Actually your worst fault is not believing you are beautiful....and lack of self esteem......gaining self esteem through the eyes and approval of others......shows co-dependency in your personality......work on your self-esteem and see yourself as beautiful and others will too.....if you feel that losing more weight helps your self-esteem in your eyes than make that choice but not because others cannot see your beauty.....beauty come from within because in the end no one wants to be with vapid judgemental nasty people...address your own insecurities and don't give a rats *** what nasty judgemental people think because at the end of the lifespan when you are kind and they are nasty......your beauty gets remembered revered and loved, whilest they crumble away surrounded in nothingness....hoorah

I totally agree, I just had a hard day yesterday. I normally do not pursue people but yesterday I did. Needless to say I was rejected..twice. The worst part was that had I been fit I would have been a good match. They only blew me off once they saw my photo, so I am faced with the reality that if I could just lost the weight, I would be accepted and even wanted by these people. It's hard to not be hurt by people blatantly blowing you off just because you are overweight. It's hard to think of a more shallow reason to not date someone too...

Now that I have had a day to reflect and cool down I realize that I would not want to date people like that anyway. I have way to much heart to with someone who is incapable of real love. Real love is not affected by weight, I know that because my ex was overweight and he worked his way into my heart. Now I like my guys to be big, nothing like a big warm teddy bear hug to melt into...