I have noticed that i am alone because i have morals and values that other ppl have lost over the years. For example, i dont drink, or smoke pot, or do drugs of any kind, and i expect that of anyone i bring into my life (and my daughters life as well). Is anyone else facing this issue?

I know what you mean. Having a clean body, mind, and life are normal things to want and strive for.

well, its not very american to expect or want people to share values because we are all FREE and should be FREE to value what we want to or not,,,,,lol


yeah, I am facing a decline in the values I happened to be raised with and I am sure they will be even less prevalant as my daughter grows up as well

You should hang out with people who are like you. Who wants to hang out with a drunk smoker if you are into health food and exercise and clean living?

Thats a no brainer.

But "values" are a different thing. I think it is "standards" you are talking about.

Values are more like doing what is ethical, and kind v.s. killing and robbing and being cruel, or stealing things.

I could be wrong. Anybody know the difference?

I value fun & good times!

Absolutely. I've lost way too many people to drugs and alcohol over the years, and I refuse to get involved with anyone who uses them. But just try to find a non-drinker on a dating site....you're better off looking for a blue stegosaurus with a condo in Atlanta.

Maybe it is standards.. but there is no one around me that shares the same views on life.. be it standards or values.. its kinda frustrating.

I wouldn't call smoking and drinking as not having morals, a vice/ bad habit maybe. I gave up smoking 2 1/2 yrs ago. and I drink but not every day. more of a social drinker I guess.
Welcome to Mingle good luck and have fun

ha ha ha ha.. thats funny.. and sadly so very true..

yea i agree.. i wonder.. i think i was born the wrong place or time!

And if people "value" destroying their own brain function, well, that's their problem. I certainly don't want any part of it.

ME EITHER... shew.. i have often said that i would end up raising my daughter alone before lowering my standards.. and most ppl tell me that i want the impossible, and i am gonna end up old and alone.. but i will have at least taught my daughter to stand up for what she beleives..

having a smoke or a drink dosnt make you a bad parent. My Ex's parents didnt smoke drink or swear. And they taught there kids right from wrong, but my Ex still lost her morals

omg,,we are so on the same page with this one,,,,,I would accept single motherhood FOREVER to avoid lowering the standards and values I wish to raise my daughter with

I am not saying it makes you a bad parent, all i am saying is i dont want it around ME or daughter. There are enough bad things out there, without adding in things that dont have to be there.. and honestly i have never had to get high or drunk to have a good time, and i want to teach my daughter that as well.. its goin to be coming at her from every side when she gets older, and it would be nice if she had a place to go to where drugs and alcohol were not even an issue.. and that will be my house.

Thank you for that..

don't get me wrong I think what you want for your Daughter is great and maybe the world would be a hell of a lot better if we had more ppl like your self.
I do wish you the very best, but you can only do so much, after that all you can do is hope what you taught them sticks.

It is not fun. I deal with it everywere I go, including Church and Family. My Sister has been wanting me to drink at least one beer. A friend of mine said he wished he was in my shoes, and I could not figure that one out.

I feel sorry for people who don't drink.... boringggggggggggg