What qualifies a person as fat? I always felt that I was "thick" but recently I am beginning to think I am just fat. I am constantly hassled for being overweight by people online especially forums. When I was 10 I was put on lithium and didn't get off of it till I was 18. During the time I was on lithium I weighed about 300lbs and I was only 5 foot 4 inches. When I was old enough to refuse medication I lost MOST of the weight but my body never went completely back to a fit size. I have been really fat for a long time so my current size (to me) is hardly fat. It just makes me sad because I have a lot to offer but I get refused due to being overweight. So I wanna know am I fat? what is fat these days and what is thick? I know that I cant shop at lane bryant and thats the plus size girl store so what am I missing?

It's all good!

Love yourself and others will follow. Don't worry about what others think.

How do you REALLY feel about yourself?

Looking at your 2nd picture ( the only full body shot) I say NO, you are NOT FAT

Look fine to me

I wish I could be happy and not worry about what others think about me but I am not there yet. Maybe in time but I have yet to meet a single person who could not be affected by the majority of people around them disliking them......

I just wish people would look past the weight issue.......Its not like I eat like crazy in fact my WORST fault is that I don't eat till nighttime instead of eating meals throughout the day.

Thanks :)

Thick yes, fat no! There is nothing wrong with a little extra! Beats making the bounce bounce with a stick figure! I hate carpet burn on my coin purse!

Fat is when the boobs are eclipsed by the front butt! Fat is when the azz takes up two beach chairs! Fat is when the person sits and they look exactly like Jabba the Hut!

I guess in summary all I would say is your a big girl but fat? NO WAY!

Now no more of that self hating there little miss! Time for you to get an electric Guitar and rock! K? Everyone loves a Superstar! Now Nancy Wilson from Heart, didn't she like get real fat or was it the other sister? She still could sing then too. Mama Kass, she was real big too but damn she had a voice.

I see what you are saying. I agree I don't think I am fat just a bigger girl. Sad thing is that to a lot of guys, any extra weight is fat.

I will probably get over this soon enough...just feeling down on myself today....

You're far from fat

And you're far from skinny

How's that?

I used to know a real big girl years back who could Bench Press 300 lbs. I can dead lift 250 but 260 lbs is pushing it. this fool called her fat to her face. hand came up, hand swiped face, a guy bigger than me got Beyatch slapped by a girl off of his feet and into unconsciousness. Lesson to be learned here? Sometimes a big girl is a heavy lifter and can slap a man so hard that he gets to kiss pavement for a few minuets. Way too many guys are too into themselves. Hey think every woman needs to look like Pamela Anderson. They have Aphrodite Dreams but in reality would poke a sheep if they thought no one would catch them (where do you think baby Satyrs come from????).

It is a fuqued up game. The rules are unfair and life does play favorites. The reality of it is it is not what you got but how you carry it. If you can learn how to flaunt what you got you may get a lot of unwanted attention. Don't sell yourself short.

What I think is funny is that so many women gain weight later on, that inevitable guys end up with women my size and bigger anyway. LOL

Ha! Men put on weight as they age. And yet, most think they are sex Gods to women.

thats called the ron jeremy effect

you gotta love yourself b4 anyone else can love you

Don't feel bad. My doctor has constantly told me I'm overweight -- beginning when I was a pre-teen. I'm 5 ft 8 now and according to him and the government I should weigh no more than 180 .. and even that number is pushing it.

I stopped listening to people long ago. I eat as healthy as I can and I make a point to get at least 30-60 mins of cardio and weights in as exercise. If I lose weight, great (would make me happy of course). I'm really just trying to prevent gaining anything more as weight issues among diabetes runs in my family.

Years ago, skinny skinny was all the rage. But nowadays I am seeing more men that are attracted to women with some form of meat on them. They say skinny is a turn off.

There's someone for everyone and I firmly believe in that. I found that you have to learn to accept yourself completely to really realize that being skinny or thin doesn't matter.

You are totally cute. It is futile comparing your unique form of beauty. Its like saying a daffodil is ugly and a daisy is pretty when they're all just flowers. Dont put red paint on your white roses to please the queen of hearts. Those whos like daisies will gravitate to them those who like daffodils will be mesmerized by you :)

You have a beautiful way with words... So true!!!

AWW thank you..thats so sweet

Thick and juicy...