How do u break up with someone? Im 30 years old n i have never broken it off with a guy before except 1 but that was a totally different situation coz he was stabbing me n trying to kill me. So anyway sidetrack here how do u break it off?

I always believe being truthful is the best. I don't know the circumstances but if you just aren't feeling it, then tell him that.

You don't have to be mean, just be direct and truthful.

I know I would appreciate that (whether I like it or not)...I can deal with the truth

I agree with Yellowrose.
The truth never hurts me nearly as much as being lied to or strung along.
I think its the best way to go!

Wow, well, hopefully this one won't be the "stabbing" type! Geeeeeeeez!!!

Maybe only after the beak up.

I 'd say that justifies the break up!!!


I usually try to talk in person or on the phone and explain what I think he did, and if I have given him several chances (normally I do) and he still does whatever it is (my pet peeve is breaking dates and not calling when he says, and cheating or purposely trying to make me jealous)

if he keeps doing those things after a bunch of chances - I usually leave him a VM telling him it's done - if he answers I tell him it's done - no explanation

he will fuss and ask for chances as I have already given him a bunch

slip out the back jack
make a new plan stan
get on the bus gus
don't need to be coy roy
just set yourself free

there must be 50 ways to leave your lover....

well heres a little of the situation.

I started dating a 25yo who ill call beng. Nice guy but very young and i knew it was something that wouldnt go far at all. Guess thats why i started dating him coz i know its gonna go no where n i can kinda control it so i dont get hurt. Enter a 31yo who ill call lovecraft who i have known for a long time who wants to be with me n has always wanted too. I was open n honest with lovecraft n told him that i was with beng but lovecraft told me he dont care, he has waited too long n that he wants to be with me regardless. After months of thinking i have decided that my heart is with lovecraft n not beng.

Now how do i say that to beng.........sorry i dont want to be with u because my heart is elsewhere???? sorry beng i dont think we would work out coz i dont see a future there n ur very young n immature i have 2 kids of my own i dont want another?????

I want to be truthfull but i dont want to fully devastate the guy either.

try...

"I like you, but I don't like you like you..."

'this isnt working'

Into everyone's life a little heartache must fall, and he is young enough to bounceback. Don't tell him you have been talking to LoveCraft, just that you can't get over your feelings for someone from your past and you don't want to hurt him by leading him on. Use the specific words, "I don't see a future with you".

"Mandy and I are going to the Bahamas for a week when we get back we would appreciate it if you s*** was moved outta here"

leave out anything personal that's negative about him -especailly since he hasn't done anything wrong

just tell him ur not feelin it any more & hope u can stay friends

FRIENDS? What a total chick thing to say! She is about to hand his *ss to him and she wants to stay friends?

The only person to take that offer, thought the relationship was over too, or they are planning to stay close and wear you down eventually.

There is no such thing as friends after a break up, if there was, I would have a ton of them because I used that line in my 20s, and they never called again. It's just a selfish offer to make you feel better about yourself for hurting them when they say "yes".

Someone is always gonna be hurt in a break up, there is no avoiding that, its life. NO ONE wants to be in the 'friends' zone afterward.

You sit across from the person you thought you were going to have a future with, who only hangs out with you out of guilt and slaps on a pathetic smile in an effort for you to forgive them for not wanting to be with you anymore.

(panting from ranting) Ah! sweet release of hostility.

Mandy is awesome!

You tell him you don't want to be with him anymore.... it's rather simple.

Humm pretty simple actually I just tell them it is not working out for what I'm looking for is just not there......At my age there is no sense in staying with someone that does not make you totally happy nor you them......

I don't believe in dating just to be dating either it is there with them or it is not...... If not then do both parties a favor and end it....Honesty is still and will always be the best policy...

I too, believe that honesty is the best policy. You just know that in your heart that it is not going to work, just say so. I know it sounds simple, but in today's society this is how it should be done.
No need in wasting your time or theirs. They may hate you now, but you have your self respect has to come first. It is not good practice leading someone on when you don't have to. JMO

Hit him in the Nutz with a stun gun.

I think you can be friends after a relationship,,,some people are great friends although they are awful boyfriend/girlfriend material


just like people can be great parents but terrible spouses

if you can respect what WAS good about the relationship , you can always carry on with those things without the ROMANTIC involvement


but that all depends upon WHY the relationship broke up , I guess
Im still great friends with my first husband, he couldnt be trusted to keep his junk in his pants, so he wasnt good husband material at the end of the day
but I still loved all the other things about him that I did before, as did he, and it enabled us to continue to respect and care deeply about each other without the ROMANCE, ,,