Way to go, Jess! I responded the same way to my experience with this sort of thing. I learned (the hard way) how to be resilient.




To answer the OP: Rape and beatings.

One left me with over 10K debt. It took me 3 years to pay off.

One surprised me by taking naked pictures of me while I was in the shower. Then before I could stop him he dropped the film off to be developed and refused to pick it up. I had to go pick it up and they ummm... recognized me.
Hilarious.

K...now thats just plain mean and nasty...I hope you got revenge

K...now thats just plain mean and nasty...I hope you got revenge

Yeah it was. I kicked his *** out. It was the last time I ever let anyone move in with me.
Thanks V

Its cause darkness is attracted to the brightest lights Darlin

lied about me,and to me, to purposely cause problems for me - the hidden agenda was mostly a control issue I think

also later a financial issue as he was trying to make me appear not competent intentianally to gain control over money he thought I was going to receive from my family. He stole possessions and family heirlooms from me that had nothing to do with him that were from my family (and went after the money next. Are we speaking? no Will we be speaking ? no Do I forgive him? no Will I ever forgive him? prolly not but who cares

Oh, and this is the small stuff....this barely scratches the surface....ya

let me down...

bit my nipple

oooooooo can I do that too???

alot of people dont know about my past
and this will be known
when i was 17 there was i guy i kinda knew and he was known well around town
didnt know anything about his past
and he figured he could play with my mind
he end up raping me
and learned later that he had raped a friend of mine several times
also found out that he had worked(or was just there) at the fairview center for the disabilty patients where he had raped 2 girls which they found out later they were pg and one gave the baby to her sister and the other had abortion
(by the way this man was freaken married and had 2 kids) i think his wife finally divorce him.. and i thought for along time that he had died.. untill a few yrs ago a friend of mine got a letter from the da about him.. and she said that he had been in jail for over 20yrs which i had no clu but he actually deserves to die

he never beat me

My brother's best friend committed murder and pinned it on my ex-husband who is serving 20 yrs for it! I'm not saying he should've walked free because he did help him after, but the guy never even got charged-the justice system sucks!

My ex cheated with a girl I use to work with who was just a "friend". But of course that was a lie. That was when I was pregnant and carrying his child. How disgusting.

Another ex of mine's dad sexually harassed me and gave me a panic attack. My ex stood there and watched everything but did nothing.

A guy friend of mine alomost raped me but I was stronger.

I don't like talking about my past much but since the question was asked, I figure why not share a little. 
What so called friends have done doesn't really bother me much because they aren't apart of my life anymore, good riddens to bad rubbish. The last year and a half of my life has been nothing but a living nightmare. 
It starts with her father saying that I didn't do anything around the house anymore( so the only thing that I did was take care of my daughter and myself) Then he came home one day and said that he was leaving us. We were together for 14 years and he wanted me to be the stay at home mother and I was ok with it until I wanted to work and get out of the house just a little. Any job that I took was nothing but a complain after complain, so I had to quit. It wasn't worth living with the constant complaining. So when he said that he was leaving, I asked if he wanted my help to pack his things up. Well I guess it wasn't the response that he was looking for. The relationship was over by that point, to know that the guy that I once loved and trusted was just going to bail on us, was devistating to say the least. I had nothing more to say to him, there wasn't much to work out. I prepared my family for it but no one clued in until it was over and I answered a bunch of screwed up questions that they didn't like the answers too. Anyways, I was a single mother and I felt like I had a few fears to face after feeling like an inmate for so long. I sware that prisioners had more freedom then I did.. lol. Yeah, I can joke about it now because it's over with and staying that way. Almost forgot to mention my mom and bro sticking their noses where they didn't belong and my sis trying to take my daughter away from me, but I'm just suppose to let it go, like water under a bridge. After almost drinking myself to death, I decided that if I actually made it to the new year then it was all going to be different. I dropped contact with most people and finally started making some good friends that actually have helped me a lot and most likely without even knowing, but just by hearing what they have gone through has helped. 
I just finished my course and with a slight medical issue, I'm now going into my biggest challenge ever but I know that I'm ready to finally get it over and done with. I have my daughter and one day, I know that I will have someone else to share our life with once again. After everything that I just went through, well I'll say that there isn't too much left to really fear but maybe the unknown and actually the unknown isn't really that scary anymore. Thanks for posting this topic incidius and you are right, it does help to talk about it. :-)
Take care,
Glo (hugs)

My ex cheated on me for months, got hooked on meth,and weed, then left me for her dealer that she was cheating on me with. When she left she took $28,000 and gave to her new boyfriend and he was pimping her out to his friends for $50.00 per hour. That was on the day I bought a ring and was going to propose to her. I came home and she was gone wiht out a note or taking anything. I was panicked that something had happened to her and it took me a week to find her. When I did, her and the two guys she was humping were too f^cked up to even relize that I was there.

My "Friends" at the time knew about it and let it happen figuring that when it came down I would leave and they would get the performance shop I owned at the time. I found out later that their plan was to take it and sell it off, then split the money up amoung themselves. The tools, shop cars, everything.

So much for friends and relationships. Its no wonder I'm jaded and can't trust anyone anymore.

sorry sleepless-you'll get through it! I've had 2 LTRs (one being the marriage) & they didn't cheat on me or lie a lot, but oh the other hells I have endured behind drunk/drug induced BS is enough to last several lifetimes!

Elvis coulda' sung that tune.

As an adult, I've been burned a couple times.

I was mostly the problem with my ex-wives and girlfriends.

I didn't trust and tested them til they gave up. Then, blamed them.

Being mistrustful, I ran around on everyone, except the 4th, of 'em.

My worst experience was the physical, mental and emotional battering I took for the 14 years I lived with my mother and step-father.

Parental abandonment and abuse is very difficult to overcome.

Still have a few, not near as many, hairpin triggers that can set me off.

So, I tend to keep my distance and view relationships from the outside in.

Kinda' like watching a pretty snowglobe wishing I was a part of.

let a woman he just met brainwash him to believe i'm something i'm not

My first serious relationship, I found out he was married and looking for wife number 2. Found out he was trying to flirt with a friend. She started sending me messages and texts he had sent her so I knew what was said.



Basically, every single relationship I've had, I've been cheated on

my ex hubby and i were together on and off for 2yrs before we even got married
u put up with his crap that whole time
he cheated before during and after
and when i was pg with my son
my best friend was having issue with her marriage
and i let her stay
that night he tried to get down her pants while i was asleep
and the next morn she had to go to a class so she called me and told me what he tried and i confronted him while i was on the phone with my friend and all he did was laugh about it, and i told streight out i belive her more than i did him, ,he didnt say anything for he knew he was wrong... but of course he never admitd he cheated with anyone else

but when i had kicked him out of the house the 4th and last time
his adopted brother introduced him to this girl and they were together for awhile and of course they had a child

when we were going through our divorce we had a divorce court hearing and he had the nerve to bring his gf to the hearing
if the judge would had ask why i wanted a divorce i would had said she right behind me

but any how he end up cheating on her with his 2nd wife and we still wernt even divorce yet

when he met his 2nd wife he had told her that we were already divorce which we wernt we had a few months before our divorce would had been final
he constantly lied to me which he also lied to his 2nd wife which i wouldnt be suprised that he still is

he told her that i burned his clothes which never happed

he also told her that he kicked me down the stairs.. which NEVER EVER HAPPED!!!!!!! the only person that ever fell down the staira was this little girl i was babysitting for..



there was a guy that i met little over 12yrs ago
i didnt know him that well but he seem nice at first but he wouldnt leave me alone he i would say smuthered me
i didnt know anything about his background and it was a few days after i had met him he had to go to court so i went with him and the judge said something about a restraing order and assult and battery
and i had ask him later about that and he said oh my po is mad at me.. (so what does that have to do with the what the judge said)
it was later on that day or it was next that he accused me on cheating on him.. how could i he wouldnt leave my side and even if i wanted to i wouldnt had...he hit me and threated to give me a black eye but that didnt happen,, by this time i had a extreme headach and i was able to get up and i said i need some asprin and i went over to the neighbor, she new what was up and her daughter called the police
he was aressted later and that nite he had the nerve to call me collect.. he tried calling for i think a week and there was one nite i had called and i dont know what cop i was talking to but it was a lady she was so rude she hung up on me... and there was another time i had called and not knowing or realizing who i was talking to (which happen to be my sister neighbor and good friend of the family) he put a block on the phone so that guy couldnt call
i put a restraing order on him, and i was supose to been notified he was released which i wasent and i kept getting message on my pager(when i had a pager back then) and i didnt reconize the number and when i realize i called the police and they came out and they didnt say much well he wasent ment to have any contact with me

well any how at the time he was in jail i manage to track down his ex gf that he was with for 4yrs.. she put up with that crap of his
he also accused her on cheating which she never did.. it was him.. there was a girl he with that he got her into drugs and he hit her she didnt press charges but the 2nd time he hit her the hospitol pressed charged for he had hit her with a tire iron...

the last time i heard anything about him if i recall right that must had been about 10yrs. he was arrested for assult and battery of a 64yr old lady..
no clu where hes at and i dont care
i found out that a old bf that i still talk to is actually related to that guy (by 2nd cousins) and he has no contact with him and he didnt approve what he had done