Dear Mom,

I know you love your son, but you are seriously neutering him. All that women's liberation is great for us and our self confidence. It isn't good for your son, who is now so *****-whipped b/c you control every aspect of his life.

He is now apart of a generation of men raised by their mothers, who have ingrained it into their heads that women are the superior species and he should do NOTHING to challenge their minds or bodies.

They are so sensitive and have all these feelings, and he should respect all of them. Really mom? The feelings we have when one little nail is uneven and we cry? The rage we go into when our boyfriends mix the colors and the whites? Even the times that PMS makes us climb a clock tower with a rifle?

There are a whole group of immature under-developed men in their 20s & 30s who are afraid to be men. Dating, in this day and age, is like going to a junior high dance. Girls are still girls, and want a boy to ask them to dance. Boys are still too terrified to ask.

We give out blow-jobs and quickies like 3 cent candy, just to get their attention long enough for us to find out his balls are the size of M&Ms.

The ones who aren't scared to take the initiative, are now used to the free treats too, and don't give a rats *** about sticking with any one girl. This just pisses us off and makes us give up and look for another girl instead.

Bottom line Mom: You claim that chivalry is dead and there are no real gentlemen out there anymore...and you are right. BECAUSE WE HELPED DESTROY IT!

Moms, do your sons a favor. 1) shut up about the Playboys in his room, 2) let him play violent sports or video games, 3) Let him make decisions for himself and 4) Tell him that women are just crazy as men and he should find a partner in crime, not a goddess to worship.

I would at least like my future daughter to find a nice man one day who isn't a complete ***** and will help her do the dishes, raise a family and work together.

All My Love,
Shayna

Yay my mom wasn't like that lol.

LOL Independant woman.......? I know of no such creature lol

I know of a few colleges that are worse than anybody's mom might be.

I must admit: I am a bit confused here. OP, I looked at your profile and it says, "32 year old man," yet you really look and sound like a woman!

I don't know which men you have been consorting with, but I have the feeling that you have met "mamas' boys" rather than men raised by women who believe in equality. These type of men have always existed, and it has nothing to do with women's liberation but rather, controlling women who cannot let go of their sons--or daughters.

I am a feminist, and my sons are NOTHING like the ones whom you describe. They do, however, respect their wives and acknowledge that they are equal but not superior.

If YOU are giving out blow-jobs like candy, I seriously suggest that it is YOUR problem! If a woman--or man--is so desperate that she/he will engage in sex before finding out the character of her/his partner, who is to blame?

If men aren't sticking to women who give out blow jobs and quickies to apparently just about anyone, I can't really blame them.

In addition, I have taught college classes for the last nine years: I don't often meet scared, *****-whipped young men in my classes.

And don't worry about your daughter: let HER be free to make her decisions. After all, it isn't your place to worry about whom she marries, eh? Not after tongue-lashing other women for the way you perceive that they raised their children.

lmao! I guess I better fix that. lol! I'm a woman.

You could be right Gwen. I am surprised, however, that you would assume I was speaking about myself in regard to women's promiscuity these days.

I'm no literary genius. Maybe I was expressing it wrong, but I was reflecting the area I live in. Women outnumber men 4 to 1 here and all I see are backstabbing, lying, manipulative girls who will rip out their best friends throat to get a decent guy who isn't a 'mamma's boy'. I see the shallow, pathetic behavior in my teenage nieces and wanna cry.

Mamma's boy is something we have an abundance of here because of the lethal mix of a woman who grew up in the 'women's liberation' era, but still chose to stay home with the family. As an over-compensation to be loved for 'who you are' the moms glom their issues on to their kids. You cook that for about 10 years and you have one pissed chick. I guess I left out the Dad, who is the x-factor of never being around. We also have a large number of dead-beat dads here who stay married for the food stamps, but are too busy drinking to notice the mom is a psycho.

Call me crazy, but I'm just not interested in trying to find a future with this bunch.

Color me 'Bitterly Unsurprised' that the only direct, descriptive reply was a woman who felt it necessary to belittle the idea in an effort to feel superior.

BTW Gwen...your hair is beautiful.

Thanks Gwen

well it's nice to be blamed for everything as we usually are. My sons are nothing like what you've described. If that is what u r seeing out there then it is your responsibility to find more suitable companions, and your grounded until you do

So this message is to the mothers in your town?

to the OP- it is my message to

I mean unless she's addicted to pornos, I'm not sure where she is seeing all of this sodom and gomrrah??? but I suggested she change her milieu

I was kinda kidding around with the part about being grounded---yanno being a "mom" and all

I mean the OP Sweet not your post... Sorry if it was confusing, I didn't want to quote the whole thing..

yes klc, I objected to that to. I think that roots in a solid family life - whether or not the parents are married or divorced - where stability, and positive support and encouragement are provided is a child's best chance. Children will retain ties to their family of origin - parents, siblings, cousins, etc. when the relationships have been mostly good ones

having close ties and spending time with ones family is not being a mama's boy. There are a lot of young men out there who could use some quality time and decent guidance

ok understood

I think the OP has great intentions about being equal among the sexes, but I also think she is using broad over generalizations about a huge group based upon her experience with a very select group.

well at least u understand the point - not sure I do

I think she can see a problem, and is just trying to bring awareness to it.

absolutely - why not blame absentee fathers - I'd find that far more credible in the literature anyway - if we were to assign blame. Or blame the high divorce rate and the breakdown of the family, or blame parents who do not provide appropriate direction for their children - regardless of being a mom or a dad. Children who have parents who stay involved in their lives and guide them have a better chance - (which I think is the opposite of what the OP is saying , but I'm not sure).

But after a certain age we are all responsible for our own character formation irrespective of our roots

I really try to steer clear of the blame game. It just spends a lot of time and effort in a fruitless effort. I would like to spend the time and effort in education, and information.

Funny, one side is right because people they've come across do "this" or "that" and the other side is right for the exact same reasons...my advice, don't take what you "personally" know as a definitive conclusion to other people.

Here's a tip, you personally know less than 1% of the population...a lot less.

Fanatics make me laugh.