Community > 50 and over

Topic: Why is it so hard for a older women
Shasta1 Joined Wed 09/09/09 Posts: 3308	Fri 08/06/10 01:58 AM Edited by Shasta1 on Fri 08/06/10 02:00 AM
Mary and Shasta...is Carold up to no good again? I dunno Betts (whoops almost called you Beets there ), she won't answer me, that usually spells T_R_O_U_U_B_L_E.... oh where oh where has little Car gone? I hate to tell "Is there anything else I need to know about you" not once but twice. I think it was question 29 and 30. We should of went to a movie Sometimes one thinks to themselves, hmmm, was I REALLY that lonely? Have to give it to ya Carold, you're still going out there. I'm giving out excuses, or putting off answering long enough, that hoping it will be forgotten. Usually works. I wonder if I'll ever really be ready to go out again, but those once in a blue moon, 'dark night of the soul' thing happens and am like ok, yea then hook up with some one like you've described and the bell goes off and it's back to the seat in the corner. . Actually, it's not always that bad, I like talking to myself or the dogs, no one ever gives me any greif, ignores what was said, or simply just didn't hear, etc, etc, etc.

Athoss Joined Fri 08/06/10 Posts: 1108	Fri 08/06/10 04:09 AM
love is found by people who love themselves and are happy and show it to the world. Men are attracted to women who they see are strong -threw their baggage away and march on with confidence-a sense of humor-and their feminitity in tact i love you too

mssilverfox Joined Sat 12/08/07 Posts: 10529	Fri 08/06/10 06:13 AM
love is found by people who love themselves and are happy and show it to the world. Men are attracted to women who they see are strong -threw their baggage away and march on with confidence-a sense of humor-and their feminitity in tact i love you too Welcome to the "50 and over" forum Athoss.. come on back so we can get to know you...

tribefan73 Joined Sat 05/09/09 Posts: 1323	Sun 08/08/10 08:15 PM
I don't know if age has all that much to do with finding love. I think perhaps the older we get the more we know what we want and aren't really willing to settle for anything less. At least thats the way is for me. Agreed. We all have our preferences, but, we need to be flexible & realistic. Do the pluses out weigh the minus'? I do disagree that MOST older men are looking to recapture their lost youth, by dating some much younger honey. It's definitely not the case for this guy. I want that common point of reference as 1 pointed out. I do agree with another poster that there are times when there seems to be a lot venom thrown about. Enough of dwelling in the past. It's done & gone. Move on. If you can not do that, then stop trying to find someone who's willing to listen, b/c most are not. I believe that b/c my mother was unable to let go of her past, it lead to her untimely death at 54.

kidztales Joined Sat 06/19/10 Posts: 1515	Thu 08/12/10 02:27 PM
What I see happening to both men and women, is that they don't look after themselves physically and that is akin to aging, because you are not fit enough to enjoy life, have no energy, and look gruesome naked. So who wants a fat, gruesome mate with no energy, and health issues? I'm 58 and still play hockey. I notice women young enough to be my daughter, even grand daughter checking me out, because I have a fit body. So many people give up early on themselves and forget that people run marathons in their 80's. So why can't people in their 50's be fit? If you chose to turn into a couch potato and no one wants you, who's to blame. You control your destiny. If you steer your ship into a reef don't blame anyone but yourself. If you're not appealing its your doing, stop griping and look after yourself. have some compassion for what people go through in life..or you'll be next.... I agree. Some there are different situations for everybody. Not everyone can play hockey & stuff like that!

venusenvy Joined Sat 07/31/10 Posts: 2984	Thu 08/12/10 03:18 PM
Choice...I look at my life like a delicious, many layered, sweet, cake...If I meet my forever man, that would be the icing. In the meantime, Im sure going to enjoy my cake!

pmarco41 Joined Wed 04/30/08 Posts: 2163	Thu 08/12/10 03:39 PM
What I see happening to both men and women, is that they don't look after themselves physically and that is akin to aging, because you are not fit enough to enjoy life, have no energy, and look gruesome naked. So who wants a fat, gruesome mate with no energy, and health issues? I'm 58 and still play hockey. I notice women young enough to be my daughter, even grand daughter checking me out, because I have a fit body. So many people give up early on themselves and forget that people run marathons in their 80's. So why can't people in their 50's be fit? If you chose to turn into a couch potato and no one wants you, who's to blame. You control your destiny. If you steer your ship into a reef don't blame anyone but yourself. If you're not appealing its your doing, stop griping and look after yourself. i dont beleive a word you say about yourself...post a picture then start making claims about how good and fit you look..

ladybug17 Joined Sat 07/31/10 Posts: 12	Sun 08/15/10 07:26 AM
im wondering myself lol

Linny1 Joined Sat 10/10/09 Posts: 1381	Sun 08/15/10 08:03 AM
also, let us not forget that in this youth obsessed culture, male partners of a reasonable age are looking for younger models...additionally, now a days older females are labled as MILFS or Cougars...its hard to find "love" when everyone has you pegged as a horney ol lady looking to get laid... I DO understand that reasoning!

Linny1 Joined Sat 10/10/09 Posts: 1381	Sun 08/15/10 08:04 AM
AW sweet Athos

kidztales Joined Sat 06/19/10 Posts: 1515	Fri 08/20/10 03:22 PM
It's only hard for the old, sour, bitter women ... for the ones with a sense of humor and a 'let's be real' attitude, it's not a problem ... seemsayin' ... ? That's not quite true!

acuddler Joined Fri 10/30/09 Posts: 55	Mon 08/23/10 08:02 PM
If you get to Salem, Oregon, look me up.

countryjo Joined Tue 01/12/10 Posts: 10	Thu 08/26/10 07:39 PM
mirror mirro on the wall wjo is the fairiest of them all?

minxone Joined Sun 07/11/10 Posts: 32	Sun 08/29/10 08:11 PM
Hmmmm...it is hard to find the "one". Sometimes I feel I'll never find him. He sure won't appear if I don't get out there though. Haven't had any problem meeting men of all (young ones...wow!)ages. I enjoy myself when out and men are attracted to that. Smile, laugh, have fun...where ever you are!!!! You never know who is watching.

CeriseRose Joined Mon 08/02/10 Posts: 6220	Wed 09/01/10 01:00 PM
to find LOVE? Love is inside you... a wise man will see it.

countryjo Joined Tue 01/12/10 Posts: 10	Wed 09/08/10 06:01 PM
Because the older men want the the younger version of the older woman and after to money and viagra stop working they wanna come back to the more settle and mature woman.

countryjo Joined Tue 01/12/10 Posts: 10	Wed 09/08/10 06:03 PM
Hey V, Sugga Sugga any luck here?

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Wed 09/08/10 06:03 PM
Because the older men want the the younger version of the older woman and after to money and viagra stop working they wanna come back to the more settle and mature woman. Another generalized opinion. doesn't mean it is right.

countryjo Joined Tue 01/12/10 Posts: 10	Wed 09/08/10 06:05 PM
Hmmmm...it is hard to find the "one". Sometimes I feel I'll never find him. He sure won't appear if I don't get out there though. Haven't had any problem meeting men of all (young ones...wow!)ages. I enjoy myself when out and men are attracted to that. Smile, laugh, have fun...where ever you are!!!! You never know who is watching. Hey Christmas how you doing any luck? sugga sugga

Thorb Joined Mon 06/28/10 Posts: 505	Thu 09/09/10 06:41 PM
JMHO ... you will never find love. so stop looking for it nobody can find love ... that is why the ancients devised Cupid. Love must find you. So you must make yourself available love what you are and what is in your world and one day you will find that love has found you.