I love my folks but mom has been in a mood. They're trying to get dads pension rolled around but the company is giving them crap about their marriage license. In the meantime, they're discussing taking a vacation up to Michigan in August or September and mom has been wandering around discussing what we would do if they were killed.

Just a tad morbid for me right now, though I agree fully that it would be good to know the whole financial situation. I know my brother and I would hold the place nd property. We'd be fools to do anything else. Can't beat $500 a month. She's rehashing the funeral plans and all that and its really odd going over it again.

What's gets parents in that mood?

That's a mood?

...No wonder people always think I'm crazy.

I don't know Kendra..I never go there. I just tell my kids burn me as cheap as possible and sprinkle my ashes in the woods..

Maybe she is just facing her mortality more these days. I guess we do that more as we get older..
It is good that she wants to have things in order as to not leave a huge burden on her children. I guess try to look at it that way.

It seems to be a thing with people formt he depression era. My aprents are pretty morbid and most of my friends' parents are as well. I can remember hearing my parents talking about how, "You will miss me when I'm gong" and "I might not be here next week" and things like that all my life. Pretty weird if you ask me, but it seems to be what they do!

My mom use to throw all her death plans at me when I would visit her,,I had to tell her she was fine and to PLEASE STOP,,talking about your death to me ,,as I hope that times never cmes,,so ,,please talk to me about YOU LIVNG,,,wink,and SHE DID,,,lol

With MY mother,,it was her LAST sibling passing away,,THAT done it,,had her thinking about her time leaving,,,SHES fine now,,so its all good,,,I wish YOU luck with finding out how to curve your moms fears,,

It is reality people like to know that their kids would be okay if something was to happen to them..........Therefore they are concerned that they do not leave a burden behind in the case it happens.........just go along with them and give them a little encouragement that all will be well and for them to go enjoy some time away........ and not worry about all that stuff for they have taken care of everything.........just tell them ya love them before they go. Who knows maybe it is for peace of mind I say just let them have that moment.....if it makes them feel better in the end...

What gets parents 'in that mood' is reality. They've seen their friends and acquaintances die without having planned properly and want to avoid it for their children when they (as we all will) die. My Mom and I had talks for years about what would happen and what she wanted to happen after she died. No morbidity involved, just an acceptance of the reality that none of us get out of this game alive. I'm glad we had those talks - the insight gained was helpful when the time came to put it all into effect ...

Remember: We're not promised the next five minutes. let alone the next five years ...

I've made plans and paid for my funeral (cremation) and everytime I bring up something about it to my son and his wife they think I'm dying of something and haven't told them. well, I am dying......very sloooowwwwlly...

I have to admit, this is something that scares the hell out of me... how do you talk to a 6 year old about what should happen if I die? There's not really anybody else that I have close enough contact to, so basically I just have a will that hopefully somebody finds should something happen. One of the dangers of being alone...

its just a fact of life,, death, and sometimes people want to do for their kids even after this life is done,,, so they plan...I dont think its a mood so much as aknowledging the inevitable

My folks have planned well, and we've got the basics down. Brother is the executor, and it's strictly split between the two of us. No one else involved. Heck, Todd and I have jokingly split everything up already, and we're all on the same page as to who gets what. I do agree with the necessity on knowing what all the life insurance plans, and other financial aspects are. We know what they want as far as cremation and no gathering for it. They're not denying death, and being atheists, dead is dead.

It was just totally off the wall. Fortunately, I teased her right back out of that mood.

EVERY time my parents go on a vacation they go thru where all the important papers are, how they want their remains taken care of, ect. It is morbid but we do need to know. I work in healthcare and see people scrambling for what to do even on elderly people after they die. I am glad so much of the stress of planning is already taken care of. We know their wishes. I will be thankful to be able to just grieve when that time comes.

As horrible a thought as it all is- I strongly suggest everyone know they family's wishes. Life is unpredicitable

Knowing what we went thru when mom passed away, I have taken care of everything and put it in writing.. thats important..IN WRITING!!! makes everything easier. I don't talk about dying all the time, but my kids know where my important papers are and who is to get what... You can have your kids (or whoever you want) names put on you banking accounts too and it will not go thru probate...don't let the govt take evrything...

I told my kids, to have me cremated, and press my ashes into a HARD Puck .. and go take out their frustrations using me in a hockey game .. hahahahahahah

seriously tho ... my 83 year old mother does it about once a year too...

LOL! Dad just wants us to toss him in the compost pile and then he can go feed the roses. We told him we thought it might ruin the roses.

Then he decided he wanted to be dipped in honey and left in the mountains for a bear to eat him. With our luck the bear would find him amusing and not do it.

LOL!

I see it as a clear and conscious planning. Nobody is invincible. I have discussed with my mom many times to cremate me, so did she telling us (my brothers and I) what to do.

Yeah it is something that should be discussed and redicussed if needed. I wish we had more time to discuss it with our mom before she passed. My brother,sister in law and I were scrambling to take care of things when it happened. I do regret not having the time to take care of the stats on her home ,we ended up selling it hastily.