which i was fine with,but the last time he kissed me was on valentines day,and i brought it up to him that the last time we kissed was on that day but he told me we need to work on being really good friends first..

i told him im frustrated but he keeps saying we need to work om our friendship more but he says he still loves me.

so am i wanting to rush things or is he taking things a lil too sloe?

Hi Bee....

I don't think you are rushing things.....I think something might be up with him (cold feet?)

in a relationship people should respect each other's feelings. needs vary, and almost always are not common to both parties. if you really dig this cat, respect his feelings. if he really digs on you, he will respect yours. if he isn't bettering you as a person, or you aren't bettering him as a person, get the fu(k out of dodge

hey eileena9,esebulldog

he does make my life more fun,[right now im an at home caretaker]nad he does make laugh alot so i think im being paranoid a bit but he doesnt try to kiss me but he loves me he says

Maybe he's a zombie. Try breaking the glass and see what he does.

Kissing is not to be underestimated. It is key.

I would disconnect the dots and be on my way...but that is just me.

i mean he can sit there and say he loves me but isnt it pretty much pointless with out the affection?

For me, it would most definitely be pointless without it.

the most i get from him is being tickled..

If someone was just telling me he loved me, but wasn't able to show it in anyway, I'd have to wonder how truthful he was being. Kissing is important when it comes to a relationship. If he can't even handle that, something is up.

well yeah he keeps saying he wants to work on the friendship first thats great but im still his girlfriend im a girl i like affection and not being kissed sence valentines day is weird to me

i just remember that he tells me to kiss him on his face cheek at night

Hi Bee!

Maybe I'm dimwitted, but shouldn't the friendship part happen before the kissing part, so when you get to the kisses, you don't have to "slow down?" I think he's making excuses to cover a deeper problem. Either you're in a relationship or you're just friends, you can't be both.

I would tell him "I see you want to take
things slow. Just remember, if we are not
doing the same pace, one of us will pass
the other by."

I wouldn't warn him twice.

heya LeighAnna9!

i know i mean we used to go to high school but never really hung out and he started talking to me on facebook so we werent friends long b4 he asked me out its like were going backwards..but he asked me out and he says im his girl but doesnt want to kiss me bc friendship is more important?

i know i feel like well i mean hes my b.f he should want to kiss me but he keeps bringing up that to have a good relationship u have to have a strong friendship but i cant wait much longer for him to show me affection...

like i told him last night i have to remind myself were dating bc u never touch me

i agree that friendship is important
but him pulling back by not gicing you a kiss shows how insecure he is
if he cant prove it then its not worth wasting your time

Eh, I just thought that was the difference between guys you're friends with and guys you're dating, one you don't kiss and one you do, but that's just me. Also, it's very easy for a guy to say one thing and do another, especially if he thinks his words will get him what he wants, whatever the hell that is.

thanks queenie and leighann

i mean he asked me out hes at my house everyday says he loves me but says he wants to take things slow ok great but u dont want to even try to kiss me and when i brought that up about him not kissing me his response was "do you want to be with me" which that wuts he usually says

No kissing is just wrong, with someone
you have romantic feelings for.

Some people do not like to kiss at all.
I would avoid them.