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Why do "they" have to be the one with something to 'chat' about. You can't come up with anything? It seems unfair. Apparently you have nothing to talk about either, and so it comes to a stalemate.
Exactly. A perfect response would be.. "Ha! I know what ya mean sometimes I get a little tongue tied when trying to talk to people...." and go from there, rather than being put off by their honest admission to struggling with what to say, give 'em break. I don't get when someone emails me, then tells me they are not sure what to say. Why email someone if you're not sure what to say? It doesn't make sense. If I had nothing to say to someone, I wouldn't be emailing them in the first place. Then again, I expect people to read profiles. If they did that, they'd have a much better idea of how to start conversations. Well, some guys are shy hon. It sounds to me like he already said he thinks your cute. Sometimes we just need a little push to get the ball rolling. He may be a safer bet than some well seasoned, smooth takin, club dwellin, city feller 
I agree, plus you are articulate and with the shyness makes it harder for them. Beleive it or not, in my teens and twenties I was more shy than not, so can understand this. Give them the benefit of the doubt if you like what you read from their profile.. 
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I don't get when someone emails and then unburdens themselves on me...I mean, there are therapists that get paid for that stuff!  ...Okay, what was the question?
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I don't think it's unfair to expect more from people. However, I do respond to those emails that just say hi. If they're unable to come up with more to chat about in the next couple emails, I wish them luck in their search and move on. Why do "they" have to be the one with something to 'chat' about. You can't come up with anything? It seems unfair. Apparently you have nothing to talk about either, and so it comes to a stalemate. 
If I'm the one contacting someone else for the first time, I attempt to start a conversation. I don't email people I have nothing to say about. I also don't demand they ask me questions or expect them to start a conversation for me. So, I have the same expectations for those who contact me. |
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I don't get when someone emails me, then tells me they are not sure what to say. Why email someone if you're not sure what to say? It doesn't make sense. If I had nothing to say to someone, I wouldn't be emailing them in the first place. Then again, I expect people to read profiles. If they did that, they'd have a much better idea of how to start conversations. Well, some guys are shy hon. It sounds to me like he already said he thinks your cute. Sometimes we just need a little push to get the ball rolling. He may be a safer bet than some well seasoned, smooth takin, club dwellin, city feller
I agree, plus you are articulate and with the shyness makes it harder for them. Beleive it or not, in my teens and twenties I was more shy than not, so can understand this. Give them the benefit of the doubt if you like what you read from their profile.. If they have anything in their profile, that's cool. However, most don't. Guess I'm just not into the guys who are shy online. As I said before, if they're that shy online, I'd hate to see how shy they are in person. |
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Hey, at least he's being honest.
How many women post on here looking for an honest man? And when they find him they reject him because he has nothing to say> |
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Edited by
Tribbles
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Sun 06/13/10 04:36 PM
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I don't think it's unfair to expect more from people. However, I do respond to those emails that just say hi. If they're unable to come up with more to chat about in the next couple emails, I wish them luck in their search and move on. Why do "they" have to be the one with something to 'chat' about. You can't come up with anything? It seems unfair. Apparently you have nothing to talk about either, and so it comes to a stalemate.
If I'm the one contacting someone else for the first time, I attempt to start a conversation. I don't email people I have nothing to say about. I also don't demand they ask me questions or expect them to start a conversation for me. So, I have the same expectations for those who contact me. Unfortunately today my mind can not grasp this double entendre. So , what you're saying is that if you e-mail someone you have plenty to talk about, but in return if someone e-mails you, you have nothing to talk about? Hmmmmmmm...?  Like what has been said, give people a chance. It seems you clam up for some unknown reason if the conversation is going no where. I'm starting to wonder if there is some underlying issue at hand other than the unability to open up after a couple of e-mails.
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I don't think it's unfair to expect more from people. However, I do respond to those emails that just say hi. If they're unable to come up with more to chat about in the next couple emails, I wish them luck in their search and move on. Why do "they" have to be the one with something to 'chat' about. You can't come up with anything? It seems unfair. Apparently you have nothing to talk about either, and so it comes to a stalemate.
If I'm the one contacting someone else for the first time, I attempt to start a conversation. I don't email people I have nothing to say about. I also don't demand they ask me questions or expect them to start a conversation for me. So, I have the same expectations for those who contact me. Unfortunately today my mind can not grasp this double entendre. So , what you're saying is that if you e-mail someone you have plenty to talk about, but in return if someone e-mails you, you have nothing to talk about? Hmmmmmmm...? Like what has been said, give people a chance. It seems you clam up for some unknown reason if the conversation is going no where. I'm starting to wonder if there is some underlying issue at hand other than the unability to open up after a couple of e-mails.
I think you're reading way too much into things  .
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Hey, at least he's being honest. How many women post on here looking for an honest man? And when they find him they reject him because he has nothing to say> So, we're supposed to go for men solely for being honest? It shouldn't matter if they've got anything to say or not? |
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LOL..I am familiar with the op's original statement. I get those type of emails occasionally, and probably send a few. I think they are just to get your attention, kinda like a nudge, only more personal. I for one appreciate that they at least were interested enough to type "I don't know what to say" than simply click "nudge." At least they showed that they could type and use the english language, and were willing to invest a moment in seeking you out.
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I don't get when someone emails me, then tells me they are not sure what to say. Why email someone if you're not sure what to say? It doesn't make sense. If I had nothing to say to someone, I wouldn't be emailing them in the first place. Then again, I expect people to read profiles. If they did that, they'd have a much better idea of how to start conversations. I see it as a sign of lack of interests. It reminds me back in college, when I was given the task for a written exam, which had to be a certain amount of words and paragraphs, so I just filled it in with sentences that really said nothing and were pointless with no meaning. |
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I don't get when someone emails me, then tells me they are not sure what to say. Why email someone if you're not sure what to say? It doesn't make sense. If I had nothing to say to someone, I wouldn't be emailing them in the first place. Then again, I expect people to read profiles. If they did that, they'd have a much better idea of how to start conversations. I see it as a sign of lack of interests. It reminds me back in college, when I was given the task for a written exam, which had to be a certain amount of words and paragraphs, so I just filled it in with sentences that really said nothing and were pointless with no meaning. 
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I see it as a sign of lack of interests. It reminds me back in college, when I was given the task for a written exam, which had to be a certain amount of words and paragraphs, so I just filled it in with sentences that really said nothing and were pointless with no meaning. My view on this is someone with the intelligence to comprehend ulterior motives, has involved some kind of defense mechanism in their favor. Why waste your (and others time) if all you're doing is treating this like a sort of job or assignment...? Lack of 'real life' social acceptance? Why would you try so hard as to resort to such tactics? Just remember... you can't bull$h!t a bull$h!ter. |
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Even worse are the people who email you this kind of pre made form letter that looks like they jsut copy and paste to evey woman on her to see who answers. They are usually full of fluff about how the guy loves romance and you are the the perfect woman for him. Um...yeah, and he woud know this from reading my profile????
I finad a simple "Hello, how are you this evening?" to be a good opener. When I answer an email, I usually try to ask one or two questions about the person to keep the conversation rolling and find it helps if the man does the same in return. |
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I don't get when someone emails me, then tells me they are not sure what to say. Why email someone if you're not sure what to say? It doesn't make sense. If I had nothing to say to someone, I wouldn't be emailing them in the first place. Then again, I expect people to read profiles. If they did that, they'd have a much better idea of how to start conversations. Maybe he has a bunch of different things running through his head and isn't sure what he wants to use in his attempt to get your attention. And even if he does read your profile, nerves may keep him from having a great " conversation starter ". |
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I don't get when someone emails me, then tells me they are not sure what to say. Why email someone if you're not sure what to say? It doesn't make sense. If I had nothing to say to someone, I wouldn't be emailing them in the first place. Then again, I expect people to read profiles. If they did that, they'd have a much better idea of how to start conversations. Maybe he has a bunch of different things running through his head and isn't sure what he wants to use in his attempt to get your attention. And even if he does read your profile, nerves may keep him from having a great " conversation starter ". Then within the next few emails, some of those things running through his head would come out. With these kind of guys.. not so much. |
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Even worse are the people who email you this kind of pre made form letter that looks like they jsut copy and paste to evey woman on her to see who answers. They are usually full of fluff about how the guy loves romance and you are the the perfect woman for him. Um...yeah, and he woud know this from reading my profile???? I finad a simple "Hello, how are you this evening?" to be a good opener. When I answer an email, I usually try to ask one or two questions about the person to keep the conversation rolling and find it helps if the man does the same in return. hah. The form letters are pretty easy to spot. |
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