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Topic: Making the First Move
singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 08/09/10 06:00 AM Edited by singmesweet on Mon 08/09/10 06:07 AM
This can be on a site like this, or out in the real world. Men, do you prefer to make the first move, or are you fine with a woman doing so? Why? Women, do you prefer to wait for a man to make the first move, or will you take a chance? Why? Just to clarify, making the first move could be an email on here, or going up to someone in person and starting a conversation. Or asking for a phone number or even a date (here or in person).

venusenvy Joined Sat 07/31/10 Posts: 2984	Mon 08/09/10 06:06 AM
I like to hunt down the guy Im interested in and then hang around and let him make the 1st move

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 08/09/10 06:08 AM
Does that usually get the hint across so you get what you want?

Athoss Joined Fri 08/06/10 Posts: 1108	Mon 08/09/10 06:10 AM
i like to be hunted,just as well innit

venusenvy Joined Sat 07/31/10 Posts: 2984	Mon 08/09/10 06:11 AM
Does that usually get the hint across so you get what you want? Seems to work well

justme659 Joined Wed 10/03/07 Posts: 6144	Mon 08/09/10 06:16 AM
I am done making the first move. Every time I do, the other person "expects" that I am desperate for sack time on the first date. I deserve better than that attitude. Yes, I know not every guy does that, but I think me being forward and taking the lead is the incentive for this attitude, so I quit making the first move.

LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32131	Mon 08/09/10 06:33 AM
I never make the first move. The whole concept eludes me.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 08/09/10 06:44 AM
I am done making the first move. Every time I do, the other person "expects" that I am desperate for sack time on the first date. I deserve better than that attitude. Yes, I know not every guy does that, but I think me being forward and taking the lead is the incentive for this attitude, so I quit making the first move. Yeah, that happens sometimes, but not all the time for me. I got tired of playing the waiting game. If I'm interested in getting to know someone, I'll let them know.

Josh511 Joined Mon 08/09/10 Posts: 4	Mon 08/09/10 07:33 AM
I don't mind making the first move but am always happy having her make the first move. It doesn't matter if you are male or female, if you see someone you are interested in then go for it.

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45397	Mon 08/09/10 07:40 AM
He chases me and chases me. Until I finally catch him. So. I wait for them :-)

Kings_Knight Joined Sat 01/31/09 Posts: 3718	Mon 08/09/10 07:47 AM
Rubbin' their butt when y' say 'hello' at that 'first cup of coffee' meeting generally sets a tone for the rest of the relationship ...

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 08/09/10 07:48 AM
And how's that working for you?

JamieRawxx Joined Sun 08/08/10 Posts: 2710	Mon 08/09/10 07:53 AM
what do you do when neither of them happen? 0.0

Kings_Knight Joined Sat 01/31/09 Posts: 3718	Mon 08/09/10 07:59 AM
And how's that working for you? I'm not a 'rub 'n tell' kinda guy ... try it yourself and see.

JamieRawxx Joined Sun 08/08/10 Posts: 2710	Mon 08/09/10 08:12 AM
And how's that working for you? I'm not a 'rub 'n tell' kinda guy ... try it yourself and see. lmfao

hmlover Joined Sun 02/22/09 Posts: 3156	Mon 08/09/10 08:17 AM
I'm not one to waste an opportunity. If I like someone, I tell them. The worst that can happen is they aren't interested and you move on.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 08/09/10 08:38 AM
what do you do when neither of them happen? 0.0 Do something about it.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 08/09/10 08:38 AM
I'm not one to waste an opportunity. If I like someone, I tell them. The worst that can happen is they aren't interested and you move on.

Kings_Knight Joined Sat 01/31/09 Posts: 3718	Mon 08/09/10 09:33 AM
I'm not one to waste an opportunity. If I like someone, I tell them. The worst that can happen is they aren't interested and you move on. Look at a 'butt-rub' as just another way of sayin' "I like you" ...

mbcasey Joined Wed 02/14/07 Posts: 1805	Mon 08/09/10 10:05 AM
I'm not one to waste an opportunity. If I like someone, I tell them. The worst that can happen is they aren't interested and you move on. I agree... Also, I wouldn't mind if a woman made the first move.