Topic: What Are Women Really Looking For?.
Fade2Black's photo
Tue 08/10/10 07:55 PM

(PLEASE NOTE: I am not generalizing. All women are not the same)

I don't get it, at times, even when you treat (some)women like gold, they take you for granted.

It doesn't matter how much you bent backwards to please them (some), it's never enough.

If you treat them like Queens and give them everything under the sun, they find faults in you.

But if a good-for-nothing lazy bum without a job, who also threat them like crap, happen to be their mate, those they love forever and threat them like Kings.

So what is it that women want, a decent man who will treat them great or a lazy bad boy who treats them like a door mat?.





If you are toooooo much a pushover, a woman loses respect. She wants to look up to you, not thank you for serving her. Sorry but true.

Monier's photo
Tue 08/10/10 08:01 PM


(PLEASE NOTE: I am not generalizing. All women are not the same)

I don't get it, at times, even when you treat (some)women like gold, they take you for granted.

It doesn't matter how much you bent backwards to please them (some), it's never enough.

If you treat them like Queens and give them everything under the sun, they find faults in you.

But if a good-for-nothing lazy bum without a job, who also threat them like crap, happen to be their mate, those they love forever and threat them like Kings.

So what is it that women want, a decent man who will treat them great or a lazy bad boy who treats them like a door mat?.





If you are toooooo much a pushover, a woman loses respect. She wants to look up to you, not thank you for serving her. Sorry but true.



So true. If a women loses respect for a man, he will never be more than a friend.

Also I believe that every woman wants to be treated uniquely. A step away from the groups and labels herself or others put on her.

rusty4570's photo
Wed 08/11/10 07:07 AM


its just like the old saying nice guys finish last start being a jerk and see where that gets ya women want what they know they should not have


whoa whoa

Stop dating immature women and this will not be a problem. :thumbsup:
[i have but thanks for the advicedrinker /quote]

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Wed 08/11/10 07:56 AM

Buying a woman presents and bending over backwards to make her happy is not going to help if she's not really into you. Just be yourself. Stop trying to go out of your way to treat women like "queens."


This statement right here is what confuses men because we want to be treated like princesses, wait we deserve to be treated like princesses and anything less is just settling

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Wed 08/11/10 08:09 AM


....once a woman knows she has you..end of story,as far as treating women like princesses..well that will happen when they show me their father is the frickin' king..but even then i may expect them to curtsy to me instead...smokin ..oh yea it's like that...:laughing:

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Wed 08/11/10 08:52 AM


(PLEASE NOTE: I am not generalizing. All women are not the same)

I don't get it, at times, even when you treat (some)women like gold, they take you for granted.

It doesn't matter how much you bent backwards to please them (some), it's never enough.

If you treat them like Queens and give them everything under the sun, they find faults in you.

But if a good-for-nothing lazy bum without a job, who also threat them like crap, happen to be their mate, those they love forever and threat them like Kings.

So what is it that women want, a decent man who will treat them great or a lazy bad boy who treats them like a door mat?.





If you are toooooo much a pushover, a woman loses respect. She wants to look up to you, not thank you for serving her. Sorry but true.
This is true.

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Wed 08/11/10 08:55 AM



Mike, Welcome to Mingle. I am sure you can find nice women in your area that are not looking for the bad boy. The reason I can say this for sure is because I live in your area!
Thanks.

Oh, I am sure I can, I am not looking just yet.

Just dumped one a few days ago.

One who thought that saying "I love you" was all a relationship needs.

Like I told her "words mean NOTHING, show me".

Words are just that, words.

Like they say, actions speak louder than words.

She found out the hard way. laugh laugh laugh laugh


This makes me question your assessment of 'decent' or 'treat her like a queen'...words mean quite a lot sir. You can show plenty in your words.


I suspect your words were powerful enough to wither hers. I dont know whats up there. Youve heard of a self fulfilling prophecy I suppose.

Words mean NOTHING if not backed with actions.

For example, don't fricking tell me you love me to my face and then cheat on me when I turn my back.

Comprendes?.

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Wed 08/11/10 09:02 AM


This is my motto:

There's only one person I love more than I love myself: My mother.

That said, I will NEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEVER love a woman more than I love myself.

Perhaps the reason why I can move on so quickly.

But I will always threat them great.


Ooo, I just noticed this.

I think it should be in your profile. You may save everyone involved a good deal of time and energy.
?

Loving yourself more than someone you are dating saves yourself pain, headache and heartaches.

What, are you going to tell me that you love those you date more than yourself?.

I hope you are learning something from me.

earthytaurus76's photo
Wed 08/11/10 09:06 AM
A large penis.. no need for small talk.

msmyka's photo
Wed 08/11/10 09:08 AM


Sadly, in most relationships there is one person who puts in more effort in than the other. Imagine you're seeing someone and you're interested (not head over heals yet), but it appears the other person is (based on their actions and the way they treat you). Wouldn't that cause you to back off? You may see it as the proper way to treat a woman but as I stated previously it needs to be EARNED. The kind of woman who just accepts it with out question is probably interested more in what she's getting than you. In today's society, most of us know you don't get anything with out earning it. I would personally be very reluctant of someone who tried to treat me this way, wondering what he was EXPECTING in return.

earthytaurus76's photo
Wed 08/11/10 09:17 AM
I wonder what Doogie Howser thinks.





Or what Tony or Angela would do.



Gossipmpm's photo
Wed 08/11/10 11:07 AM
What Tammy looks for:

stocky built
huge penis
bald or long hair
around my age
breast man
nice!!!
Alpha-male
sexy as ****!!!

Guess what??

I found him!!!!!

EquusDancer's photo
Wed 08/11/10 11:37 AM

This is my motto:

There's only one person I love more than I love myself: My mother.

That said, I will NEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEVER love a woman more than I love myself.

Perhaps the reason why I can move on so quickly.

But I will always threat them great.


And here are your problems.

Loving your mother and being open about it is great, wonderful and all that. However, depending how vehemently you come across with this, it's going to cause people to walk away. There is such a thing as too much, and if the gal gets the feeling that you won't give her more equal time, then they have no reason to stick around, because they aren't important enough to beat out mother, especially enough to contemplate marriage and kids.

There's a difference between self-love and egotistical love. You might look into the myth of Narcissus. And again, there's no reason why some chick should stick around for that game.

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Wed 08/11/10 12:19 PM

A large penis.. no need for small talk.
A perfect "one night stand" candidate. laugh laugh laugh

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Wed 08/11/10 12:22 PM
Edited by MikeAngel on Wed 08/11/10 12:23 PM

I wonder what Doogie Howser thinks.





Or what Tony or Angela would do.



Well, Doggie is into guys and Tony was too soft to handle a woman like Angela.

I am sure Doogie wouldn't have a hard time telling us what he likes about Angela' son, Jonathan, since they both belong to the same team laugh laugh laugh laugh

Not that there's anything wrong with that.

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Wed 08/11/10 12:25 PM




This is my motto:

There's only one person I love more than I love myself: My mother.

That said, I will NEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEVER love a woman more than I love myself.

Perhaps the reason why I can move on so quickly.

But I will always threat them great.


Ooo, I just noticed this.

I think it should be in your profile. You may save everyone involved a good deal of time and energy.


Loving yourself more than someone you are dating saves yourself pain, headache and heartaches.

What, are you going to tell me that you love those you date more than yourself?.



You can love someone and still make appropriate choices for yourself. Trying to save yourself pain is understandable, but when it prevents you from giving yourself to someone, or letting go, you will never really find love. Allowing yourself to love is a big risk.
I am learning a great deal from you sir. I value your comments.


Then make the check payable to "My Idol". Thank you, thank you very much. LOL.

galaxy418's photo
Wed 08/11/10 12:30 PM
it has always amazed me to find the man that gets treated like crap and yet he stays with the women who is doing it to him...instead of going for the one who would love him...men and women both have those who are the doormats and those who are the abuser...But on that note...there are men and women who just want to hear that they are special, nice looking, needed, and loved...it isnt complicated if you find someone who is not totally into themselves and really want to find love...keep the faith and keep looking...she is out there..and dont worry about treating her like gold...treat her like she is "your" one of a kind...Good luck

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Wed 08/11/10 12:42 PM
Edited by MikeAngel on Wed 08/11/10 12:46 PM


This is my motto:

There's only one person I love more than I love myself: My mother.

That said, I will NEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEVER love a woman more than I love myself.

Perhaps the reason why I can move on so quickly.

But I will always threat them great.


And here are your problems.

Loving your mother and being open about it is great, wonderful and all that. However, depending how vehemently you come across with this, it's going to cause people to walk away. There is such a thing as too much, and if the gal gets the feeling that you won't give her more equal time, then they have no reason to stick around, because they aren't important enough to beat out mother, especially enough to contemplate marriage and kids.

There's a difference between self-love and egotistical love. You might look into the myth of Narcissus. And again, there's no reason why some chick should stick around for that game.
I think most of you are missing my point.

I am not saying that just because you love your mother and/or yourself more than any woman you date or marry that you will not love her.

I know a bunch of people that after they start dating someone or after marrying, they forget about their family members.

Not I.

I also know a bunch of people that allow their SO's to bad-mouth their mothers and/or relatives.

Not I.

Whether my mother lived around the corner or in another country, she will always be number one in my book and I would not allow anybody to disrespect her.

And on the same token, I would never disrespect my SO's mother or/and family members.

My older brother has been married for over 30 years and says the same thing I say and it hasn't stopped him from having a great marriage.

At times people need to put their priorities straight;

Although it's a given that many people push their parents, friends and family members aside when they start dating or marry someone, guess which shoulders they will use when theit relationship go "bye bye"?.

You guessed it, their parent's, friends' and family members'.

And before I get a "that almost never happens", ask any of those 52% of marriages that have ended in divorce.





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Wed 08/11/10 01:21 PM
Enough with the personal insults back and forth. If it continues, warnings will be sent. I am in the process of cleaning up some of the posts. Review forum rules if you are unsure of what's acceptable on the forums.

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Wed 08/11/10 01:25 PM
I dont know what Im looking for, I just know it when I see it. biggrin