Ladies,

I am wondering where I went wrong. I think I married too fast. I knew my wife for only a couple of months before I married her. Anyways...as much as I love her...we just don't have much in common, you know? I don't want to leave her. But I just need someone to talk to my age (i.e 38) who just might know what I am going through. I am not a bad guy. Been down a long and bumpy road...and while I have always managed to pull off the impossible, I feel my efforts just aren't appreciated. I am starting a new career in a different direction, but it never seems to be enough. Maybe I need a conversation and a breath of fresh air.

- The Captain

you ahh don't have alot in common hmm that sucks.

Just curious, why is divorce not an option?

cuz that sucks too lol

Divorce is better than living in misery though.

Anytime you say the words "I think I married too fast".......it's never a GOOD sign. Why did you marry so fast? What made you think you needed to do that? Thought you were in love and now you might be questioning it?

Look. People hook up, marry, or get serious with dating each other and then, couple months down the road, they realize they might have made a mistake. It's called life, and guess what? In this little thing we call life, we all phuck up. It's just one of those things. We "think" we have something figured out, only to see that we don't. We "think" we love, or like someone and then....few months later, we find out that it isn't what we thought it was.

Dude. I can't tell you if you phucked up or not. All I can tell ya is that if you are thinking this, then it isn't a good sign. I think you know this and I think you just want someone to talk you out of not feeling this way. Wish you luck man. But I see this for what it is. Ya made a mistake. Don't make yourself suffer cause you did.

My brothers were both married at a young age, divorced and then married a second time. They taught me a very, VERY important lesson.

A good relationship is found in the stages.

1. Infatuation- You think they are the most awesome people in the world, but you don't actually know them. This goes on through first three stages. If the sex is awesome, possibly longer.

2. Comfort- You and she seem to get along really well (this is tricky b/c you are still fooling each other by saying every thing each does is okay).

3. Tests- You start to learn more about each other and your habits. This is where you would find out if you have more in common to actually want to spend days in each other's company.

4. Bottom of the Barrel- you have your first fight and it involves some core issues. You have to decide if its worth setting aside your values to keep the relationship going.

5. The Question- IF after all that, you decide that they are still worth the risk, and you don't think you could possibly find another person that fits you as well, then you ask them to marry you.

Seems to me that you jumped stages 2-4 and hopped right into 5.

Sounds like you are ready, willing and able
to take the first step to cheating if you
have not already.
Loyalty has a simple standard.
Why else direct this just to 'Ladies'?

Who do you think is going to help you do that.
There are sincere people on this end.

Two Captains in one thread.

Weird.