I have stopped seeing a few women because, it looks like the women have to get the kid's permission before they can pick him as a potential partner.

These weren't young kids either. They were in their late teens and early 20's. Kids, I thought should be out on their own.

One gal, I had been to the house, dinner and all. She lived about 20 miles away. One day, on business, I was in the area and stopped to ask if she'd like to go get some lunch.

She told me, I couldn't be there cuz her kids would get pissed and give her a hard time.

I never called her back.

Have any ya'll had similar experiences?

No, but as a single mother of three, I plan on dating whomever I want. My kids are young now, so of course i dont really date, hahaha, but when they are older like that they will respect my decisions as an adult. They surely could find something to do on their own time at that age. It was not as though you were there to propose.

You dodged a bullet with some whining bitcheyassed kids who got NO idea what life is actually about....

If mama wants to keep treating grown assed adults like her five year old children...step the hell away.

At this point in our lives....as Good men....we can pick and chose our mistakes....

Walk away from that one bro.

No. Not to say that I dont consider how my children FEEL, but what Im feeling has to take priority in my personal relationships and my kids will never MAKE that decision for me.

no

my children would never dream of being that disrespectful - can't imagine it

there are certain things that are never the business of your children - where they do not get an opinion.

they just want me to be happy

I don't tell them who to date either

we never had forbidden friends - the hood was always welcome in our home

my kids would not ever, no

Maybe she got cold feet, and didnt want to hurt your feelings. . or she is one of those moms who are so incredibly close with her children, like they are all best friends and slap each other on the aszes all the time

no, i was cautious however, in bringing my kids into the relationship until i knew it was going to go somewhere.

I have a 14y.o son and he always would want to know whom am I going out with. Just a sort of trying to make sure the guy knows they (my children) exist. But there was never a time he came in between my decisions when it comes to my personal affairs. And I thank heaven for that

How much bail would you be willing to pay for those kids?

EVERYONE thinks thier kid is angelic...

yeah....right....

That little mouthy bastard that she loves so much WILL end up in trouble....how much does she expect you to put out to handle her problems?

It is a legitimate question.

My sons trust my judgement and so they are happy to meet anyone I introduce them to. However if there was something that bothered them that they felt they needed to say they would. They want me to be happy but they also worry about my safety. They never tell me what to do but they do ask questions. If a man does not understand that my sons want to meet who their Mom is seeing then he will not fit into my world. There is a difference between concern and dictating my life. The first is good and the second just isn't something my boys would do.

Hummm well I do care what my kids think at times kids can get a feel for others more then the one that is with them. But.......my kids would never say anything bad about them or towards another person as long as I was happy.


Sorry to say it sounds like to me that she wanted a reason to not see you again and she used her kids as an excuse.........

Have you considered teling your sons.."Back off!! I am about to tear this guy up"

Or..."Go get an ice cream...Mama is about to get her freak on".....

Guys really do understand a blunt approach.....

My sons are 19 and 26. There is a mutual understanding that Mom does not want to know about them getting their freak on and they don't want to know about mine. Besides it would be "Go get a beer" not ice cream

My kids run alot of men off. They were horrible!!!
But now it does not work anymore! Took a long time to get it through thair heads.But is drilled in now.They have no say....

I think that's a different situation for each person and it doesn't mean that a mother is weak or that the kids are brats in all cases..

My sons feel they have a some say in who I date.. I was always careful to not bring anyone around unless it had been 6 months or more and I felt it was going somewhere.. They have certain expectations of me and I've not dated anyone seriously that I knew they wouldn't accept...

That being said if I really cared for someone I would tell my sons to accept it or not and eventually they would accept it..

I can't say that it's ever happened to me, I can get along with kids of all ages.
It sounds like the female was just making an excuse. So many use their kids to make up quick excuses. Sorry that you went through that.

I have 6 children, from 11 to 21. and yep I do take into consideration their views on people. Not just on a partner, but on everyone, friends and all, my children have always been my best friends, they see a lot in people that i tend to miss.
My eldest son is deaf and he can normally get a good judgement on people in a very short time, if he is comfortable then normally so am I.

However, I would not let them control my life, I have had to not listen, when I was travelling to America earlier this year my eldest daughter and 2 eldest sons did try and stop me as they thought it was dangerous. Yep I listened, I talked it through with them and went anyway,
Hmmm but the eldest boy went with me to make sure everything would be OK.
I guess for me that the man in my life has to get on with my children and they have to get on with him, just because you cannot have a family with tension in it,
However saying that, when my children relised that i was serious and that I loved the man, and that I was safe they have been great, they will always support me and protect me if they think they need to.
And really I like tht they do.

Ahhhh......the whole situation of finding a sweet deal of woman only to run into the roadblock of her children clinging to the hope that one day the family will reunite. That's a tough one.

Then there's the mom that wants you to play daddy for awhile, then not, then back in, then back out again.

Then there's the mom that's terrified to death that her children are gonna get mad at you and go live with daddy.....when the children are going to eventually do that anyway.

Big mess there, and unless mom is at peace with the chance that that can happen, it's never gonna work.

My daughter helped me with my profile. My other daughter gave me the safe sex speech when I told her I was on a dating website...

Its hard to say why her kids would be involved or why she would be so influenced by their opinions but sounds like you dodged a bullet.